who should get to "own" the name?
 

hey everyone, i wanted to ask your opinions...i am sure you have covered this numerous times before but i am a newer member (although i lurked a while!) :)

due to some rather unfortunate events (and unfortunate experience with some breeders) we are no longer getting our one boy puppy :( we are still getting our yorkie bentley and he will be here on dec 28th :D we are sooooo excited about this and have everything ready for him!

but anyhooo in the meantime, we decided to look for a little girl ... and we found our perfect baby girl and if all goes well we will be getting her over the christmas break...we always wanted to name her "bella" and planned on doing so...when speaking about her, we refer to her as "bella" ...

well we have been speaking to my fiances sister during this time since she has a furbaby and we had questions for her on training, upbringing, grooming, etc ... and we had mentioned when we got a girl we wanted to name her bella...she never said a word...

well now that the time is getting near, she tells him SHE claimed the name to name her firstborn daughter (she is not married, engaged, pregnant or anything along those lines) and said bentley and >insert any name here< sounds so much better than bentley and bella :( she said we were not allowed to use the name!

is this fair?? i guess the thing that really upsets me is that my fiance and i are unable to have children of our own and our furbabies will BE our children...i just wondered if i was being unreasonable for being so hurt about this...

on a happier note, my baby girls mommy right now has named her a beautiful name so we could always call her that :) although we had our hearts set on bella :(

your opinions please?? and PLEASE tell me if i am being a brat or unreasonable...maybe i am being selfish?

I say go ahead and name your new little furbaby Bella. You guys were the ones who initially mentioned the name and she isn't even pregnant! It might be different if she was expecting a baby girl and fell in love with the name.

well the way I see it... you mentioned it first....................so it's yours fair and square. Now I think she liked it so much she might want to use it.. then by all means, but she does not have the right to tell you can't use it.... just my .02 cents.

I guess it comes down to whether you want to keep peace in the family. If so, I'd go with another name - though in reality when she finally does have a baby, she probably won't even use that name!!!!!

If you want to name your dog Bella, then name her Bella! Who cares what her breeder has her named now. She will become YOUR dog so YOU get to name her whatever YOU want. Now the fact that her breeder (your future sister-in-law) wants to name her first born daughter Bella, who cares...she can still name her that if she wants. But you know, what IF she never even has a daughter or what if she changes her mind about that name. Honestly, Bella for a person sounds SO strange to me because I know so many dogs named Bella LOL. Anyway, name her Bella if you want. You can have a niece AND a dog named Bella

I don't think people can CALL names! There a THOUSANDS of names out there! JMO though... Who ever names an actual being Bella first gets the name Bella...and since they aren't pregnant yet and you're on your way to getting a baby girl...:D

thanks!!! whew!! i feel better!

and the breeder we are getting our baby from is not my sister in law but the way i worded it kind of makes it sound like it huh? :p my future sister in law has her own furbaby and has a while so she has been through all the growing pains! :)

and i thought bella was kind of a furbaby name...kind of like when i hear people name their (skin) girls molly..i personally know AT LEAST 5 dogs named molly :D

i feel so much better! i think we should stick to bella too...by the time she has kids, she will have 80 other names picked out by then (like a previous poster said!) :thumbup: ... although the whole keeping the family peace thing is something to consider ;)

You name that baby girl whatever you want to name her..heck, I named my youngest son the same as my sisters sons name(my nephew), but we spelled our sons name Scot, instead of with 2 t's..I can't believe she would get upset over that, heck, she may never have children, and if she does, they may all be boys..:D

I agree:thumbup: :thumbup: pooh's mum

I agree, you can't just call a name and it be yours forvever and nobody else can use it. She's not even pregnant! That being said, I agree with another person who said it depends on how much you want to keep the peace. Since she claims she "called" the name first, she will probably always argue that point with you you'll probably never be able to convince her that you "called" it first.

I have to agree with everyone else. If you want to name her Bella, then name her Bella. You want a name that you really love and it is a special name because you picked it out for her. So if you really want to name her Bella go for it, don't let anyone stop you. She is your baby and you have the right to name her whatever you want.
I like the name Bella by the way, I think it is really cute.

You can name her whatever you like... lol

Wow, there are soooo many Bella's on YT...

I have a Bella myself... I love that name!

