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Latuya · 07-26-2005, 09:44 PM

Do any of you have a goodie tooshoes for a daughter? My youngest Val is such a worry wart. The honest one by far in our family. She is one of those who will stress about her grades. God forbid if she ever got any grade lower then a B. She is very quiet and sweet. A neat freak big time. I don't know where she gets that from? Well she's been having a problem with a brat from her school. This girl lives on the next street over and even bullies her here at home. It's been to where she doesn't even to go outside and play. When I ask her if there was something wrong, she says no, that it is just too hot to play. I know my daughter and knew she was hiding something. I over heard her crying to my older daughter about this bully last night. I felt so bad. She didn't want to tell me because she knew I would talk to her parents and she didn't want to give the girl something to bully her even more. So my older daughter told her that she needs to stand up for herself and not let her bully or boss her around.

I'm making dinner today when I hear Gus going crazy!!! He was running from door to door barking. There was something different about his bark so I open the door and Gus takes off running. I can't run all that fast because of my ankel, but when I got to the end of the garage,,, I see my daughter and this bully going at it on the side walk 2 houses down and my son and his friends are trying to break them apart. This little quiet, sweet girl turned into Tyson. Gus was defending his sister. I had to get him out of the way so he wouldn't get hurt or hurt the brat. I was so proud of both my babies,,, Val for finally standding up for herself and Gus for protecting his sister. She thought she was going to be in a lot of trouble but I told her,,,,,, I really don't condone fighting,,,,, but if any of my kids have to defend themselves as a last resort,,, by all means do so. As for the bully, I had to take her home and tell her parent what had happened. Looks like she will be grounded for a while. And my Val,,,,, she has a small scatch on her left cheek but feels good about standing up for herself. I kept her in for the rest of the day as punishment,,,, had to play the part that I wasnt happy that she kicked this bully ass!!!

YorkieinBe · 07-26-2005, 10:00 PM

GO Val! I do not condone fighting as well, but a kid can only take so much! Maybe now the bully will realize that Val is too much to handle and will leave her alone! That's usually all it takes! How old is she?
And Go Gus!! He wanted to protect his sister! LOL

Brooke

velobabe · 07-26-2005, 10:13 PM

Monica ~ I'm so sad to hear that your precious little girl had to resort to fighting, which it seems is not in her nature, because some bully forced her into that situation. Unfortunately that's the way of the world in many cases today. I too would be extremely proud of her for standing up for herself and also proud of little Gus Gus. Amazing how brave our little ones can be. I tell my daughter that if it ever came to her having to stand up for herself in such a manner that she would never get into trouble for doing so. She never has been in a fight but I want her to be prepared if the time ever comes where someone is out to hurt her. As parents we want so much to protect our children but there are those out there that make that job very difficult and we can't always be with them. Hopefully this will be the end of the problem with this girl. I wouldn't hesitate to go to her parents in the future now that they are aware that there is a problem with their child. Give Val a big hug, and Gus also, for being so brave.

jesscruz · 07-26-2005, 10:18 PM

i sooo hate bullies to me that is bad parenting

i always teach my girls that you treat people the way you would like to be treated, to be thier own person and not to follow others, and i always make sure that they know that no matter how pretty you are if your mean and have a bad attitude it makes you look ugly. i'm glad that your little girl stood up for herself.

Latuya · 07-26-2005, 10:21 PM

Thank you,,, Val just turned 9 and is very little for her age. Here is some pictures of my 2 brave babies

velobabe · 07-26-2005, 10:36 PM

They are so BEAUTIFUL!! You must be so proud!! Val is a gorgeous girl...who could hurt that sweet little face?? She's precious! Gus is a cutie too

Marie · 07-26-2005, 11:02 PM

We are so proud of your two brave babies. Your daugther Val is better pretty.
I hate bullies also. My son was bullied when he was on the second grade. He kept telling his teacher and they wouldnt do anything. I told my son: tell your teacher that I said to give the bully 3 opportunities to stop or you will defend yourself. Well they didnt do anything so my son ended up punching the bully, and he was the one that got in trouble. I went to the school and had disccused the bullying with the teacher. I was so mad that only my son was punished. I talk to the principal and she tells me why I didnt talk to his teacher before. I was fuming. My husband ended up talking with the kids parents. I always tell my son to treat others with respect but if his no other choice to defend himself.

suzysmitt · 07-27-2005, 03:32 AM

You tell Val I said I'm proud of her for sticking up for herself. Tell her I don't condone fighting too, but sometime it's the only way to let people know to leave you alone. I don't think she'll be having any more trouble for a while. Who knows she may have just made a friend and not even know it yet. Good for Gus too.

