I did a terrible thing to my puppy today, and I want to confess it
 

I have to confess this, I am ashamed of it but at the time was so angry I just did it. I hit my puppy Bijou, then shook him and shouted at him NO NO NO NO, he had pooped huge one hour earlier outside, so he earned freedom to run and play with Bandit right in front me in the bedroom where the PC is. It was not more than 60 minutes after the huge poop outside he proceeded to POOP a huge lump and it happened so quickly that I had no time to stop him, it just fell out his bottom in a split of a second and I was shocked and angry, I grabbed him and slapped his bottom and then shook him and was very angry with him, then showed him it and then forced him in his crate.

Now I know I will get murdered for this, but for this not to happen again, I am confessing it so I can get help as to how to deal with this kind of anger when he does this again. Just when I think he is understanding he is not. he is 6 months old today, and I feel he should know better than to crap in my bedroom which he seemd to love doing. he has access to doggie toilet and paper in the wash room, why must be come in here and do it and so fast?

I feel badly for hitting him and I know you are not to hit a dog, but I just lost my temper with him because he had done it so soon before and so much of it I never would expect him to do this again so quickly. He earns freedom when he is a good boy, but if he will continue to do this then I have to crate him for longer, I honeslty feel the crating is not really teaching him that it is not allowed in the house, but only to hold.

So let me hear the condemnation because I know I will be killed for this, but I just totally lost my temper with him.

I have no words..:(

First of all, I think if you have anger issues where you feel the need to hit an animal -- you should be seeing a therapist to deal with that.

It's one thing to be frustrated, it's quite another to physically harm your dog and it's completely unacceptable.

Your dog is **six** months old. He is still very much a BABY. Would you hit a human child for having an accident? I don't think so. Besides the physical pain I'm sure he experienced, you are doing a lot of emotional damage to this dog by hitting, yelling, and forcing him into his crate.

He will never learn anything but to fear you and you will completely obliterate his self confidence and trust in you if you continue to do this.

At the end of the day, it is *your* fault if your puppy has an accident... not his. You need to have your eyes on him at all times to be sure that he's not eliminating in the wrong spot and if you cannot be there you need to have him confined to a specific area.

I hit him, on his bottom open hand not beat him brutally, he didnt even squeak it was a small lash like a tap not a brutal hit, but the fact that I did it I am sorry fo that. He was not brutally lashed. I wont do this. But I did use my hand which I have never done before.

So again, condemn me, none of us are perfect, the fact that I was woman enough to come and confess this means I want to find a way to contain my temper.

I DIDNT HAVE TO CONFESS this I could have kept it quiet to myself.

I honestly think you may have temper issues - crating him for punishment isn't going to work - and one day you may have a very timid dog that won't be able to help himself out of FEAR and you don't want that.

Hitting him was wrong and you know that - you said so yourself - but I'm more concerned over the anger you showed by shaking him - you've heard about 'shaken baby syndrom' right ? That can cause brain damage

I've been having issues with Cheri - she's much older than your puppy and when she has an 'accident' I do the ' NO CHERI' thing - pick her up and take her to her pad and tell her "THIS IS WHERE YOU DO YOUR BUSINESS".....she knows cause if I catch her looking for a spot she'll run right to her pad. I don't 'punish' her because she already knows she wasn't susposed to go on the floor. She's getting the message but I'd never hit her or get mad....when you gotta go - you GOTTA go !

Your baby is just 6 months old - still a very young puppy and what's a little poop when they give us so much love ? I suggest you try to think of the worse things out there in life we have to deal with before you take out your anger on him.....and please - don't crate him over that !! It doesnt work like a time out for real kids....

Give him time - and BIG PRAISE when he goes outside or wherever you're training him to go and be consistent. Throw a parade if you have to when he goes but eventually he'll get it.....but no crate !! that's like throwing him in jail for a crime he didn't commit - he's a PUPPY - that's what puppies DO.

Yes I understand waht you have said. I didnt shake him like a rag doll I will never do this, I shook him once very firmly by holding hims firmly as not to do him injury and said no no no. He has long since been out of the crate he was in there for a few minutes and he acts like nothing has happened which I am glad for. We will now go for a nice long hour walk. I wont hit him again no matter how light the lash was. This is the reason I confessed because I felt terrible about it.:(

We all make mistakes in life and I did, and for that Iam very sorry for hitting my baby.

poop problems
 

I am not going to condem you
I think you have pretty much done that yourself.
They can get to the best of us at times.
just re-group and start over again. he has already forgotten, remember dogs live in the moment, although they remember they won't hold a grudge if you don't.

can I add something - you just lost a puppy right ? Doesn't this puppy deserve better ? you sound like you want to do the right thing but lashing out in anger is never good and that goes for everyday life not just dealing with puppies. I really hope you step back, train them and don't expect immediate results. But hitting and yelling isn't going to help one bit. It just makes them cower in fear and they really don't understand what's happening.....

