Gus protected his sister,,,,,
 

Do any of you have a goodie tooshoes for a daughter? My youngest Val is such a worry wart. The honest one by far in our family. She is one of those who will stress about her grades. God forbid if she ever got any grade lower then a B. She is very quiet and sweet. A neat freak big time. I don't know where she gets that from? Well she's been having a problem with a brat from her school. This girl lives on the next street over and even bullies her here at home. It's been to where she doesn't even to go outside and play. When I ask her if there was something wrong, she says no, that it is just too hot to play. I know my daughter and knew she was hiding something. I over heard her crying to my older daughter about this bully last night. I felt so bad. She didn't want to tell me because she knew I would talk to her parents and she didn't want to give the girl something to bully her even more. So my older daughter told her that she needs to stand up for herself and not let her bully or boss her around.

I'm making dinner today when I hear Gus going crazy!!! He was running from door to door barking. There was something different about his bark so I open the door and Gus takes off running. I can't run all that fast because of my ankel, but when I got to the end of the garage,,, I see my daughter and this bully going at it on the side walk 2 houses down and my son and his friends are trying to break them apart. This little quiet, sweet girl turned into Tyson. Gus was defending his sister. I had to get him out of the way so he wouldn't get hurt or hurt the brat. I was so proud of both my babies,,, Val for finally standding up for herself and Gus for protecting his sister. She thought she was going to be in a lot of trouble but I told her,,,,,, I really don't condone fighting,,,,, but if any of my kids have to defend themselves as a last resort,,, by all means do so. As for the bully, I had to take her home and tell her parent what had happened. Looks like she will be grounded for a while. And my Val,,,,, she has a small scatch on her left cheek but feels good about standing up for herself. I kept her in for the rest of the day as punishment,,,, had to play the part that I wasnt happy that she kicked this bully ass!!!

GO Val! I do not condone fighting as well, but a kid can only take so much! Maybe now the bully will realize that Val is too much to handle and will leave her alone! That's usually all it takes! How old is she?
And Go Gus!! He wanted to protect his sister! LOL :thumbup:

Brooke

Monica ~ I'm so sad to hear that your precious little girl had to resort to fighting, which it seems is not in her nature, because some bully forced her into that situation. Unfortunately that's the way of the world in many cases today. I too would be extremely proud of her for standing up for herself and also proud of little Gus Gus. Amazing how brave our little ones can be. I tell my daughter that if it ever came to her having to stand up for herself in such a manner that she would never get into trouble for doing so. She never has been in a fight but I want her to be prepared if the time ever comes where someone is out to hurt her. As parents we want so much to protect our children but there are those out there that make that job very difficult and we can't always be with them. Hopefully this will be the end of the problem with this girl. I wouldn't hesitate to go to her parents in the future now that they are aware that there is a problem with their child. Give Val a big hug, and Gus also, for being so brave. :thumbup:

i sooo hate bullies to me that is bad parenting :thumbdown i always teach my girls that you treat people the way you would like to be treated, to be thier own person and not to follow others, and i always make sure that they know that no matter how pretty you are if your mean and have a bad attitude it makes you look ugly. i'm glad that your little girl stood up for herself.

Thank you,,, Val just turned 9 and is very little for her age. Here is some pictures of my 2 brave babies

They are so BEAUTIFUL!! You must be so proud!! Val is a gorgeous girl...who could hurt that sweet little face?? She's precious! Gus is a cutie too :p

You tell Val I said I'm proud of her for sticking up for herself. Tell her I don't condone fighting too, but sometime it's the only way to let people know to leave you alone. I don't think she'll be having any more trouble for a while. Who knows she may have just made a friend and not even know it yet. Good for Gus too.

My son was picked on for years. He had curly hair and not the demeaner to defend himself when he was young. I did what I could when he was little but as he got older he didn't want me to interfer and "make it worse". In HS he had had enough and finally stood up for himself. It stopped.

The odd part I found was when I was in school the teachers intervened when someone bullied...they looked into the sorce of what was going on. Today the policies I have seen (OH and VA) was both the perpetrator and the victim are punished equally. So it never costs the Perpetrator more than the Victim. The Victims tend to keep quiet not to "make it worse" and the Perpetrator continues.


