Didn't say he wasn't hurting. That's obvious.
Dog before boyfriend.........hmmm. I guess it's all about what's important to you.

i the little fella feels bad, i meant hurting that way... he loves his mamma
and wants her...he needs her attention.... and since mr boyfriend came
along he feels lonely.... hey lexi feels the same way, i have to run
myself ragged to give both lovins, but lexi get the attention first.

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Great post! Give the poor dog a break.

how old is Thor? I think we have to remember that dogs are pack animals and when we adopt them we become their pack so that's why Thor wants to be with you every minute you're home including sleeping in your bedroom/bed! ;) If you had another dog or pet it probably wouldn't be an issue for Thor sleeping with you because he wouldn't be alone. I'm not saying to get another dog I'm just pointing out why he's so unhappy, he's lonely. :(

BTW, has your boyfriend ever had a dog before? Maybe he doesn't understand the bond we feel with our dogs. We bring our pets into our homes and become their sole source of shelter, food, love and affection and in return they love us unconditionally.

Hannah,

If he is jealous of a little yorkie, then I do believe he has some problems that he needs to deal with and not you and Thor. I really do believe Thor's heart is sad right now and I am sure he is feeling very insecure. If it were me, I'd tell the boyfriend to grow up and stop being jealous of a little dog. If he's jealous now of a little dog, I'd be more than wary of what he'd be jealous of later or problems down the road. JMO

Awwwwww....Thor needs some of his old life back. I'd whine and cry too if I was kicked out of my bed. :p

He's gone thru so many changes & probably feels confused. I know I could never let my girls get that worked up over anything but I guess you needed to try. I'd tell the boyfriend (who is a grown man) to suck it up and let the little 'UNDER 10 lb' dog sleep in the bed where he's used to sleeping.

Excellent post. I remember someone saying those of us can choose to spoil our dogs all we want but when it starts to interfere with our human realationships that's when it should stop. That being said I think the dog needs a schedule and stick to it. Once you take a dog in your bed they are 'alpha' and that is what Thor is at the moment. Let your b/f know you are working on it and he ( b/f) comes first and it will just take alittle time. Good Luck.

I'm with you, Gina. :thumbup:

Ya know, I don't remember Thorsmomma asking for advice about her relationship with her boyfriend. She asked for advice about Thor. My advice is this: give the pup some time. He's going through alot of changes right now.

I agree 100% with this. Dogs are indeed pack animals. I just got added a lab to my family and he is completely cool in his crate as long as hubby, me, Hootie and/or Hobbs are in the same room with him. The second he is left all alone in a room by himself, he goes nuts. He wants to be with the pack. At night, my lab sleeps in a crate and Hootie and Hobbs sleep in bed with us, but Lamar is completely fine with this as long as he is in the room with us and can see us and smell us. Otherwise, he is NOT a happy camper. I am sure Thor is feeling these same things. He has been with a pack for so long (his 2 other friends and in bed with you) and now he is isolated. He's just sad. :(

I wouldn't consider myself someone who gets easily offened, but I am veryhurt by some of the responses to this thread. I feel like people are making judgements about me, my bf and my dog, with out understanding the issue. I don't think anyone has any clue the behaviour that we are experiencing with Thor. It is unreal. Yes Thor is my dog, and I love him dearly. I do everything I know how for him to make him happy. I bend over backwards for this little guy and have spent every last penny to make sure he's happy and to get advice on how to help us help him. We've been consistant with our training, and we also haven't slept for four nights. This is NOT an easy fix. I love my bf, and I am not letting him rule the way that I train/behave around Thor. It is so very upsetting for me and as I usually come here for good advice, and meaningful support, I feel bashed, put down and judged. I'm very hurt by some of the responses.

Over the course of my two years of being on YT, I've never felt this way...I feel horrible.

Well, I don't think it's a mean response. If it rubs someone the wrong way, it does not meant it's not closer to the truth. What happened to our responsibility? When you get a creature shouldn't you be able to take care of it or at the first site of problem, when the dog starts acting up when we make changes in it's life.
And if personal life is far more important and the people cannot handle having the dog, why they get the dog on the first place? Just because it looks cute in the pictures? There are so many animals are in the shelters now because of similar reasons, some of the which kill animals by the away.