Bella is a nice name and it works well with Bentley. Go for it! :aimeeyork :animal-pa

Ask almost any woman out there...she's probably had her unborn child out there named for years (she's also likely changed it along the way too). Now, ask any woman out there with a child...and you will find that some used the chosen name, some didnt. I, for one, decided YEEEEAAAAARS ago, that my daughter would be named Asia Kay. (ok, I'm embarassed...it kinda sounds stripperish/escortish). But when my daughter was born, she was given another name entirely.

Name your baby Bella. Sister in law will get over it. Its a name. When her time comes, she can still name her child (who might end up a boy) whatever she wants. Its a name. (I might feel differently if you were having a human baby and "stole" the name....but I'd only feel that way if she was preggo and knew she'd be having a girl). NAME YOUR BABY BELLA and dont feel bad about it!

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The sister isn't even married yet and will probably hear a lot of names she likes before she gets married, gets pregnant, has a daughter, and agrees with her husband on a name. What you name your dog is your business and no one else's, although I do sympathyze with you. When I got my first Bichon more than 10 years ago, I named her Chantilly Lace and called her Lacy. She was named before I ever found her as a tiny puppy and I told my family what I was going to name her. My son told me that his wife, my daughter-in-law, had a grandfather named Lacey and I didn't want to cause any problems. I thought about it and finally just asked my daughter-in-law if she would have her feelings hurt if I named my dog Lacy. She thought about it a minute and then burst out laughing and said "Mom, anyone would be honored to have one of your dogs named after them!" Lacy wasn't named after him, of course, and she didn't care at all. The man had been dead for several years. So Lacy was named Lacy. If my daughter-in-law had been bothered about it, I would have picked a different name for the sake of family harmony. I'm glad it didn't turn out that way. This was a case of someone with the name that already existed though, not a possibility in the future. You can't "own" a name. The only song I ever heard with my name in it was something called "Jeanette Get Your Hair Done" which was around when I was a teenager and sensitive to things like that. I had long hair that I was very particular about and I really hated that song!

Same thing happened here, we had the name Lola picked out and then my sil got pregnant and announced they were very much considering the name Lola. They had no idea I had chosen that for our puppy(that's according to them).

I asked my brother if he was ok with me still naming my puppy that and he said to go ahead(I didn't bother asking her :) I used the reasoning that even if the puppy and my niece had the same name that she'd find it cool, not be offended. There are people out there with the same name, we have two Mikes just in our family. Anyhoo, I have my Lola and my niece was named Tru. So I'm very glad I didn't pick another name because then no one would have used it.

You should name her Bella anyway. Your SIL may never have a girl. Sound like she could be a controlling person.

hey, name her what you want!! it's not like her future daughter (if she is so blessed to have one some day) will be the only bella in class. I know several of them ;)

thanks guys!!! :D

the support here (and the honest opinions) are wonderful and like a breath of fresh air!! :thumbup:

I agree with the top post!! It would be really diffrent if she mentioned it before and you fell in love with the name.. But thats not the case and she isn't even expecting...

I do understand how she feels about not wanting to share a name.. My God Daughters name is MaKayla... I wanted to name my little girl that when i had one lol.. But great mines think alike and my bestfriend named her little girl that and had no clue thats that the name i wanted .. So i have to come up with another one LOL...

She will come up with something else if it bothers her that bad.. there are so many beautiful names out there... I even got told that i should have saved Mi'Leigh Brook for my first daughter... Well she is my first baby girl so..

Good luck with this issue!

Ha! There's a whole Seinfeld episode about this very thing. George decided he wanted to name his first child "Seven". He was upset when friends decided to use that name.

I say go for it. BELLA!:D

How old is SIL? What does Fiance' say about it? I guess I wouldn't start a war over it, but she sounds like she may be jealous. If you have a good relationship with her now, it might be worth thinking about. I think she is being unfair.

I have a different take on the situation. It sounds like your Fiance's sister is a jealous. How old is she? Maybe you could try talking to her and explain to her that your this little precious furball will be YOUR daughter. And that it would consider it an honor for her to name her skindaughter the same name as your furdaughter.

I'd go for Bella, and if someday she has a baby she can still name it Bella if she wants. You can't have too many Bella's in the world.

Why don't you consider going with Belle instead of Bella?

It may suck that this could start a family war, but that's the reality. You marry your inlaws and it would be majorly sucky to be on bad terms already.

It's definitely not fair, but I think that most people who are not furbutt lovers are going to side with a skin-momma, so it may be a losing battle as far as the family goes.

Although the fact that she is not pregnant or committed to anyone is definitely on your side!