Ruby is going to be spoiled rotten :D

We would be more than happy to send her a little something. Please let us know. Hopefully the secret buddy has just been busy and will post soon and send their box. XOXO

Just an FYI:

You are all so very sweet and kind !
 

You guys are something else and I mean that in the best possible way. Reading all of your replies is making me very emotional and I am holding Lisa totally responsible for tears running down my face all afternoon. You all are so sweet and I appreciate all of your kind offers but really it isn't necessary. This GE was about Ruby and her feeling special when we find out who her SB was. It was to be about her getting a surprise from an unknown SB, well its no secret any more. Although all of your kind words and offers are greatly appreciated, please do not feel as if you have to do anything to make up for this one person who hasn't followed through with her obligations to Ruby and the GE rules.

I have to say I have been pretty upset that this had gone this far. I am unsure as to why Riana has not contacted me since her last pm with some explanation. Around the 27 -28th I sent her a PM titled "Spoil Alert". I was concerned and felt I had to reach out to her. I sent her a PM on or I wasn't to let her know I was concerned and that I was thinking about her and that there was a package waiting for her. She did reply to that message and she posted a thread dated 3-3-13 about receiving her box, her accident and a death in her family. At that time she was still out of town for a funeral. There has been some communication with her but, very little. Most of my PM's went unanswered. The ones that she did reply to, she assured me that she was in the process of putting together Ruby box and had every intention of sending it out. Since then there has been no public or private post from her.

In the last reply I sent to her that too went unanswered she told me that she felt guilty about opening Strudels box before sending Ruby's. I send her another PM that same day asking her to Please open the box. That everyone including myself was waiting to here from her and to see what was in the box. I told her not to worry about us that she needed some joy in her life and that I was happy to be the one to bring her some happiness and that I hoped that Strudel and she liked our gifts. I have gotten no further replies from her.

Now here we are, I cant imagine what she is going through and am saddened by the loss of her family member. I feel torn, but don't know what else I can do at this point. I feel like such an ass for making a fuss over something so silly when this person has lost so much in the process. But it has been almost ten days since I or anyone has heard from her.

I am trying to see the good in all of this that somewhere there is a lesson to be learned. I still have hope that Riana will do the right thing. That she will send Ruby's box. That it will all work out in the end and will be worth the wait. But if not, I can honestly say that at this point that I'm ok with that. Thanks to all of you, It took me seeing and reading this and knowing what special, kind hearted and thoughtful people you all are to make me realize that its not about the money. Which sadly has been a big part of why this was so upsetting to me. I know now that its about the gift of giving. You all have shined a light on my heart and put a smile on my face that will last a life time. I just hope that I was able to put a "Smile" on someone else's face and make a pup feel special in the same way you all have done.

You all are a great group of people and I love you all. Thank you so very much for helping me understand what is important. Dont' worry I will not let this experience stop me from joining in another GE.

Dawn I was a person who did not receive a ge box nor a notice from my sb in a GE. I was amazed by the generiosity of my fellow GE members and other members outside of the ge. I shed a lot of happy tears. My dh said it was like christmas.

I made smile boxes for all the gifts.. did my best to make sure every person knew how much I appreciated and loved each gift. Then a few weeks later I did get "the box".. I felt horrible like I had done something wrong. So after much thought this is my advice

Our wanting give you a ge experence is our choice. That is who we are. None of us want any harm to go to your sb, and none of us truly knows what we would do if we were in her shoes now. I really hope it works out and I really hope all the work you put into her box will be seen soon in pictures from her. What happens in regards to her membership is up to admin. If she reached out to us we would all rally around her as much as we are rallying around you.. that is who we are!

Well said!

Very well said Shinja!

If this is still in the works count me in!!

That is such an amazing story and a great example of the kind hearted people that we surround ourselves with when we come here to YT. I am so sorry that that happened to you. I guess there is always that risk of the unknown and the chance that it could happen when we deal with people that we dont know.

I realize that I am dealing with so many wonderful people from the GE and others outside of the GE. Nothing I say will stop them from spoiling my Ruby. As you can see and know first hand from your own experience. My fear is that the same thing with the box coming after everyone went out of their way and rallied together in order to give Ruby a special GE experience. You cant imagine how devastated I would be if that happened.

The fact that Ruby got a teaser gift & card from her SB leads me to believe that she will still sent her box. That she is still in mourning over the loss of her grandmother and needs more time.

You shouldn't feel devastated you and Ruby should just feel extra special and know that you are loved:D

I agree...and that was part of my message:cool:

I don't know about how every one else feels but..I feel like members of YT are becoming a part of my network of family and friends. I am finding I can't wait to get home from work to see who has posted and what they have posted about. I also find this is a place I am going to when I need advice beyond yorkies and when I just need to vent. I feel bad for Dawn for how things have happened and it would make me feel better knowing we have done something to put a smile on her face. Likewise I feel horrible for Riana losing her grandmother and because the car accident ...how awful. Hopefully Riana when she is done grieving comes back to YT and we can support her too through this rough time in her life. Like Dawn I believe Riana will follow through. In the meantime, what I can do is support Dawn and at least help one of the two smile.