I felt so bad reading your post for your dog. I don't want to condem you but I honestly feel you need to re-think how you handle yourself and your dogs....They'll be so much happier !

Good luck

I am speechless! I have never commented on one of "these" threads before, I try to bite my tongue..but.. oh my God...I can't take it anymore.

History is repeating itself. IMO you never treated little Scooby very well when you first got him and now this. I am in tears and I'm shaking!!!

My CoCo is 3 and still has the occasional accident, but she is worth far more to me than a rug or the floor.

If you are that angry, break a vase or a few plates but please please don't hit or shake your dog. Shaking can cause internal or brain damage.

oh my God.. I just can't anymore.


Sheilagh

:thumbup: you're right - we all make mistakes. The hard part is not repeating them right ?

I am just sad and observing the thread. My prayers go out!:( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :(

PLease DONT EVER do that again, I know you are already feeling bad for it, But let me tell you, He will NOT forget it...My Joey is a rescue baby, and i know he was hit the first 4 mths of his life, before i came along, he is so head shy and submisive its a shame:( I thought he was doing so much better? Keep working with him, He is still a baby at 6 mths, But he will remember it:(

:( :( :( :( I agree they may not know WHAT they did wrong but they DO remember the violence...poor Joey - makes ME want to go smack whoever could do that to a tiny puppy or any dog for that matter !

scooby - you seem to have a history of troubles - I really hope things look up for your dogs and you step back and try to solve some of the problems....Have you puppyproofed your house yet ?? I remember your other puppy died from poisoning right ? or was it head trauma ???

We care about THE DOGS here - when you see responses it's to HELP you so please don't take the posts the wrong way ok ....

you have a little 6 month old puppy that depends on you for his well being - make sure you live up to that expectation for him ok ? All they want is our love - it's not that hard to understand - with puppies comes a little work. Just go with the flow (so to speak)

Wow maybe you need to seek help with managing your anger. At 6 months he really is still a baby and is going to have accidents. I have a 3 1/2 year old furbaby who still has accidents around the house, but that's just what it is an accident and accidents do happen. I'm not going to hit her just a firm no pick her up and place her where she's supposed to potty. They are dogs and not people and so they can't understand why you yell, shake and hit it just confuses and scares them:( . Puppy are a lot of work and it can definitely get a little overwhelming, perhaps this is a bad time in your life and do not have the patience to deal with having a puppy. Maybe it would be in the best interest of this puppy to be rehomed.

i cant say what i want to say so il just leave it at that:mad: :mad: :mad:

I'm not trying to condemn you for anything, but I think you don't realize how sensitive dogs are and how in tune to our emotions they are.

Raising dogs takes a lot of patience and love for the dog. Believe me, I have had my moments where I'm frustrated with the training process, but I never blame the dog and would never think of yelling or hitting them.

I'm the one that brought my babies into my home and made the choice to love them and teach them. It isn't their fault if I'm not training them correctly or if they have an accident. It's mine.

Confessing is fine -- but if you're confessing to having an anger issue with your dog on a public forum, I"m not sure what you expect to get in response. I'm not trained in anger management -- I just use my common sense and if I'm angry in a situation, I walk away -- calm down -- and come back to it later.

Nothing in life is worth getting so angry that you hurt those you love.

I'm not saying you're a bad person -- but you need to evaluate why you got so angry, and what you can do to never do this again.

soccbydo!
 

I Just Came Back To See How You Were Faring.


Well You Asked For It And It Seems You Are Getting It.

I Hope You Can Take It.

I try to treat my baby like a "human baby". I know they're going to have accidents and I agree, my dog is worth more to me than my carpet or rug. Maybe now that you have confessed, you should take that as a lesson and next time the puppy has an accident you'll know how to handle the situation a little better. We all make mistakes but in the future take a step back and realize what you're about to do. I don't think you have anger problems I just think sometimes things happen so fast and the only way to deal with it at that point in time is to get mad. Good luck and go love that baby to pieces!!:)

all dogs have accidents at any age, but we do not hit them, crating her or him was probably enough, maybe she had cramps and could not hold it in, god knows we have to run sometimes....there to small to hit....my dog is house trained on dog pads, and she has the occasional accident, but i love her to much to hit her

He's a living creature, not a toy, if you get angry take a few minutes to step back and breath, remember that if you let the anger control your impulse you could seriously harm your poor dog.....
You need to find some kind of "pattern" or procedure to go into motion when you feel the anger popping up.. like some people count or take a walk outside, splash your face with cold water.
You just have to keep yourself from running on impulsive anger and responding that moment.