Thorsmomma,

I couldn't agree with you more. I too was getting upset (for you) as I was reading through this thread. You came here for help and to vent, and while many offered that some, imo, have gotten inapproriately negative.
Please ignore the comments about your boyfriend etc., and focus on those who are trying to offer reasonable, helpful, support and advice.

sorry courtney if i affended you, didnt mean to... im woman enough to
say it..... dont know if it was me or not, but just letting you know its all good. i just feel so bad for you and your situation with your baby...
i will say a little prayer for you and hope it all works out.. good luck

Girl...I posted here on page 3 and really think if he hates it that much then maybe go back to the old way that he spent his nights - even if it means a little up and down time for you both - I didn't want you feeling bashed - that's why I out that goofy smiley dude in my post. :p :p :p BUT - he really has had alot of change in his life and maybe for now - why not let him sleep in the bed ?? I know my girls sleep awesome with me - they were frisky when puppies - but they do grow out of that & maybe he's just going thru a phase - I bet he'd settle down if he was closer to you & it's way better than him hyperventilating and crying all night....

Everyone be easy on Hannah. She is having some problems with Thor that we are not haing with our dogs so maybe we just cant really understand where she is coming from. Never the less she came to us for support and encouragement not to be bashed or to have her boyfriend bashed. Hannah I dont have any answers to the problems you are facing but I have been reading your posts and it looks like you are looking for solutions. I hope you find them

Look, the post have said I cannot take him anymore. It sounded as if the person writing it was fed up with the dog for acting out. What are the answers are you looking for? Practical advice or to share the unhappy experience? Well, people are giving many options and it does not seem to help. There is no reason to get upset just to take it seriously that's all. All this supportive lovy dovy stuff, sorry I don't buy it. All I am saying treat the dog responsibly and with respect, and if you have to explore options which best for him and for you so be it. Just make sure he is in good hands.

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Hannah, I know when my parents moved to a new house, their yorkie had a TERRIBLE time adjusting. She was up and down all night, a nervous wreck, vomiting and diarrheaing all over the house, would not eat....it was a mess. But after a couple of weeks, everything slowly got back to normal. They just treated KoKo the way they always had and let KoKo work out her own kinks that she was experiencing. I know you are having a hard time with Thor. Be patient with him. A move in and of itself is a HUGE change for the little guy...maybe one change at a time will help out with the situation. Best of luck to you. :)

Try covering the crate w/a blanket & no lights or tv on. I know it can be frustrating but its worth it in the long run. Is there a petsmart near by, maybe some obediance training. I am lucky to have found a adult that had been crated. She is so calm & when I get home from work just a few minutes of attention is good enough for her. Puppies are so demanding, I know I dont have the time or patience for that. I have been looking for another yorkie, adult/preadult, not much luck-just a male & I thought oh my then I might end up w/a bunch of puppies:eek: I know i could neuter but I see where busy schedules & unsuspected heats cause for 3-5 little oopsies:rolleyes:Can you imagine. So I'm back to the drawing board of looking for a adult female to purchase/adopt. I think thats the best choice for me. I am to impatient for a pup/young dog. Dont get me wrong I spoil my girl endlessly w/everything she needs for fun & health wise & she sleeps w/us & has full run of the house. There is normally always someone home but we dont live where there are sidewalks for walks or a pet store that has obidience training so I am glad I chose the right dog for my family. I dont think there is anything wrong w/rehoming a dog to a family better suited family. Do you think this may be a option you might have to choose? I really hate to see you at the end of your rope. I got a dog once, a 12wk old retriever pup it was horrible, it was insane, I felt there was something wrong w/it & called the place I got it after 2 weeks, then 4 then after 6 wks of trying my hardest I just told them I wanted a refund & that the dog needed to be evaluated, I felt it may become aggressive. They refunded most of the money & assured me they would run tests & do what was best for the dog. I wouldnt attempt to find it a home, for one I had paid them alot of money & felt it was their responsibility to take care of the problem, 2- I was not going to be responsible for the dog getting abused for the new owner loosing their temper & hurting it. Because believe me it drove you to that point & everytime I felt that way I would pick the phone up crying & report the dogs behavior to them. Finally since I would never have pushed the dog on someone else I demanded they take the dog back & a partial refund because of all the damage the dog had done to our home. I know this isnt your situation exactly but I just wanted to share & say that it is ok to admit a dogs behavior is to much for you & try to rehome before it goes to far. I hope you find a solution soon. I know how awful it is to deal w/the problem & how hard it is to say you are just ready to loose it over your dog & then how hurtful it is to let them go because you love them so much but cant deal w/your world being turned upside down for what could be 20 years :eek: I felt I handled it right, I did cry the day I took her back but the next morning I felt I could breath again. It didnt totally turn me off from the idea of owning a dog,obviously, but it made me rethink taking more time to find one that is a match for my lifestyle

