I think I have baby blues!
 

Hi, everyone -

It's been a little over a week since we picked up Teddy, and he is the sweetest little yorkie you can imagine. We both love him dearly. However ... and this is my own fault ... I have never had a dog before, let alone a puppy, and had no idea Teddy would be this much work! I love him and am going to get through this, but I get so overwhelmed and teary, probably from sleep deprivation (he's a terrible whiner when we put him in his pen or his crate). My boyfriend, bless his heart, is so good to Teddy, but gets frustrated that I'm so weepy when I was the one who wanted a yorkie for years and years! My boyfriend's mom says I have baby blues, and that it's normal to feel overwhelmed, and assured us that it's okay to put Teddy in his pen sometimes so he isn't indulged all the time. Has anyone else felt like this? I feel so silly crying like this, but I can't help it. We both work days and it seems like nothing gets done anymore, we're both so involved with Teddy. Any advice?:aimeeyork

join the crowd, yes i think we have all felt the way you feel... i cried too.
good luck... patience is all you will need. it will all work out. promise

bringing in a new baby into any schedule or household is hard, if it be human or animal its the same. time will make things better.

[QUOTE=TamTam]Hi, everyone -

Don't put the crate too far from your bed. Your furbaby need to see you. The first weeks are hard until the puppy get used to his new family. When I picked up my Kissie, the first night she was in the crate in the kitchen. The second night and the first week, she slept in my bed between my husband's pillow and mine. She slept all night long. They need to be near people. Now she is one year. I bought for her a little bed (like human bed but small). I put it near my bed but she still prefers to sleep with us. Yorkies are not simply pets... You'll get used to...

New babies, puppies or human can sure screw up the household schedule can't they? LOL It's worth it though!!! You know, I use to clean my home from top to bottom every weekend. Then my mom told me a little story: She used to clean her house every weekend too (guess that's where I got it from) and my Dad would say "let's go here" or "let's do this" and she never would because she wanted the house clean for herself, him and us kids. Well all us "kids" are grown with families of our own, and Daddy passed away in '73. Now she tells me she should have done all the fun stuff with us, because now she has all the time in the world to clean. My house is clean, but no longer a top priority. My husband, son and doggies are!!!

Yes it is overwhelming, especially so since you had no idea what to expect. If you can just put him in a larger area at night rather than the crate, it might help.

Ollie hated the crate and cried every night for the first week. Then I took the door off of her crate, and just blocked off he laundry area for her. After that no more crying.. Also make sure you wear him out before bed time so he is tired.

Oh girl, you sure are NOT alone on this!!
I had terrible baby blues when Chanel (my second) yorkie came home.
The first few hours were fine, we got visitors admiring the baby oohhhing and ahhhhing all over her, she was way tiny, Chelsey was only 5 months old at that time.
All the visitors left, and here i sat with this tiny little thing, Chelsey hated her the first 10 days and i felt aweful and so guilty!
When the puppies were asleep, i quickly did some chores around the house, it was far from spotless like i was used to!
Cleaning up after them, and getting their next meal ready and clean potty pads on the floors (oh how i remember) LOL
Now that they a bit older and can keep themselves occupied, i look back and just smile, time goes so fast, soon you will wish your baby was a little puppy again! ;)

Good luck and remember it will soon change!

I had them. My dad suggested I get rid of Sadie. I told him I couldn't because I loved her too much. He said "but sometimes it just doesn't work out...like with people". I disagreed, and I've still got her. She can sometimes be a brat still, but she's MY brat & I could never get rid of her.

You are not alone! I get them everytime I get one. It' s like What did I do! It gets so much better and you will not regret it.

Thanks, everyone! That makes me feel a lot better! I felt like such a weirdo, like I was the only person in the world who would cry over getting a puppy she'd wanted for years!
Anyway, things are getting a bit better - Teddy's made progress pottying outside and on the pad, we take him for looooong walks, and we let him snuggle on our bed before putting him night-night in his crate. Thanks again for all your suggestions and comfort. :) :aimeeyork

They are worth it but when you get this way it's time to rest. Put that baby in your bed and he will sleep and so will you!

Your NOT alone!!!! This was my story last night......dont get me wrong they are soooo cute and loveable but when your not used to having a puppy around 24/7 its hard. For the first 4 days we had James my soon to be hubby and I didnt speak a word to each other except to james!! Things seem to be calming a lil bit but certain times that are normally quiet time hanging out~~~are not so quiet anymore:p Im sure it can only get eaiser as times goes and there trained

Tam Tam,
You are not alone! Just when you think you will never get a decent nite sleep again, you realize you made it through those first couple months and all of a sudden all of these little successes happen. and before you know it, you are like.. "wow, I am so proud of my little girl/guy" and they are growing up and you hardly remember those nites getting up every couple hours, paining over the whining and crying and realizing the rewards of your patience and consisitency in training your little one. Sometimes you have to try to put yourself in their "paws" and understand the way they feel when you get them home-- new unfamiliar house, new people, taken away from their mommy and only environment they knew all their little furry life thus far. They are pack animals and it is in their nature to want to be near you at bedtime etc, once they have that security of knowing you are always there for them and the pack leader as it may be, then you see a change and a confidence level in your little one. Love them, be patient, repetitive, loving and patient, and consistent, (oh yeah, did I say patient??? :) ) and it will get better! The more you invest and contribute to your human - canine relationship, the bigger reward in a loving, respectful, well trained, fun companion you will have.

