Severe anxiety
 

I'm just at my wits end with our little boy. He's been a big anxiety case since we got him a year ago, and it's just so disappointing to us. I'm almost figuring that we may have to re-home him because obviously by now I'mnot the person to help him with whatever issues he may have.

If we're in the living room, he stays in the kitchen all huddled up in a corner. He is penned in the kitchen during the day when we're at work and night when we sleep, so you'd think he'd want to come out when we're home during the evening but he doesn't.

He lays down on his pee pad instead of his bed, which is absolutely disgusting of course and leads to many baths so that he is safe to go on our carpeting.

He's just always jittery it seems. Always been that way.

After a year, isn't it safe to say that this probably isn't going to get much better?

After losing Milo how I did, I'd hate to lose another. Then I would have went from 2 to 0 in a short amount of time!

I would say he is terrible lonely and needs a companion. He is probably severely depressed. Did you have Milo at the same time you had this boy?

Okay, I went back and read Milo's story. That was a tragic event and I am sorry for your loss. Did your current Yorkie get along with Milo, did he seem any happier when Milo was in the house?

I think if you read what you wrote earlier this month, you can see where his anxiety is coming from.

You posted:

Sometimes I don't know why I have a dog, and I wonder how I ever had 2 of them before Milo died. I have such an obsession with cleanliness that it's ridiculous. Some people have told me that since I have a dog, I can't expect to be as clean as a non-pet owner. To that, I say no way! I absolutely strive to make it so that if you were to walk into my house, there isn't any way you could even tell we have pets. With cats, it's easy since they're really clean animals. That's probably why I've loved cats so much, they're so little work. They never have accidents, they wash themselves, and they generally behave.

Then there's the Yorkie. Whenever I get home from work and let him out of the kitchen, I make sure to smell him and his paws first to make sure he doesn't smell. I don't want any bad smells on my carpet or my furniture. Secondly, while he runs around on the carpet I watch his every move so there's no accidents. If he tries to run upstairs to get out of my line of vision, I call him back down. He knows by now I don't like it when he's out of my sight.

I vacuum all the time. I don't leave out too many toys because it just looks like a mess to me! But it is a success, because if you were to walk into the house, I don't think you could tell he even exists. All you'd see is the two cats staring at you, most likely.

Does anybody else have an obsession with keeping everything looking and smelling clean?? It's pretty much to the point that I'll about sacrifice anything to keep things clean.

:thumbup: If this is what you wrote then I would have to agree. He feels your tension...he knows he's not pleasing you and he's reacting to it...the poor little guy. If you don't know why you have a dog then maybe you shouldn't...it looks like you're creating his anxiety and maybe it's time to let him go to a home where he can be happy.

Maybe he just needs a buddy. I have one yorkie who is more jittery and I know it helps her

After reading your quoted post, I think that may be indication enough that he needs a home that will welcome the mess/scents and work that yorkies bring.

Yes, they have a distinct doggie smell, they can be gassy little buggers and are not known for being the greatest potty trainers...

They are also amazingly intuned to their owners feelings.

He is queing off your tension.

I understand being fastidious, perhaps a short hair cat is a better fit for you.

I am sorry that you and your baby are not a good fit. You both deserve to be able to relax and be yourself.

It could be that he feels lonely or he just needs someone to totally dote on him to give him a little bit of self confidence. The fact that he would sit on the pee pad definetely hints to a fear of making a mess on the floor and getting reprimended for it. Most puppies can be timid at first but after a year he should be over it. Maybe rehoming him would be the best solution for everyone, good luck with everything!

I do think he is really picking up his anxiety from you. Having a yorkie will usually end up with the house being a little more messier than if you don't have one, and even the most well potty trained dog will have the occasional accident. This is not to say dog lover's house can't be clean and neat but never to the extent like you don't have a dog and that is why some people don't have a dog. I know you'd like to prove that is wrong but it is a fact. You may have proven it wrong but under what costs? Your dog's happiness and your disgust towards the dog? You stated that you like cats because they are less work and cleaner and there is no wrong to because every person have their own preferences but why torture the little dog further by having him but not wanting him to be around/exist and always having to be under your watch and knowing he can't go anywhere that you can't see him? If your dog is jittery, probably better to go to another home with another yorkie as a friend. I don't usually agree to rehoming but in your case it most probably is the best solution. Give yourself a break and your dog a break too.

Well said.

It is obvious you are not happy with your little one and your yorkie knows that he if you are happy when he goes on the pee pad, and in trouble anywhere else, he thinks that is his only safe area. Only to be picked up and constantly stuck in a bath because he doesn't smell perfect. Give him another chance at a forever home and you can find a clean cat to love. You'd be happier; he'd be happier.

Unfortunately I think I agree with this poster... I think you are right in considering a new home for this baby. It sounds like he may be "walking on eggshells?" Neither of you sound very happy....maybe you know someone who would love to have him? Please be selective in your rehoming choice so that he gets a home that has the time to work with him to overcome his fears/anxiety and love him to the fullest.

Id definetly say its time to rehome him..he deserves a chance to be a dog..dogs do smell sometimes and have accidents sometimes..with yorkies thats just inevitable..I understand you enjoying your cats more as they are super clean animals..I have two...well they are mostly my husbands babies but I wouldnt trade stepping on rawhides and squeaky toys for anything in the world..I think BOTH of you would be happier if he were rehomed..Im not trying to make you feel bad..but some people just arent dog people..

Dawn

Id definately rehome him, i remember the post you had about your other dog.

