I have never been so upset in my life...
 

My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years just broke up with me. We have lived together for the past 2 years, and have been talking about marriage recently...everything was fine. And then he left a letter in my bag when I was packing to head back up to school for week...a cop-out I know...:(

I have 7 babies (6 yorkies and a cat)...and I have to move back in with my mom because I have nowhere else to go. My mom has 2 dogs already, and she lives in a nice neighborhood that has very restrictive policies on building. We entertained the idea of building a little heated and air-conditioned kennel out back, but it's strictly prohibited. We're thinking about all options, even enclosing a space in the garage for a small kennel area and putting a space heater in there. She has a bonus room that is the only place I can stay, and I can keep the cat up there and probably 2 dogs a time in the house with me, but her house is very nice and she doesn't want it in disarray (which I understand). So we're exhausting all options here...

Selling or rehoming ANY of my animals is just NOT an option...it's NOT going to happen. We're going to start looking in the paper for a house that someone is selling or renting that has no down payment or closing costs right now...because I can afford monthly payments, but not a big total in the beginning (sorry if that is confusing). But I have no idea how difficult that's going to be to find or if I'll even be able to have a mortgage on my own house...so for right now I have to try and figure out what to do...

I am so upset about everything...I feel like this is a movie and I'm sitting here watching it and not living it. I've been crying for 17 hours straight...and I need some advice...I can't think anymore...

does anyone have any suggestions? anything would be GREATLY appreciated... you have no idea. thanks guys...

While I don't have any ideas, I want to say i am very sorry you are going thru this. Did he take care of the dogs while you are at school?

I'm so so sorry, you must be heartbroken, you poor thing! Have you tried to call the boy friend to see what is up?

I commend you on sticking together with your babies, and it will all work out, I just know it will.

Let me know if you need someone to talk to, I'm home and here for you hun.

No I always take them with me...I have a cabin up in Boone but the lease ends in a week...

Thank you...yeah we talked...he's confused right now and doesn't know what he wants...

I really appreciate it...you're so sweet...

Im so sorry to hear about your break up. You must feel so hurt. A letter is not a nice way to find out. How soon do you have to move? Is there anyone who you could have as a roommate to share expenses? A breakup is hard enough without all the other things you are having to figure out. I hope you feel better and find a solution that is good for you and your furkids!

I'm very sorry!! I too had been dating a boy for around 3 years and was dumped through an email from Europe (he was on a school trip) so I can say that I can relate somewhat. :(

This must be very hard, but I'm glad you are being a responsible owner and not just ditching your babies.

Keep your chin up!

im sorry you are going through this....:(

i know you said re-homing isnt an option, but do you have any friends that may be willing to take a baby or two for a short time while you organize your self and living arrangments? or even other YTers in your area that you know that could pup-sit? that could be an option if you cant have all your babies at you moms.

I hope you come up with a good solution. your babies will help you through this time. we are thinking of you..

I am so sorry such a thing has happened to you. I hope you can work
things out between you and your mom. Your idea sounds ok for now.
At least this will give you time to get your head straightened out.
You need time to think. I would try and speak to your BF he owes
you an explaination. Looks like he took the cowardly way out.
Don't let him get away with it. Face to face ,after two years, he
owes you that.
Good luck sweetie,

So sorry this is happening to you dear... stay positive and focused and you'll find your way. Keep in mind that if your still a student dear, buying a house right now might be a bit much... its a huge commitment and something that should be carefully thought out... Wishing the best for ya :)

I graduate in a week...

I am so sorry you are going through this, I would be so angry not about the break up part (that would mostly hurt) but the letter thing. I mean if he couldn't even sum up the nerve to tell you personally then is just not thinking straight. Too mad for him, and just think it's his loss. He goes off alone and you still have all our babies.

Wow! You must be in total shock. :( I am so sorry that this has happened to you. I am thinking that the place you have to move out of belongs to your ex? If not, then I would not be the one to leave! I would make him move out! :mad: :mad:

If it does belong to him and you must leave, I would find a roommate and rent a house. Meanwhile, maybe you could get some baby-sitting help? At least until finals are over...

I am so sorry this has happened.:( Yes, your boyfriend totally took the coward's way out...what a loser! I have a few suggestions, but am far more vindictive than *most* people, so I'll refrain.:cool: You are far better off without him!
I know things will be hard for a bit, but they will all work out for you and your babies in the end. At least you have a bunch of people here willing to help you see what a jerk he was!;)

Oh girl!!!

Why do guys do this right before the holidays!!?? What a meanie!

BIG HUGS!!!

If you want to talk, you can call me.(PM me for #) Man I have been through this with my BF of 4 yrs. We broke up at this time about 2 yrs ago.

I hope all works out with your babies.

Stacy