PS. Welcome to YT! and I notice you are in Minnetonka, I live in Chanhassen!

My sister had a puppy that cried as soon as she went into the crate...she also has birds and one night covered the crate with a sheet like she does the birds and the puppy stopped crying...Now everytime she's in her crate, she has to have the sheet on it......

that is how my dixie sleeps too, if i dont cover her cage, she cries... as soon as i cover her she is quiet, do whatever works :) you need your sleep

Don't feel bad!! When I got my second yorkie I cried so much I got a migraine!! It lasted a couple of days!! I was crying for no reason. First it was because I thought that my first yorkie felt hurt. Then I cried and cried and cried!! It will pass!! Good luck to you!!

Baby Blues
 

You not alone! When we brought Bear home I had to contend with our older dog, Beau, pouting all over the place:eek: and Bear relieving himself all over the place.:rolleyes: It was almost like when our youngest child was born and her siblings whined all the time! Hang in there, things will get better.:)

When I got my first yorkie 3 years ago I felt the same way. I was a very young mother and I successfully raised twin human daughters who are 25 now and I felt like such a fool to be having trouble adjusting to just a puppy. About two weeks into having her I panicked because for one whole evening I just wanted to give her away for good, as I thought I had made a bad mistake. I kept her, thank god. I love her so much now I panic at the thought of something happening to her. I think maybe some of what you go through may be just part of the bonding experience even with pets. I have since added my second yorkie and she in her own little way has been a little bit of an adjustment, but I am so much more relaxed with any negative feelings knowing how much joy they bring....

I feel crazy. I have wanted this dog for so long. She is so cute and gets a long great with my boys. And I am in my bed crying thinking I made a mistake. I don't know what to do. My puppy deserves a better Mom then me.:(

Pinky, it is overwelming, a new baby in the house takes getting use to!
I promise you girl, in a few weeks time, you will feel a lot better.
Dont feel bad, and dont feel guilty, just remember to pick her up and love her, she feels your emotions, and you need to bond with her.
They grow up so fast, in a few months time you will be longing for those little puppy days again.
You are a good mom, it really isnt unusual or abnormal to have the blues.
Good luck to you, PM me if you want to chat, i'm here for you.

HUGS!!

Thank you both. I feel a lot better today. It helps thinking others felt the same way and that it will get better. :)

Oh my lord, you are not weird or alone in this. The weekend we got our little baby Samson my husband was away, so I headed up to my mother-in-law's house (she's the one who picked him up from the breeder) with my sister-in-law. I feel in love at first site, but man did Samson cry those first few nights. Right away I knew it was going to be a lot of hard work and patience. However, after two nights up north, I came home on sunday. I was by myself with Samson for the first time and I just sat down and cried and cried. I called my husband up (he was on his way home but still hours away) and wailed to him "I Think we made a mistake!!!!!!!!!" I was so overwhelmed. I called a friend who has an older yorkie and she talked me off the ledge a little bit, but I was still totally freaked out.

Samson is now 8 months and we are still having trouble potty training him. Just two nights ago I sat on the floor and cried because he peed on the carpet AGAIN!!! It's so overwhelming and sometimes you think it's never going to happen. But a few months ago, he was doing great, so I know we can get there again.

lol You sound just like me. Are you sure you were not spying on my last night. lol But you are supposed to say by 8 months my puppy will be trained.:):) Good luck to you. I'm sure your pup will get it back.

I wish I had joined yorkietalk when I got Isla 2 months ago. I went through the same thing right after I brought her home. I knew exactly what I was because I had post partum anxiety after my 2nd child. I have four kids under 5 years old but when I turned 30 in August I wanted a housedog. Apparently turning 30 doesn't make you any smarter! :) I had a yorkie when I was a kid and loved him and have always wanted one for my family--and me. But when you have that many kids so young there isn't a whole lot of time for another 'baby.' Since the kids were starting to get older and more self-sufficient I thought I would be able to manage it. I put strict regulations on myself and her like she had to stay in the kitchen while getting used to the house so she wouldn't potty on the carpet, she had to sleep in her kennel at night and while we were away, taking her out every 20-30 min., etc. It instantly reminded me of feeling 'trapped' with a baby. I was like, 'what did I do to myself?' She was a very good puppy, but she was a puppy nonetheless.

Since it was my idea for the puppy I didn't feel like it was anyone else's responsibility but my own to care for her. Stupid, I know. Ultimately I had to go on anti-anxiety meds since that's what helped last time. I'm not saying you would have to, I just know my body and mind and that's what helped get me through.

But! Isla did get better and I only sat in the kitchen with her for a week or so and then I thought to myself-get a grip and bring her out in the house. I had her on a leash for the first 3-4 days just so I could watch her. But she got better fast. And at night it helped to have her kennel next to my bed on a chair so she could see me and smell me. I would stick my fingers in her kennel if she would whine and she'd stop. It also helped to walk her or have her play with neighbors dogs before bed (8-10ish).

Anyways, like others have said, it get better fast and you'll be loving your new family member. Be stong!!! ;)