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Losing a pet when you have more than one.. For those who have lost a pet, specifically for those who have 2. How did it affect the surving one? What did you do for the one to ensure he wasn't lonely? Especially when you leave and they are left alone and no longer have someone to keep them company. Etc. Those kinds of things. |
We only had Bandit for about a month, but when he died Rusty was just a little "out of it" for a couple days. He didn't seem really depressed, but he definetly knew something was wrong and he seemed kind of confused. We were grieving, and I think that upset Rusty more than not having Bandit around (if that makes sense). We tried to keep things normal-ish for him, we made sure that he still got attention and that we didn't change around his schedule at all. We also put Bandit's things away where Rusty couldn't find/smell them. |
I have more than one and i think that would be very sad, cause when Teddy is not here, like if he's with my bf or something London get's very sad and cries so i can imagine how she would get if something ever happened to him. She doesn't like being alone. I don't think it would affect Sophie, or Teddy that much. They seem to be content either way, idk. But what i would do is give the surviving one extra love, hold them everywhere i go, etc. |
I had two dogs and had to put one down this summer due to cancer. They had been together for 10yrs. The surviving one, Misty, spent most of her time sleeping and going off by herself. We would give her extra attention, and take her in the car whenever we went anywhere. (with 2 of them, they never got to go in the car. They were too big) I also took her for playdates with friends dogs. Now I have my yorkie and the two of them play together all the time and Misty acts like a puppy again. (She is 10) She did grieve after Klondike but she is fine now. Hope this helps. |
After losing pets and not doing this....when we lose a pet now, we allow the surviving animals to smell the body. I know it sounds morbid, but truly I think they understand than when we didn't do this. Let me say...I have always had multiple cats not dogs. The surviving cats would always look for their friend....mewing and crying...until I decided perhaps they would understand if I allowed them to smell the body. Since then we have not experienced the mewing, crying or looking. I do give them extra attention afterward. We recently lost another cat...I allowed Ramsey and Reese to smell him too. If one of my yorkies was to pass...I'd say I'd do the above, lavish attention on the surviver and play hard...so perhaps he wouldn't miss his companion quite so much. PS I know that smelling thing...sounds me sound whacked. It's okay if you think it...I do myself. :rolleyes: |
My mom had 3 dogs, when she lost one last Feb, the next oldest one(she got her at 11 mos), mourned for a very long time, even though Mom still had another little dog..it was so sad, the one wouldn't eat and just always walked around like she was still looking for the one that had died..:( |
bchgirl: thanks, no don't think morbid, surprisingly it makes sense to me, however, it's not always an option. |
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I just can't imagine. When I take one to the vet the other is at home upset and when I bring the one back from the vet, it's like "where did you go?" |
That ps was supposed to say....makes me sound whacked...not sounds me sound. :rolleyes: My yorkie, Trace, had a best friend Taz...a big ol mutt. The two of them spent a great deal of time together. Both of them knew....who went with which people....meaning...to Taz seeing me meant Trace. Trace died very very unexpectedly. We buried him....and Taz looked for him for a long long time. I really regreted not allowing her to see him so perhaps she would understand he was gone. |
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I am dealing with that right now as my little scoobydo died on Thrusday. I am going to get a new yorkie BUT I must first grieve for the one I lost. the one I have I am showering with constant loving and playing a lot with him and including him in everything I do, well except bathing and eating my food etc ,but trying to make him feel loved beyond words. |
So far I have only been through this with cats. I used to have 3 cats. Checkers My cat I have is my last surviving cat. She went in to a mini depression when the last one died. She meowed alot and didnt eat for a couple of days. I dont even want to think what it would be like for the other one if I lost one of my yorkies. |
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I just lost Dixie and she was very attached to Pixie even though she was only here for 5 weeks, The daY I took Dixie to the specialist I didn't know if I would be bringing her back or not but when I came home without her all 3 dogs were looking for her and were very quiet. That night Pixie who is the keeper of the others went frantic when I turned the light off to go to sleep. My dtr and I watched her go room to room and to Dixie's crate looking all over for her. It broke our hearts. Everytime I come home now they all are looking at my arm to see if I have Dixie. I brought her carrier in Yesterday becasue I couldn't bring myself to do it sooner and they all 3 swarmed it looking for her. They are just now starting to bark and be more active. I can't imagine when you have them a long time how they must grieve. |
Thank you for this thread. My two females are getting up in age and I have wondered about this. Very interesting, sound advice. Just read this to my DH. Want him to know things if I am not around. Joanne :aimeeyork :aimeeyork :aimeeyork :dog: |