Honestly, I'm not going to condemn you, because you could have easily not posted this, or told anyone and continued on with your business, the fact that you said this.. obviously shows you know what you did was wrong and feel guilty and would like to change that.
Most people just keep it to themselves.

I'm no expert though, everything I typed now is just stuff I've heard or read somewhere, but basically when you get really angry, try to deter yourself and think about something else, do something to keep you from doing anything impulsive.. walk out of the room if you have to.

if you cant handle a puppy dont have kids

no, you didn't have to confess but you seem to admit to animal abuse a lot. I am trying very hard to choose my words with you but i don't think you are a good pet owner and never have been judging from your previous posts on various things. Seriously, some people should get stuffed animals.

My vet feels very strongly that both my seniors were hit.:mad: They are very afraid of an open hand coming at them. After 9 yrs. I still have to be very careful how I bring my hand down to pet them or pick them up.:( There are everlasting consequences to hitting/slapping/beating. My 11 yr. and 10 yr. old still have occasional accidents. If that is going to be a problem for you in the next 15/16 yrs. I suggest you re-home your darling Yorkie. (Or get professioanl help as has been suggested.)
Joanne :aimeeyork :aimeeyork :aimeeyork :dog:

:eek: .......I'm not even sure what to say....:( :( :(

Please don't hit your puppy with your open hand :( .....may I suggest maybe shaking a can with rocks/pennies in it so the loud noise will scare him/her along with a very loud NO! This would have to be done at the moment he is doing something wrong...not a second later or he won't understand what he has done wrong.

Also, if you feel overwhelmed raising/training a puppy, may I suggest rehoming? Training a puppy may not be for everyone.....

I have to agree. I hope you think very hard about how you're treating your pets - and if they're too much for you - find someone who can love and be gentle with them - I didn't know when I first posted to you but this is a pattern with you and only YOU can break that pattern - or give up your pets before another one dies.....They're small and hurt easily - please be safe rather than Sorry !!

I see your getting the advice I expected, and rightly so.....I've followed some of your other posts and I keep wondering why you keep getting puppies....I understand you want a pet, but some people are just not cut out for the work, training, and sometimes the frustration that comes with puppies.....Sometimes we get so caught up in all their cuteness that we tend to forget there is training to do.....a lot of training....

It's not much different with kids....just because you can doesn't mean you should.....This is not meant to be mean it's just to point out that maybe taking on all that is involved is more than your capable of handling.......I know the pup is already here but if you're finding training and caring for a pet is more frustrating for you than enjoyable there are alternatives for both your sakes.....Good luck and I hope you find a solution that is in both your best interests.....

I really have nothing to say aside from maybe you should own a dog. This is a yorkie lover fourm....this is not the right place to come a post about how you hit and shake a puppy because it didn't go on it's pad. I think everyone would agree with me in that our only advise for you is to rehome your puppy and go see a therapist imediately.

I'm still having trouble thinking if she has this kind of anger over a little poop - then what if something really big happens ? Puppies learn as they grow - PLEASE BE PATIENT or you could lose this one like the other one and that's so not fair to the puppy !!

I don't want to harp on you - but since reading your other threads it seems you may be overwhelmed and we're all here because WE LOVE DOGS - there are red flags in all your posts scooby :(

if you really want to do the right thing - LISTEN TO EVERYONE and if you feel you're going to lose it again - WALK OUT OF THE ROOM and go hit yourself in the mirror or something but don't hit the dog !!

ps...after reading this thread and feeling like I do - I'm going to go HUG the heck out of my girls ...cheri is having little issues on the floor - but they've been thru so many changes in their lives that a little poop is something to be grateful for - they're happy AND healthy and with me - I'm a happy woman - and if I have to clean a little - SO BE IT!

If you are angry with your dog stop and take a few breaths. You should never lay a hand on a dog. You can also a dog brain damage frm shaking it. I hope you really think about your actions and dont repeat them

I just would like to know why you \'confessed\' and then to each post that tell you gently what to do different or that yes you did wrong, you have an excuse ready for everything? :confused: You do obviously have an anger management issue. Therapy, as suggested by another poster, is what you need to seek out, not expect to get told that what you did is not so bad.