Originally Posted by ReconsMomma

I used to have problems with kids bullying my older son. I couldnt figure out why though cause he was bigger than most kids, taller and solid. But he was and still is a huge sweet heart. I wouldn't hurt a fly. I always told him that I didnt want him fighting but I wouldn't be mad if he stood up for himself even if it did result in a fight.

then my younger son started school. He has always been small for his age but man is he a firecracker. He has a temper on him. Holy cow look out. I think he gets that from me. Anyway, it was recess and all the grades were outside and the younger son, Troy saw that his brother, Austin was getting picked on so he stood up for Austin. Kicked the boys butt. ANd the boy was about 3 times Troys size. He got in trouble and so did the other boy. I thought that that was the end of it until one day I hear my doorbell ring and here is the kids mom standing at my door.

She was about 5'10" and pretty solid. Im 5'2" on a lucky day with shoes and about 100 pounds depending on what I ate that day. SHe wanted to "straighten" out what happened between our kids. I tried having a rational conversation with her but it wouldn't work. She wanted to brawl. I threw her off my property and told her she better keep a leash on her kid cause I wasn't going to put up with him picking on my kids.

Some parents just dont get it.

Im glad that your daughter stood up for herself. I really wish that Austin would. But I guess he figures why should he when his little brother will take care of the dirty work.

Here is a pic of each of my boys. Austin is the light blond haired one, he is almost 12 and Troy is the other one that has guilty written all over his face. Guilty for what? I dont know but im sure he did something.

Originally Posted by red98vett

GOOD for Gus !! What a little protector - that's awesome he knew and was letting you know - I don't condone fighting but sometimes and especially at her age - you just NEED to show people you can take care of yourself - she must have had a good reason to fight and I bet you're secretly proud of her for taking on that Bully - They are the ones who NEED a good butt kicking - that bully must have really antagonised her ....Good for her and don't be too tough mom - it's part of growing up and I think she may have earned herself a new nickname - Are you calling her Rocky now ?

Originally Posted by Latuya

I am very tough with my kids. but yet, I'm what you call a cool mom as well. All I ask of my kids is to do well in school and be smart and dont get dont get into trouble and most of all DO NOT lie to me. They don't have to tell me everything,,,,, there are just somethings a parents is not supposed to know and I understand this.

Originally Posted by eshuser

It must be that age..my dughter was having problems too at school, but before they came to blows the other girl moved away. My husband decided to put her in a Karate class. He swore it was just to make her realize that it was ok to defend yourself. (She quit..."it just isn't right to hurt people") She still won't stick up for herself and I don't know what to do for her. She says she feels sorry for people like that, and fighting with them only makes them feel worse. I know she's right, but she needs to learn to do something about it.

I'm glad your daughter stuck up for herself. That always seems to boost their self confidence.

Originally Posted by Latuya

I am very tough with my kids. but yet, I'm what you call a cool mom as well. All I ask of my kids is to do well in school and be smart and dont get dont get into trouble and most of all DO NOT lie to me. They don't have to tell me everything,,,,, there are just somethings a parents is not supposed to know and I understand this. I have a very close relationship with my girls. My oldest tells me everything. My son goes to my husband more but thats ok. My kids know what they can and can't get away with. I will do anything for them and they know they have my trust. But if they do anything to break that trust, my punishment is harsh but they know it' for thier own good. my son was slacking in school this year. I had 4 out of 6 teachers call me to discuss his behavior in class. He was Mr. social and wanted to talk to the girls and not do what he was suppposed to do. Just being a clown and his grades started to drop. So we grounded him for a month. Some may say that is harsh but for all we do for them,,, they know better. They have all kinds of cool things that can be taken away just as fast or even faster then they got them.

Originally Posted by sillyjacki

My mom was very similar. I still tell her everything, and my brother and I both know what is expected. I think it's definitely been for the better with me. I mean, I know girls who, in high school, wouldn't tell their moms about needing birth control! To me, that's just taking an unnecessary gamble...

Originally Posted by Latuya

Bless her little heart. Val is the same way,,, but I guess she reached that level where enough is enough. How old is she?

Originally Posted by eshuser

She's nine. She grew up way to early for me. She had cancer when she was 3 and ever since she's got quite the philosophy of life. That was when she was teased the worst, I felt terrible. All I wanted to do was yell at the parents for being stupid and letting their kids be so mean and she kept telling me that it was ok, she was different from the other kids and she could deal with it.

Originally Posted by hockeymom

I know that face! Don't you just love it!! There is just something special about little boys...................and the way mommy feels about them. Mine are 23 & 18 and when I looke at them, I still see that little boy face.

Originally Posted by eshuser

She's nine. She grew up way to early for me. She had cancer when she was 3 and ever since she's got quite the philosophy of life. That was when she was teased the worst, I felt terrible. All I wanted to do was yell at the parents for being stupid and letting their kids be so mean and she kept telling me that it was ok, she was different from the other kids and she could deal with it.