Originally Posted by Lexi Rae (Post 957677)

sorry , but my dog comes before my boyfriend.. sorry again.. plenty of
fish in the sea..... first come first serve.... he just needs alittle more
lovin thats all..... the dog is obviously hurting

Originally Posted by amyd (Post 957697)

wow.........

he used to be crate trained and you started letting him in the bed, now you want to go back to the crate.

he used to have two dogs to play with, now he has none.

he's used to live with x-bf, then with parents, now somewhere else.

give the poor fella a break! I say he needs some stability and some reassurance from new bf that he is loved. you can't let someone new come in and change everything. It's not fair to you or the dog. everything that he was used to is GONE.

Originally Posted by Thorsmomma (Post 952111)

He would scratch a hole through the door! And of course bark like crazy...and whine. I though he was going to kill himself last night the way he was barking, whining, and panting from getting himself all worked up.!!!

To answer some other question, he slept in my room with me on the floor, or in the bed, which ever he chose. He's always been flexible I guess you could say. When I lived with my X he slept in the bed. Then I moved home with my 'rents and he slept in his crate, then in my room, or sometimes in my parents bed.

Why can't he sleep in our room anymore. My BF is a firefigher:luvu: has a crazy schedule, needs sleep when he's home, and sleeps very lightly. Thor gets up and whines in the night. OR will just start prancing around. Our bedroom is very small and we can't fit a crate in there.

He's got water, a blanket, a shirt that smells like me, a bone...a nice bed...He just has to be at my feet all the time. Also my BF is tired of Thor being so attached to me (he is a little too attached) and get jealous of the attention that I have to give to Thor constantly so he'll just act normal.

Everyone says this will take time but how long? I can't do this much longer and I don't want to give up on him.

thanks for listening and all the responses!

Originally Posted by itsrox (Post 957604)

You know, I think that this is not necessary. I think that was a mean response to put up. Firstly, the reality of the situation is that her dog is going through changes that she may or may not be able to deal with. I love my Cali very much, however, she is not my child, she is a dog FIRST and I don't expect her to act as anything different. If I had to chose between my family and my dog, well, my family definitely come first, husband included. I think too many people look at dogs as their children (even I say Cali is my baby), but how can you compare the two? I bought my dog from a breeder, I carried my children inside of me. I can talk to my children and know that they understand what I'm saying. I train my dog to do as I say. Sure, Cali is loyal and all, but I don't think that if my husband never likes my dog, well that means he's gonna stop liking me next. That, to me, is crazy. Life is what it is, we are all consumed with our own. Our quality of life is important, and to me, when you take care of yourself, you can take care of others even better. So she should do whatever is going to make her and her boyfriend happy, and hopefully things work out for the best for all who are involved, doggy included.

Thorsmomma, I hope the best for you.

Originally Posted by Lexi Rae (Post 957677)

sorry , but my dog comes before my boyfriend.. sorry again.. plenty of
fish in the sea..... first come first serve.... he just needs alittle more
lovin thats all..... the dog is obviously hurting

Originally Posted by kaymo (Post 957738)

how old is Thor? I think we have to remember that dogs are pack animals and when we adopt them we become their pack so that's why Thor wants to be with you every minute you're home including sleeping in your bedroom/bed! ;) If you had another dog or pet it probably wouldn't be an issue for Thor sleeping with you because he wouldn't be alone. I'm not saying to get another dog I'm just pointing out why he's so unhappy, he's lonely. :(

BTW, has your boyfriend ever had a dog before? Maybe he doesn't understand the bond we feel with our dogs. We bring our pets into our homes and become their sole source of shelter, food, love and affection and in return they love us unconditionally.

Originally Posted by Thorsmomma (Post 957928)

I wouldn't consider myself someone who gets easily offened, but I am veryhurt by some of the responses to this thread. I feel like people are making judgements about me, my bf and my dog, with out understanding the issue. I don't think anyone has any clue the behaviour that we are experiencing with Thor. It is unreal. Yes Thor is my dog, and I love him dearly. I do everything I know how for him to make him happy. I bend over backwards for this little guy and have spent every last penny to make sure he's happy and to get advice on how to help us help him. We've been consistant with our training, and we also haven't slept for four nights. This is NOT an easy fix. I love my bf, and I am not letting him rule the way that I train/behave around Thor. It is so very upsetting for me and as I usually come here for good advice, and meaningful support, I feel bashed, put down and judged. I'm very hurt by some of the responses.

Over the course of my two years of being on YT, I've never felt this way...I feel horrible.