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Shinja - this is so well said. I am glad I have come back to YT (been a member a while, left for a few months or more and have been back for a few months). This GE is my first and I made a bunch of new friends! I am so glad that I participated and I believe there are tons of angels here at YT that will help Ruby Bella feel extra special along with Dawn. :)

Kathy, regardless of the circumstances , Dawn shouldn't have to go almost 2 weeks without communications. We ALL hope Riana will be back soon....!!

Hope to see you in a future GE ;)

ditto, Kathy in case you missed the date that post Dawn made is not very recernt.

In thinking about this, as a comparison I had two friends lose spouses less then a month ago and from the very beginning they sent texts and emails with info and thanks to people that helped them. With so much technology at one's finger tips it is easy to drop someone a quick message if you want to.

I think most people are understanding about the fact that she might not have the time to make a smile box or complete packing a box but they do have trouble understanding the lack of communication.

I think most people are understanding about the fact that she might not have the time to make a smile box or complete packing a box but they do have trouble understanding the lack of communication.[/QUOTE]

Sorry this is hard on my iPad but I agree with the above. If my sis died ( which she recently did) mid GE. I would be SO SO late but also in constant contact...... But that is just me and my feelings about obligations. Also, I have computer and iPad and iPhone to back me up. Dawn's SB may be different although she is on Facebook and etsy and MySpace.

You're both right... my apologies to all for my earlier posts.

Thank you Kathy. We are the antithesis of insensitive if truth be known..... We hopefully are even premature.

Kathy I truly understand where you were coming from and I think you are so sweet:) I also understand the other side of it. I am very excited to assist in anyway I can to help make Dawn and Ruby's 1st GE experience amazing:D

BTW I agree YT'ers are a great group:D

I agree too (about yt being a great group)...this place is rocking with awesome peeps who truly show love and friendship! I can honestly say I admire all of you in so many ways. :)

I heard from Riana, she messaged me twice last night.

This first message was to let me know how sorry she was that is was so late and that she felt bad and embarrassed. That she didn't feel right opening Strudel's box until she had mailed Ruby's and that she would be mailing Ruby's box out today.

The second was to say she saw this thread and now fears she will be banned. She thinks people think that she lied about the the accident and the funeral and offers proof when she sends Ruby's box.

I see no harm in what Lisa did by starting this thread. It just goes to show you how this loving community of Yorkie lovers can ban together for one of its own. Having so many people show they care about us is a tremendous feeling! I just wish we could do the same for Riana right now. I think she's been through a lot and she could use our support. I think we need to show her that same kind of love that you all are showing for Ruby and myself and let her know that we are still thinking about her and make sure she and Strudel remain part of YT. I really hope that we haven't scared this girl off.

going thru what she has it is never easy and i always try to remain open as until you walk in ones blue suede shoes you really dont understand. everyone reacts differently. i am very sorry for your loss riana. im thankful she contacted you and hope that everything turns out ok.

Yay, I'm glad you heard from Riana! :)

Oh my gosh! I am so sorry she is feeling that way. If you read this, Riana - PLEASE DON'T feel that way. We love you and Strudel to pieces!! We all are a big family and doing extra for Ruby Bella was in ADDITION to what we hoped would come from you and Strudel - just a bonus for waiting and understanding. We never intended for it to be in your stead. Okay?

I am so very sorry for all you have been going thru. Please know that we all understand how devastating a loss is and that everyone grieves in their own way and should never be compared to how "I" grieve or whatnot.

Hugs to Mr. Strudel!!! I hope you come back and post pics of that box he got and see pics of the box he sent Ruby Bella when she gets it and we all just revel in the sheer FUN of giving and making friends!! :) :thumbup:

Dawn-

Thank you so much for posting this...this is exactly why I posted my last message. I had faith that Riana was going to follow through. She has been a member for a long time and it just didn't seem to fit with what we know of her. When life gets hectic for me...I tend to disappear until it becomes un-hectic. Everybody handles stress a different way and what might work for one doesn't work for another and neither is wrong. SB plus was not intended to hurt Riana and I hope she can look at it as a support for her and her SB until she was able to get her box ready. I've been there Riana...more then once...so totally understand! I hope Riana is getting back to herself and will be joining us again soon...and I would hope that we envelope her in the same warmth compassion and support we do with any YTer going through a rough time in their life! Besides the education I get from this forum, that love and support is what keeps me coming back to YT day after day!

Thanks for updating Dawn.

I was in no way trying to make Riana feel badly, I wasn't even aware that she was visiting this forum at all in recent days! We were merely looking out for a fellow GE participant.

Thanks for taking the time to communicate with Dawn and reassuring all of us.

yea glad you heard from Riana and that she will be coming through for you and Ruby.

Riana I am very sorry for your loss, please don't let this keep you from coming back here, if the tables were turned we would be all rallying around you. We are all so happy to hear that you have contacted Dawn. Yorkie Talk is a supportive as well as a forgiving place so with some communication on your part things should be back on track in no time. I for one can not wait to see what was in Mr Strudel's box, he seems like such a unique pup and I am sure the box will be filled with stuff just for him. I think the biggest thrill for me was to see my buddies reaction to what was in the box I sent rather than what I received, so get that box open and have some fun with it, because I think you can probably use a smile or two right now.

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