Good for your daughter for sticking up for herself. In my experience it would have just keep going. And what a brave little Gus for taking it into his little paws.

I don't like violence but in the adult world there are police and you have avenue for getting help. I think this is getting epidemic.


NOte: no one bothers my son today but he shaved his beautiful hair because (I believe) that is what he got the most bullying over:

This is one of my biggest fears with my son who will be starting 1st grade. He is so sweet and I'm so overprotective of him. I've already had altercations with some woman who slammed a door in his face. She got my gum spit at her. With his Kindergarten bus driver who yelled at him 2 inches from his face on the top of is lungs.. I called him a f@#$%ng moron and told him if he yelled at my son again I'd have to kill him! My dh thinks since we moved out of NYC I need to go to anger management! :eek: I'm not at all violent or confrontational but if you mess with my family it's over.

I don't want him to get bullied so what I did was sign him up for karate. They teach discipline, confidence and to only use your hands in an emergency. I'm glad he loves it and he actually just got promoted to a new belt last Saturday. I just feel I can't be with him all the time and he needs the tools to be able to defend himself if the need arises. I'm also learning it since I practice with him. This way if I need to open up a can of whoop a@# on anyone I'm prepared.

I'm sorry this happened to your beautiful daughter but hopefully that bully will leave her alone now. Good for Gus too!

Here's a picture of my son Vincent doing his "karate face"! :cool:

That's your son? He's pretty cute!

Yep that is my son.

He is a sweetie really. sillyjacki's brother.

He was/is a sweet guy but was hurt so many times that he protects himself with a "mask" of toughness.

I think things like karate are great. I wish I lived where I could have enrolled my son. It's tough to protect them sometimes. :(

Haha, yeah, that's my brother. And even though I shouldn't say it, he is very cute.

He's a proud daddy and a hard worker. Too bad for him, all the girls that seem to be available in this area are flaming idiots. :mad:

But he always has protected me.

Well those stupid girls don't know what they're missing! I'm hoping my son will always protect his little sister but why do I get the feeling it's going to be the other way around? :rolleyes:

I got bullied in school, too.. I was built a lot like your daughter: skinny, pretty, smart and successful in general. (I don't mean for that to sound like I'm bragging but I know it does!)

People who teased me were just jealous. I'm sure that's a similar case. And while knowing that doesn't make the bullying stop, it does make you feel better knowing that the bully is probably having a ton of problems on her own.

I hate how schools handle fights these days. In the real word, if someone attacks you, are you supposed to just stand there??? I don't think so!

GO VAL, GO GUS!! I HATE bullies! I'm so glad Val defended herself!! :thumbup: :thumbup: :D

It is a good thing that gus alerted you to what was going on outside.

My 6yr old is starting kindergarden next week and he is very small for his age and I know he is going to get bullied. He is naturally a lover--not a fighter. I will do what I can but I can't always be there to protect him. He has to learn to do that himself.

GOOD for Gus !! What a little protector - that's awesome he knew and was letting you know - I don't condone fighting but sometimes and especially at her age - you just NEED to show people you can take care of yourself - she must have had a good reason to fight and I bet you're secretly proud of her for taking on that Bully - They are the ones who NEED a good butt kicking - that bully must have really antagonised her ....Good for her and don't be too tough mom - it's part of growing up and I think she may have earned herself a new nickname - Are you calling her Rocky now ?

wow sounds like me. i'm always standing up for my brother and he's 14. :eek: he was picked on a lot from 4-8th grade. i dont know why he was like the most popular kid in 3rd - 1st. i'm sure one day he'll stand up for himself. :rolleyes:
i'm sorry this happened to your daughter! what a mean person that bully must have been!! i'm sure gus gus scared her off with his ferocious (s?) teeth. :p

He's ADORABLE and he may not have too many problems - there's lots of smaller than average kids in school....try not to worry too much - He's a doll though !

You're not bragging, you're stating the facts. I do worry about my daughter a little bit too because I know she is very petite and pretty. Okay I'm bragging but I'm very proud of her. But you know that bullies like to pick on someone like her. The only thing she has going for her is her mouth. I see her with the neighborhood kids and she doesn't take anything from anyone. BUT my son is soooo different! He's not a fighter at all unless it's his sister, and he has no problem smacking her!

