Danni- I'm going to try to say this in the nicest way possible. Abusers ALWAYS swear they have self control. But the very fact that your Mother's idea of discipline has escalated to beating with a belt tells me that she doesn't.

Please heed the advice given here and talk toyour dad immediately. The next time this happens might be too late.

what your Mom is doing is wrong and abuse and you are doing your best to justify it which is what victims do. I know there may be changes if you let your dad know what is going on but as your other parent he needs to know. Sometimes the right thing to do is also the hardest thing to do. Please get help

please!!!!

Please, Please!

If your measure Luke's waist and length, I will make you a belly band and send it to you, at my expense. Also, have you thought of contacting a yorkie rescue and surrendering him? If you do end up moving in with your father and can't take Luke, I hope you will consider surrender! You can pm me with the information about the bellyband, if you decide that you would like one, I would be more than happy to help.....my offer is genuine.

Spr377 that is very sweet of you. I didnt even know who on here even made the bellybands anymore so its great that you have offered to make one. Danni I hope you know we all care about you and are worried about you and are just trying to help you. Honestly Ive seen some upseting situations on here but I think this one tops it. We just want whats best for you and Luke

Chachi, I have made tons of belly bands for my Leo! Doesn't take much time at all, and I have all the materials.......

I also wish I hadn't read this. The best thing for Luke is a better home where he will be properly trained on how to go potty, he should be PRAISED and given a treat when he goes where he is supposed to go and NOT hit when he is scared or has an accident! I think you can help Luke by training him the RIGHT way, by providing a designated place where he can relieve himself and enforcing the good behavior with a reward. NOT VIOLENCE!

Well that was really sweet of you to offer your time and resources to make her one. I hope she takes you up on your offer

Danni, I am quite concerned with your situation. I know as you have told us that you are only 16 yrs old, many of us who have responded are quite a bit older, and mayhap wiser.

Please oh please don't take this the wrong way, but if your situation is as you described, where your Mom hits you, and as described by you beats the family dog; this is a very unhealthy and dangerous situation for YOU and for Luke.

I don't know how much your Dad knows, or even if you feel comfortable talking with him, but if so, then you need to now. Not tomorrow, or when next he visits, but Now.

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I will be seeing my dad on Thurday, and I will explain everything to him. Especially how my mom's abuse of the dog has escalted. He came over the day he peed on the couch, actually, but he left too soon and I didn't really have a chance to get out the full story, just a few warnings that I think she's beating the dog too hard. She will probably listen to him better than she listens to me.

I am beginging to think that Luke did not have an accident on the couch, but might have been marking territory. He's hasn't exhibited anymore symptoms of a UTI, so I think he may be OK in that case.

Also, I will have to turn down the offer for the bellybands, spr337. It would make my mom too suspicious if I recieved a bellyband through the mail. I will just have to tell her to pick one up at the store if he does it again. I told her neutering may stop him marking territory, so she might just do that.

And, like I said, if my mom does hit me for saying anything about the dogs, I will tell my dad that as well. My dad does belive in coporal punishment, but the proper kind. A few taps on the behind and you're done, but I don't think he would agree with if my mom hit me for offering advice/telling her that leaving bruises is wrong.

Also, I will have to turn down the offer for the bellybands, spr337,

I meant spr377! Sorry.

Im glad your going to open up to your dad he really needs to know what is going on

I talked to my dad today, he said he would talk to her about it. He seemed surprised when I told him she left bruises, and he understood how much that upset me. But my dad may actually not be able to talk to her. He's got a lot on his plate right now, so I'm not sure.

My hopes are high, though!