Didn't the OP state she was venting within the first couple of posts? If you'd had stress of moving and little sleep wouldn't you be at a little P.O'd? Add to that an equally as stressed dog and you can expect someone to need to vent! I think the OP was saying with the title, I don't know what else to do for him... I don't think she was implying she was giving up and getting rid of Thor!

The forum is for people to express themselves, answer questions, give advice, laugh with others, cry along with others and if they feel the need to... TO VENT!

Her responsibility to Thor is not in question, neither is her relationship and certainly not whether the dog was in safe hands or not!!! Only she knows her dog best and she is doing everything she can think to help Thor.

We are a large loving family who are here for each other, (although some of us not as long), but we support each other!

If you can't say anything nice or upsetting then please, just don't say anything at all!!

I was going to say something (even though I don't usually butt into topics like this). But it kinda of upset me too because I thought some of the comments were going a little overboard but you've said it all in a nutshell! The thing about opinions is that people are always going to have them no matter how factually or morally dead wrong they are.

Most interesting thing it that, since morality is now at play, it would be nice to find out what the author's real intent here or people are just going to keep answering on her behalf?

Yes this is a public forum and yes everyone does have a right to express their own opinion... BUT, if that opinion is outrightly hurting another individual then you should keep it to yourself!

How is being supportive a waste of time? If someone is genuinely worried or concerned about something do you not feel that they need someone to support them? Didn't the OP turn to the forum for support? We have members do this every day, whether it be their dog having a day day or their dog dying!

How can you expect someone not to take something you said personally when it was aimed at them specifically?

Surely the OP real intent was to have somewhere to voice her worries to get it off her chest. Being a forum of Yorkie lovers and many of them having a wide knowledge and experience of the breed I could think of nowhere better than here to voice them and I'd expect to get support and constructive advice. I certainly would not expect to get bashed or have my partner bashed!

I can not blame the OP for not reply, she expressed her hurt by the comments posted already.

Now this is off topic.... the topic was Thor being unsettled in his new environment... this does not help the situation any!

Well, I think I will make that decision what to keep to myself and at what time and how to express it. But for now, none of the advice seem to help her, at least this was previously mentioned by the authour. So I would be interested to know what she decides to do. And also, what are other animal lovers think about that. Actually, I personally realize that dogs are dogs and children are children. Therefore, that's why they are rarely called "babies" which seems so common among some members. Although, the love is there nevertheless. So how often should the mother give them up?

Yes, we're all going to answer on her behalf. Because that's what FAMILY do for each other. I believe her REAL INTENT was to get her frustration off her chest a little and maybe get some tips on what she could do to help. Bashing her certainly isn't going to help, and I KNOW that isn't what her REAL INTENT was.

Funny how you just got here and already you're starting stuff. Makes me wonder what YOUR "REAL INTENT" is, hmmmmmmmmmm?

I was gonna say that but I've only been here since December and I didn't want to be accused of being a basher too!

Couldn't agree more with what you said!

I too am capable of realising that Gypsy is a dog and not a child... but she is still my baby! I call my partner "Baby" but that doesn't mean I think he's a child does it? (At least I don't all the time!)

I think that a lot of you have jumped to conclusions without knowing the entire story. Thor has been through a lot the past couple of weeks and Hannah knows that (she is a good mom to Thor), as do the members that have followed Hannah and Thor's big adventure.

I am quite sure that we have all at one time or another felt frustrated and upset when we don't know what to do. I know I did when I moved Simon and Hallie from Alaska to Virginia and ultimately to NY. We spent many weeks readjusting and I was very frustrated at times. If I had been a member then I would have posted a thread just like this one and YES I would have felt very offended by what I have read here.

Let's be courteous about the issue at hand. If Hannah needs a place to get this off her chest, let her but do not criticize, judge, or demean her especially if you don't know her.

Thank You~

That's exactly what I was trying to say!

Hannah, I hope you are okay... x