You have to worry so much these days when you're raising kids. It's really pretty sad. :(

I have to say for me Kindergarten wasn't bad. They're still young and I'm happy to say we didn't have any problems. I'm worried now about 1st grade since he'll be with older kids and going to the cafeteria, etc.

Your son is a cutie! Have you ever considered karate? It's the best thing we've done for him and us.

My daughter is VERY small. She's going to be 5 in September and can still wear size 3T! :confused:

Funny you mentioned that b/c my husband was just saying the he wanted to enroll our son, Keagan (6yrs old) and himself into karate,. I thought that sounded like a good idea too.
He already has issues with kids picking on him in camp b/c he has speech delays and allergies to food (he stands out)...asthma...you name it.
He is very sensitive and is still learning to not cry about everything. Instead i'm trying to teach him to work though his problems.

Keagan is like your daughter..he can fit into a 3T too and he is 6yrs old. poor babies**hugs**

I see you like hockey too..what do you think about the season coming up! We (lightning) won the Stanley Cup before the whole strike. My hubby cant wait to go to some games.

Thank you all. Yes I do have a very good looking babies. VERY proud mama here.

FireFish; Wow,,, if I wernt already married,,,,,, Fit and tatoo's too!!! I'm sure your son has no problems now.

Brutus mama; Your son is so cute. My Val and Timmy are also in Karate. Timmy has no problems defending himself. He has gotten into 2 fights. Onece for defending his frined who is a girl (refuse to use the word girlfriend!) and the other time he was play basketball and some guy tried to get a little too rough. But my Val is just not like that. And I know she is very strong for her tiny size, but she just don't like fighting unless it's with her brother and sister. And don't feel bad, my Val still fits into some 5T clothing and she's nine. Like shorts and skirts.

Sillyjacki; You still are skinny, pretty, smart and hopefully successful

I don't know how the handle problem kids where you guys live, but here the only time they take action is if the kid gets into trouble. They will fine the partents for fighting. Doesnt matter who started it. But they don't do anything till it comes to that. And the poor kids who are bullied don't want to say anything for fear that it will make things worse.

tbradley; Your son is adorable! My Val was and still is the smallest in the class. She never had any problems till now. I'm sure he'll do just fine.

Oh my husband is so excited! He's a die hard Ranger fan and used to have season tickets. He also coached high school hockey for 20 years until we had kids. :)

Thanks! I love your kids in their karate uniforms! I can't believe they fine the PARENTS! That is just crazy to me especially if your kid didn't start the fight! :mad:

Tell me about it. We had to pay a 25 dollar fine for Timmy when he got into the fight defending his friend. He didn't start it but they didn't care. The bad thing is, it goes on thier record so even if you tell your kids to defend themselves if they have to, they will still have a bad mark against them. It's really not fair!

I used to have problems with kids bullying my older son. I couldnt figure out why though cause he was bigger than most kids, taller and solid. But he was and still is a huge sweet heart. I wouldn't hurt a fly. I always told him that I didnt want him fighting but I wouldn't be mad if he stood up for himself even if it did result in a fight.

then my younger son started school. He has always been small for his age but man is he a firecracker. He has a temper on him. Holy cow look out. I think he gets that from me. Anyway, it was recess and all the grades were outside and the younger son, Troy saw that his brother, Austin was getting picked on so he stood up for Austin. Kicked the boys butt. ANd the boy was about 3 times Troys size. He got in trouble and so did the other boy. I thought that that was the end of it until one day I hear my doorbell ring and here is the kids mom standing at my door.

She was about 5'10" and pretty solid. Im 5'2" on a lucky day with shoes and about 100 pounds depending on what I ate that day. SHe wanted to "straighten" out what happened between our kids. I tried having a rational conversation with her but it wouldn't work. She wanted to brawl. I threw her off my property and told her she better keep a leash on her kid cause I wasn't going to put up with him picking on my kids.

Some parents just dont get it.

Im glad that your daughter stood up for herself. I really wish that Austin would. But I guess he figures why should he when his little brother will take care of the dirty work.

Here is a pic of each of my boys. Austin is the light blond haired one, he is almost 12 and Troy is the other one that has guilty written all over his face. Guilty for what? I dont know but im sure he did something.