FireFish · 07-27-2005, 04:01 AM

My son was picked on for years. He had curly hair and not the demeaner to defend himself when he was young. I did what I could when he was little but as he got older he didn't want me to interfer and "make it worse". In HS he had had enough and finally stood up for himself. It stopped.

The odd part I found was when I was in school the teachers intervened when someone bullied...they looked into the sorce of what was going on. Today the policies I have seen (OH and VA) was both the perpetrator and the victim are punished equally. So it never costs the Perpetrator more than the Victim. The Victims tend to keep quiet not to "make it worse" and the Perpetrator continues.

Good for your daughter for sticking up for herself. In my experience it would have just keep going. And what a brave little Gus for taking it into his little paws.

I don't like violence but in the adult world there are police and you have avenue for getting help. I think this is getting epidemic.

NOte: no one bothers my son today but he shaved his beautiful hair because (I believe) that is what he got the most bullying over:

Brutus'mama · 07-27-2005, 04:33 AM

This is one of my biggest fears with my son who will be starting 1st grade. He is so sweet and I'm so overprotective of him. I've already had altercations with some woman who slammed a door in his face. She got my gum spit at her. With his Kindergarten bus driver who yelled at him 2 inches from his face on the top of is lungs.. I called him a f@#$%ng moron and told him if he yelled at my son again I'd have to kill him! My dh thinks since we moved out of NYC I need to go to anger management!

I'm not at all violent or confrontational but if you mess with my family it's over.

I don't want him to get bullied so what I did was sign him up for karate. They teach discipline, confidence and to only use your hands in an emergency. I'm glad he loves it and he actually just got promoted to a new belt last Saturday. I just feel I can't be with him all the time and he needs the tools to be able to defend himself if the need arises. I'm also learning it since I practice with him. This way if I need to open up a can of whoop a@# on anyone I'm prepared.

I'm sorry this happened to your beautiful daughter but hopefully that bully will leave her alone now. Good for Gus too!

Here's a picture of my son Vincent doing his "karate face"!

Brutus'mama · 07-27-2005, 04:35 AM

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Originally Posted by FireFish

NOte: no one bothers my son today but he shaved his beautiful hair because (I believe) that is what he got the most bullying over:

That's your son? He's pretty cute!

FireFish · 07-27-2005, 04:41 AM

Yep that is my son.

He is a sweetie really. sillyjacki's brother.

He was/is a sweet guy but was hurt so many times that he protects himself with a "mask" of toughness.

I think things like karate are great. I wish I lived where I could have enrolled my son. It's tough to protect them sometimes.

sillyjacki · 07-27-2005, 04:52 AM

Haha, yeah, that's my brother. And even though I shouldn't say it, he is very cute.

He's a proud daddy and a hard worker. Too bad for him, all the girls that seem to be available in this area are flaming idiots.

But he always has protected me.

Brutus'mama · 07-27-2005, 05:06 AM

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Originally Posted by sillyjacki

Haha, yeah, that's my brother. And even though I shouldn't say it, he is very cute.

He's a proud daddy and a hard worker. Too bad for him, all the girls that seem to be available in this area are flaming idiots.

But he always has protected me.

Well those stupid girls don't know what they're missing! I'm hoping my son will always protect his little sister but why do I get the feeling it's going to be the other way around?

centralnewyorki · 07-27-2005, 05:16 AM

Latuya-

Your daughter is so beautiful! After seeing her picture, I'd think this bully was probably jealous that she has so much going for her. Good for her for standing up for herself. I hate the whole issue of bullying. I've heard so many reports that bullying is a generational issue- i.e. The father or mother is a "bully" and the children pick up on the aggressive behavior.

As for Firefish's son/ sillyjacki's brother: I hate when anyone picks on another person for something they can't help. Children can't pick their hair, skin color, body shape, etc. Where's all the bullies now that your son has grown up to be quite attractive?! I bet they don't have much to say now!! LOL!