You would hate my house. There are toys from one end to the other. I have pee pads down in about 5 different places for my puppy too. Then there are the food and water bowls and stray YYs that they somehow overlooked. LOL :)

sounds like my house,lol!! I even have an x-pen in my living room for the whelping box so I can keep an eye on things when we have a new litter.

Sounds like re-homming your baby might be best.

When you decide to get a dog.... you are adding to your family. You can't know what that pet is going to be like. They all have personalities. They have feelings, and you get what ever they are!
Only you know how you truely feel about this little guy. If this is not the pet for you, rehoming is a good answer as long as you find some one who will except him for who he is. This is not to say you are a bad person. it is better for you to rehome thinking of the dog's best interest, then to keep him they way things are. But if you LOVE this little boy, and you truely want to make it work, find some one who can help assess this boy and help you to decide how to help him. I'm sure there are things you can do to help him become a more confident, loving pet. In any case please help this baby have a better life. :(

What happen to this thread? Bump.

i think with all the negative comments, i dont think id come reply back

Just my quick 2 cents worth but I agree with everyone else. I think re-homing is a good solution for both you and this baby.

People must think I'm crazy then because I enjoy loving on my Rocco even when he's smelly. LOL LOL LOL

Kids and dogs make smells and messes. Lord knows that I know that all too well. We have 6 kids under 10, 5 dogs, and a cat. I think if you decide to rehome your dog, you should still try to get some help on your obsessive cleaning issues. I can understand wanting to keep a tidy house, but you are not only creating tension with others, but you are also putting a tremendous strain on yourself with the high expectations you have.
I have a clean freak for a friend, and I never want her to come over, and I dont even like to talk to her when she is talking about how clean she keeps her house. Its flat out annoying and feels like she is bashing me. I am a wreck the whole time she is at my house because I feel like she analyzing everything.
I keep my house moderately clean, meaning that I do my dishes daily, I do laundry daily, I vaccuum, and I keep things semi picked up. I do my weekly things like toilets, and my company things before company comes (wipe down walls, any spot cleaning, etc). You have to let kids be kids and dogs be dogs. Niether children nor animals are dolls that were just meant to be looked at and sit still.
I think that getting rid of your dog isnt getting rid of the whole problem. I think you have to address your issues as well.
It would be great if you could get some help now, and you and your dog can start over.

There is no reason you cannot have a clean house with dogs. I have 7 and clean all the time. I mop alot , this is a great form of excerise!:p

I have 7 happy dogs that are welcome to play with their toys and there are beds everywhere. If company is coming over it takes about 1 hour to clean up and put the dogs home ( master bathroom a big 8x10).

I would never put anything above their happiness. My little 10 month old Kayla got a turd stuck on her butt for the first time yesterday and freaked out ran to me to fix it, a butt bath did the trick... BUT a few times my older dogs cleaned their butts on the carpet!:eek: Oh well so we shampoo more than most...;) They are so worth it.....:D

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I had obsessive cleaning issues to the point my new husband could almost not deal with me, having lily has been great for me. Now I would rather spend time playing and cuddling with her rather than running around the house chasing dirt that is not even there. But everyone is different and you should do what you think is best for the pup. Good luck

LOL if I had a dollar everytime Jasmine rubbed a "dingle-berry" on my carpet I would be a rich lady!:D :D :D :D :D :D

the poor little guy sounds awfully lonesome to me
Janelles

LOL @ this!

maybe rehoming would be good, but have you tried to go pick up the puppy and sit with it on your lap instead of watching it sit on the pee pee pad? timid dogs need to know they are loved. sometimes taking the dog out for walks ect... more often will also help. as far as toys all over you can teach them to put them away, we have a dog that loves to clean up. although that 1 out of 5 dogs lol. some dogs get their feeling hurt really easy i have one like that and it takes alot of work to make her feel secure and safe. timid dogs are hard to understand and it might not be the right fit for you to keep this dog. but for me once i get a dog its part of my family and i do everything i cant to make it work and except them for who they are. but thats me i fall head over heals in love to easy lol. in the end its up to you to decide whats best :) good luck:thumbup:

I need to say that I feel sorry for this yorkie.. I would say that is the humans making him the way he is... :eek: :eek: he needs to be rehomed.. before he is ruined completely...
My good god, I cannot imagine... I love my yorkies, not matter what,..and if you are so obsessed with cleanliness, then the sooner you rehome the better..
My heart is aching for this little guy.. there are people that do not have motherly instinct.. they do not have children, when they do,, the child suffers.. so I think your probably a great person, but just not a doggie person..
abuse does not always come in the form of physical.. it is also a mental abuse that just does not go away..
Seems like he is penned up too much, and alone to much.. maybe just finding a yter close to you, to take this baby in for a few weeks to just see if he is better with other dogs.. I would not suggest getting a mate for him.. for if that does not work, now you could have to that live full of anxiety..
Yorkies do not ever forget these things..:(

I just had another thought. Instead of him huddled in the kitchen while you are sitting in the living room, why don\'t you go and get him and sit him on your lap, so that he feels wanted and secure. Perhaps if you were to pet him and talk to him a little bond would occur between you and him.It seems as though he is afraid that he is going to make a mistake, and it is making him nervous. Yorkies, as you know by now, are very sensitive.
Janice

I have tears in my eyes reading this thread.
To picture that little one sitting in the kitchen all day alone and in the corner
all night alone and depressed because he lost his campanion and he dosen\'t know how to be a puppy
is too sad.
Maybe after reading these posts the OP will understand what it is
to have a yorkie or any pet for that matter. They need to be socialized
and be what they are, a dog.
Good luck to you. Don\'t be sad about re-homing your dog be happy
because you will be doing him a favor. Another home can give him
what he requires. Attention, attention, attention.