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Ahhh I wish you guys lived closer to me then you all could come for Thanksgiving to our house..hehehe.:D I feel your sadness....a long time ago when I had two male Yorkies I took them everywhere for the holidays to my mom's house. Then one year my brother wanted it at his house so my mom said ok. He told her to tell me that we were welcome but not our two Yorkies. Same problem as you but I decided they didn't want my dogs so I wasn't going. So to make a long story short my husband and I went out to dinner on Thanksgiving which still left the doggies at home for a couple of hours. To this day I feel bad about my decision but today I am older and wiser. I was a very young stubborn woman (now I am an older stubborn woman..lol) and if all possible have Thanksgiving with your family....your baby will be OK for a couple of hours. Leave plenty of toys/food/music/tv on and all will be good. ;) |
I feel for you. We have a 33 year-old niece that lives out of state who is very allergic to dogs. For nine years, our first yorkie was the only dog in the family. When she would come in for the holidays, we couldn't bring our dog. :((( I would ask her nicely if she could puh-leez see an allergist and TRY a prescription for Claritan or Zyrtec. She never really gave it a try. Then, 3 other family members all got dogs, and the 4 of us dog owners seem to be the ones who take turns hosting. Now everyone is on her case to at least try something so her visits can be more bearable. Basically, my husband says he works soooo many looong hours at work, that when he gets a holiday or vacation time-off, he wants to spend it with his dog because he gets to see her the least. If we can't bring the dog, then he won't go! I think the fair compomise is the fact that you will be bringing a crate along. And it will be YOU tending to your pupster, not anybody else. I just don't understand people who won't let the little dogs in. I can understand the big dogs, but we have 2 big labradoodles in our family that are invited for the holidays. The more the merrier! I am a little freaked out over leaving my dog unattended in a hotel room. What if someone (maid, room service employee) comes in the room while you are out, sees a yorkie and steals it???? Too bad you won't be in my area-I would babysit for you while you participated in your family gathering. Maybe there is a YT member near where you will be going who can help??? Good Luck! |
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This is why I do all the holiday get together, this is also the reason we live out in the country, my kids all have large dogs, so all the dogs and all the people can all come and enjoy themselves, I do make sure the relatives know we have dogs before they come and how many and they are welcome to bring theirs, last year we had 15 people 8 large dogs and 3 little dogs for Thanksgiving, everyone had a blast, of course the big dogs stay outside. we do have a heated area for the large dogs if the weather is bad. |
I try to have the holiday parties, but I only get away with that so often. Loki and Sammy shouldn't have to spend the day alone, so we either bring them with and bring their crates or I stay home. Or we only stay a few hours. Some people just dont understand that you cant leave Yorkies home alone all day like big dogs, especially ours that are housetrained and go outside, therefore need to be let out, and because they are used to someone being home all day. Good luck. I tend to dread Holiday season... Luckily MY mom is awesome and she loves her grandpuppies. She was over today and she's like, why dont we do crab legs and fondue so we dont have to cook a turkey or ham :D |
I feel so bad for you :( It's a hard situation for sure. My mom has decided that even though she has 2 dogs, and 2 cats, her bf's allergies are bad and I'm no longer welcome to bring my furkids over *rolls eyes*. I'm not happy w/the decision, but I have to respect her wishes in her home. Sometimes I don't go over because I don't want to leave the furkids, and sometimes I do for short periods of time. |
I think you need to take a step back and look at the situation for both sides: You have every right to do what works for your family & dog. But, you have to respect what you MIL want and doesn't want. If you can't stay at your MIL, then what about a hotel. If you can not afford a hotel, then maybe your family will choose to stay home. Your MIL has every RIGHT to ask you not to bring the dog! Her house, her rules. **If I was going to visit someone who said they didn't want my dog. I would be completely respectful of that. I would then make other arrangments that worked for me. |
Things like this make me glad all my family I spend holidays with live within an hour's drive. :rolleyes: |
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If you're coming to Florida, you can leave the dogs with me. I'll gladly babysit. I'll be home all Thanksgiving weekend. PM me if you need my help. |
I pray you can work this out. Your actions could set a precedent for years and visits to come. I don't really have anything else to offer than what has already been said. I'm just imaging that if you have spent years living so far from family & are now close enough to drive, it might be very important to keep the lines of communication open with your MIL. My heart breaks for you that you are in this predicament. |
That is a difficult situation. Some people just are not dog lovers. I personally just do not let how my family members reaction are feelings toward my furbaby bother me; hard for some but better in the long run. I respect there wishes if they do not want my furbaby in their homes. But if they come to mine oh well that a different story. I really feel bad for you. I hope it works out. |
Maybe this is rude...but when it comes to my little monkey i dont think i'd care.... I dont have anyone who I trust enough to let her stay with except my parents. Since that wouldnt be an oprtion if they were in a diferent state i would say if she doesnt go i dont go. She wouldnt expect you to leave one of HER Grandchildren at some random neighbors house so why should you leave your doggy. |
You can just tell her(if it's Florida), with gas prices like they are, that you won't be making it this year..then just make a meal at home for your family.. You can't really compare kids to dogs..a child is a human being..most people like kids, but aren't exactly dog lovers.. My in-laws love the g-kids to death, but when it comes to dogs, they just aren't dog people |
I would start with asking your husband to talk to her and find out why, since she is his mother it would probably be easier for him to ask why she has asked you not to bring your baby. It may just be that she is afraid of him getting hurt or being in the way,and if he tells his mother how you would keep him in a playpen,keep a belly band on him and the such,ther may not be any problems. |
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