07-26-2005, 09:44 PM	#1
Latuya YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Rialto CA Posts: 3,243	Gus protected his sister,,,,, Do any of you have a goodie tooshoes for a daughter? My youngest Val is such a worry wart. The honest one by far in our family. She is one of those who will stress about her grades. God forbid if she ever got any grade lower then a B. She is very quiet and sweet. A neat freak big time. I don't know where she gets that from? Well she's been having a problem with a brat from her school. This girl lives on the next street over and even bullies her here at home. It's been to where she doesn't even to go outside and play. When I ask her if there was something wrong, she says no, that it is just too hot to play. I know my daughter and knew she was hiding something. I over heard her crying to my older daughter about this bully last night. I felt so bad. She didn't want to tell me because she knew I would talk to her parents and she didn't want to give the girl something to bully her even more. So my older daughter told her that she needs to stand up for herself and not let her bully or boss her around. I'm making dinner today when I hear Gus going crazy!!! He was running from door to door barking. There was something different about his bark so I open the door and Gus takes off running. I can't run all that fast because of my ankel, but when I got to the end of the garage,,, I see my daughter and this bully going at it on the side walk 2 houses down and my son and his friends are trying to break them apart. This little quiet, sweet girl turned into Tyson. Gus was defending his sister. I had to get him out of the way so he wouldn't get hurt or hurt the brat. I was so proud of both my babies,,, Val for finally standding up for herself and Gus for protecting his sister. She thought she was going to be in a lot of trouble but I told her,,,,,, I really don't condone fighting,,,,, but if any of my kids have to defend themselves as a last resort,,, by all means do so. As for the bully, I had to take her home and tell her parent what had happened. Looks like she will be grounded for a while. And my Val,,,,, she has a small scatch on her left cheek but feels good about standing up for herself. I kept her in for the rest of the day as punishment,,,, had to play the part that I wasnt happy that she kicked this bully ass!!! __________________ Monica, Proud mom of Gus who is forever missed! And new mom to Leiloni Gus's Dogster page

07-26-2005, 10:13 PM	#3
velobabe Mommy's Lil' Piper Cub Join Date: May 2005 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 1,333	Monica ~ I'm so sad to hear that your precious little girl had to resort to fighting, which it seems is not in her nature, because some bully forced her into that situation. Unfortunately that's the way of the world in many cases today. I too would be extremely proud of her for standing up for herself and also proud of little Gus Gus. Amazing how brave our little ones can be. I tell my daughter that if it ever came to her having to stand up for herself in such a manner that she would never get into trouble for doing so. She never has been in a fight but I want her to be prepared if the time ever comes where someone is out to hurt her. As parents we want so much to protect our children but there are those out there that make that job very difficult and we can't always be with them. Hopefully this will be the end of the problem with this girl. I wouldn't hesitate to go to her parents in the future now that they are aware that there is a problem with their child. Give Val a big hug, and Gus also, for being so brave. __________________ Tammy & Piper ~Yorkies Are Not Our Whole Life, But They Make Our Lives Whole~

07-26-2005, 10:18 PM	#4
jesscruz YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: seaside,ca Posts: 1,763	i sooo hate bullies to me that is bad parenting i always teach my girls that you treat people the way you would like to be treated, to be thier own person and not to follow others, and i always make sure that they know that no matter how pretty you are if your mean and have a bad attitude it makes you look ugly. i'm glad that your little girl stood up for herself. __________________ mommy's little baby coco bear

07-26-2005, 10:21 PM	#5
Latuya YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Rialto CA Posts: 3,243	Thank you,,, Val just turned 9 and is very little for her age. Here is some pictures of my 2 brave babies Attached Thumbnails __________________ Monica, Proud mom of Gus who is forever missed! And new mom to Leiloni Gus's Dogster page

07-26-2005, 10:36 PM	#6
velobabe Mommy's Lil' Piper Cub Join Date: May 2005 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 1,333	They are so BEAUTIFUL!! You must be so proud!! Val is a gorgeous girl...who could hurt that sweet little face?? She's precious! Gus is a cutie too __________________ Tammy & Piper ~Yorkies Are Not Our Whole Life, But They Make Our Lives Whole~

07-26-2005, 10:00 PM	#2
YorkieinBe Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 152	GO Val! I do not condone fighting as well, but a kid can only take so much! Maybe now the bully will realize that Val is too much to handle and will leave her alone! That's usually all it takes! How old is she? And Go Gus!! He wanted to protect his sister! LOL Brooke