Years ago when our kids were babies, we had Jake and Nikki (furkids) they were so attached to one another. When Jake passed away, I was scared to death we were gonna lose Nikki as well. It was really hard on her, she refused to eat or drink, lost her lust for life and just basically lost her will to live. We did anything and everything including taking turns force feeding her baby food and water with a syringe until finally she started to eat on her own again. We didn't leave her home alone, always made sure someone was there with her and eventually, in time, she was ok. It's hard on furbabies, especially when they been raised together for years and years. |
When our pug Dakota died in Sept, Autumn was not herself.:( She was sad and just followed us around. She spent a lot of time just laying. So we bought another yorkie. She has been happy ever since!:) |
We had 4 dogs and when our oldest went into heart failure I believe the others knew she wasn't going to make it. After she passed away at the vet hospital they would lie by her bed from tiem to time. I really think they knew she had passed and wasn't just away from the house.:( We also had 4 horses. When I had to put my oldest mare down, my other mare who had been with her for 10 years, yelled and looked for her for days. It was very sad. |
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I had a yorkie for 17 years that we finally put down when I was in my early twenties. Our German Sheppard was very close to our yorkie and she definitely mourned. She was very confused for awhile and we made sure to keep a close eye on her. She eventually she stopped looking for him, but it was very sad. |
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Just last March I had to take my childhood dog, a Bichon in to be PTS. She was 20 so she had a nice long life, but it was still very sad. Because she was so much older than the other dogs in the house (who were 4 and 3 at the time) and rarely did much else but sleep, Poppy spent most of her time in mom's bedroom. The other dogs knew she was in there, and would occassionally (once a week or so) go in to see her, but I wouldn't really call them attached. When she passed, Laney and Schatzie would just mope around and look for her. Laney would look for her under the bed, in the bathroom, etc then just lay on the rug, look depressed and "cry". :( Schatzie did the same thing. It was heartbreaking. I guess they both had their own special bond with her. It was probably a month or two before they stopped looking for her. |
After Zeke was taken, Cassie, my German Shepherd crawled behind a chair she didn't really fit behind and stayed there for a long time. She walked around calling him for weeks and she carried his elephant around in her mouth. If she gets any other plush toy she tears it up but she NEVER chewed on his elephant. I still keep all of his stuff out (he will come home some day:( ) and she will sometimes lay in his bed, well the part of her that fits anyway. They were best friends:( :( |
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Your very right!!!.....over 10 yrs ago I had 2 Shizu's (spell??) the oldest female died at 8yrs at the vets during surgery. One month later I got home late from shopping and while unloading the car the younger female snuck out, I didn't notice cause she always slept with my mom. The next morning I notice she was gone, we never found her.:( Years later I told that story to my now vet and he told me she had snuck out looking for her sister, that I should have let her smell the dead body.:eek: I never knew that.... in one month I lost my 2 girls and it took me about 3 yrs before I could get another dog again. |
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We had to put Abby to sleep this weekend, it was very hard. Usually when Abby would leave the house without Alphy he would howl like nothing crazy, but he hasn't done so this time. Although he seems sad and grieving he's not really looking for her. Its like he knows. We found Abby Friday in a full seizure on the couch when we came home. I think she had been there awhile and Alphy witnessed it. We rushed her to the vet and someone stayed with Alphy and took care of him. Abby didn't get to come back. (short story is it was cancer). I'm worried for Alphy because I don't think he's ever been an only dog. I got him from lksdolls so he's had a ton of furbabies to play with and then Abby. Getting another dog is just not an option now. I hope he'll be okay. I'm going to take him to work with me for at least the first week. I did leave him at home for a few hours and he was pretty wound up, he's never been left alone like that. Bit of anxiety going on. I had left the TV on too, but I think he was a bit scared or something. Thanks for all your guys comments, it's been really hard for me. |
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Actually, a lot of vets and trainers suggest this be done. It does help them to understand what has happened to their friend, rather than them wondering why they just vanished with no explanation. It sounds crazy and strange, but it makes a whole lot of sense. |
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I think you're right about Alphy...he's never been alone. Poor baby. Would it be possible to go to work all the time...instead of just this week? I only ask because it seems like putting off the inevitable if not....there's next week. Or perhaps taking him to work in the am but taking him home at lunch...at least so it's not a full 8 or more hours alone... more gradual approach if possible. I do think Alphy will adjust..it'll just take some time. |
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