07-26-2005, 11:02 PM	#7
Marie Mom loves Gucci Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: New York City Posts: 6,427	We are so proud of your two brave babies. Your daugther Val is better pretty. I hate bullies also. My son was bullied when he was on the second grade. He kept telling his teacher and they wouldnt do anything. I told my son: tell your teacher that I said to give the bully 3 opportunities to stop or you will defend yourself. Well they didnt do anything so my son ended up punching the bully, and he was the one that got in trouble. I went to the school and had disccused the bullying with the teacher. I was so mad that only my son was punished. I talk to the principal and she tells me why I didnt talk to his teacher before. I was fuming. My husband ended up talking with the kids parents. I always tell my son to treat others with respect but if his no other choice to defend himself. __________________ Huggies, Gucci and Marie http://www.dogster.com/?132187 "I have been egged"

07-27-2005, 03:32 AM	#8
suzysmitt Currently Suspended! Join Date: May 2005 Location: Florida Posts: 2,150	You tell Val I said I'm proud of her for sticking up for herself. Tell her I don't condone fighting too, but sometime it's the only way to let people know to leave you alone. I don't think she'll be having any more trouble for a while. Who knows she may have just made a friend and not even know it yet. Good for Gus too.

07-27-2005, 04:01 AM	#9
FireFish Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Columbus, Ohio Posts: 425	My son was picked on for years. He had curly hair and not the demeaner to defend himself when he was young. I did what I could when he was little but as he got older he didn't want me to interfer and "make it worse". In HS he had had enough and finally stood up for himself. It stopped. The odd part I found was when I was in school the teachers intervened when someone bullied...they looked into the sorce of what was going on. Today the policies I have seen (OH and VA) was both the perpetrator and the victim are punished equally. So it never costs the Perpetrator more than the Victim. The Victims tend to keep quiet not to "make it worse" and the Perpetrator continues. Good for your daughter for sticking up for herself. In my experience it would have just keep going. And what a brave little Gus for taking it into his little paws. I don't like violence but in the adult world there are police and you have avenue for getting help. I think this is getting epidemic. NOte: no one bothers my son today but he shaved his beautiful hair because (I believe) that is what he got the most bullying over: Attached Thumbnails

07-27-2005, 04:33 AM	#10
Brutus'mama YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: NJ Posts: 1,767	This is one of my biggest fears with my son who will be starting 1st grade. He is so sweet and I'm so overprotective of him. I've already had altercations with some woman who slammed a door in his face. She got my gum spit at her. With his Kindergarten bus driver who yelled at him 2 inches from his face on the top of is lungs.. I called him a f@#$%ng moron and told him if he yelled at my son again I'd have to kill him! My dh thinks since we moved out of NYC I need to go to anger management! I'm not at all violent or confrontational but if you mess with my family it's over. I don't want him to get bullied so what I did was sign him up for karate. They teach discipline, confidence and to only use your hands in an emergency. I'm glad he loves it and he actually just got promoted to a new belt last Saturday. I just feel I can't be with him all the time and he needs the tools to be able to defend himself if the need arises. I'm also learning it since I practice with him. This way if I need to open up a can of whoop a@# on anyone I'm prepared. I'm sorry this happened to your beautiful daughter but hopefully that bully will leave her alone now. Good for Gus too! Here's a picture of my son Vincent doing his "karate face"! Attached Thumbnails __________________ ~Carolyn~ Brutus' Video Montage

07-27-2005, 04:41 AM	#12
FireFish Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Columbus, Ohio Posts: 425	Yep that is my son. He is a sweetie really. sillyjacki's brother. He was/is a sweet guy but was hurt so many times that he protects himself with a "mask" of toughness. I think things like karate are great. I wish I lived where I could have enrolled my son. It's tough to protect them sometimes.

07-27-2005, 04:52 AM	#13
sillyjacki Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 544	Haha, yeah, that's my brother. And even though I shouldn't say it, he is very cute. He's a proud daddy and a hard worker. Too bad for him, all the girls that seem to be available in this area are flaming idiots. But he always has protected me. __________________ Jacki & Roxy Dogster My mom's company makes dog products!

07-27-2005, 05:16 AM	#15
centralnewyorki YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Central NY state Posts: 1,741	Latuya- Your daughter is so beautiful! After seeing her picture, I'd think this bully was probably jealous that she has so much going for her. Good for her for standing up for herself. I hate the whole issue of bullying. I've heard so many reports that bullying is a generational issue- i.e. The father or mother is a "bully" and the children pick up on the aggressive behavior. As for Firefish's son/ sillyjacki's brother: I hate when anyone picks on another person for something they can't help. Children can't pick their hair, skin color, body shape, etc. Where's all the bullies now that your son has grown up to be quite attractive?! I bet they don't have much to say now!! LOL! __________________ Susan & Olivia Visit Olivia's Dogster Page!