can't prove it?? Sandy please tell me she got a rape kit?? The semon or other evidence would prove it....

jobs be darned... your daughter was violated.... kick butt and take names later...I'm sorry to sound harsh but.... they'll just do it to someone else if they aren't stopped.

I know, I know...easy to say when not living it or there... I know... sorry.... I just feel horrible...


do what you think is best.....

No rape kit, it took her 3 days to tell me. She spent that time trying to figure out what happened. I know how easy it is to tell someone what they should do, but without being in that person's shoes and knowing the entire story, it's not so easy. I appreciate all you are saying, but it is her decision not to press it. She just wants to get past it as quick as possible.

Keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers.

OMG!! I will pray for her and your family!!!

That is horrible. I'm glad I'm too old to go out drinking anymore. I'd be walking around with a napkin over my drink. Prayers are definetly coming.

It's funny you should say that. That was exactly what I thought when I saw a Law and Order episode about date-rape. I didn't even know it existed before that. Life is so short - it's a shame that we have to worry about so much evil in the world - it's everywhere.

Oh Sandy, I am so sorry to hear this news. I will keep your daughter in my thoughts and prayers, and sending some up for you as well. I'm here for you if you want to chat or need to get it out. Hugs to both of you.

I talked to my daughter about this. It was disconcerting. I don't know if she'd tell me if it happened to her. She was like why? Not like the cops would/could do anything about it. Too hard to prove, they'll never find the guy, cops have more pressing things to do like find murderers. It was almost scary to hear her. Her dad is a cop and I'm going to have him talk to her. I want to make sure she understands that, god forbid, but if it happened that she tell us and/or report it.

Sandy I didn't mean any offense. I love you guys like family, you know that. I am just so angry and hurt for Krysten. I wanna come kick some a** myself.

Hugs

I am so sorry to hear this happened to your daughter. That is a lot to handle no matter how old you are.

There will always be cruel men out there. A girl needs to be alert and watching her drink at all times.:cry:


I hope all is fine and that she can move on. Hugs for you and Krysten.

I know you didn't and I wasn't offended. I would react the same way if it were someone else's dtr, too. But, your dtr is right, at least in this town, I have followed the police from donut shop to donut shop. I realize most police depts. aren't like this, but this is a small town and I know the sheriff(not well, but I work with his wife) and they are party central. She drives like a maniac-runs red lights, stop signs, speeds-and gets away with it because that's the was it is around here. There are so many unsolved crimes, it's unreal. There is no proof of anything except the drug in her urine which is the same one that is in sleeping pills. But she hadn't taken anything like that. He has alluded to being the culprit, but he talked in circles and never came out and admitted it. She was so confused when she came to that she never thought about going to the police or ER at that time. Then it was too late. I know it's not the best way to handle it, but it's what she wants. Just get past it and move on. Her sister will deal with him - she works with him. She scared the stalker away when she got ahold of him. I pray your dtr, or any others' on here, never have to deal with this.

This just makes me sick. How much more can you daughter endure?
I am so sorry and will pray for all of you and pray that problems will leave you.

How is Krysten?

Sorry this happened to your daughter. It is the hardest thing to read let alone go through. I will pray for you and your dear one. Keep us posted. I hope she will find a counselor to help. God bless, and comfort you.

Prayers & Hugs to you both.

Hi Sandy, just wanted to let you know that I'm still sending up thoughts and prayers for you and Krysten.

Sandy, How is Krysten doing? How are you handling all of this? I would imagine it has been very hard on you. I pray that your dd will come and talk with you as she continues to process this.

This has led me to re-visit the issue with my dd who is just a little younger than Krysten. The fact that you have shared this with us may help another young lady.

Last night on the local news, they led with a story about the increase of rapes due to these drugs. Here is a link to the story - I don't know if anything in there would be helpful to you, but maybe for others that have heard Krysten's story Iowans On Alert For 'Date Rape Drug' - Des Moines News Story - KCCI Des Moines

I am so sorry My thoghts and prayers are with you both.
God bless.

I am so sorry that this happened to your daughter. I am sending prayers for her and your family.
I have an 18 year old daughter who goes out to the underage clubs with her friends and I am always telling them to ask for unopened sodas or water and open them themselves. Never leave a drink unattended even for a minute, take them where ever they go or get a new one and never take a drink from someone you don't know!
A lady I worked with a few years ago has a daughter that woke up on the floor of a building downtown after being out with her friends. She had no idea how she got there or what happened to her. Her friends were dancing and never saw her leave. The police investigated and all they found was a cab driver was told to drop her off there. The building was locked, she had to call the police to help her.
Very scary stuff going on these days.

Thank you for your support. Krysten is doing quite well. She knows she can't change what happened so she is moving on from there. She is very strong and can handle just about anything that is handed to her. Now that she knows how easy it is for someone to slip it into a drink - any drink - she will be far more careful. The article in the paper(thank you YorkieSmiles) says it all. It's hard to report it since you can't remember anything and don't have a clue what happened. Then, to figure out who is responsible can be next to impossible unless someone saw something. Since people aren't watching for that kind of thing they don't pay any attention to who is doing what around any unattended drink. Since it happened, I've come across the same thing happening to others that never reported it. "Officer, I woke up somewhere strange - I don't know how I got there, who else may have been there with me or what happened. Can you help me?" Officer: "Uh, yes M'am, maybe you shouldn't drink so much" or "Sorry, M'am, I can't help you if you have no info to go on". Not neccessarily this situation every time, but certainly many times. Krysten has our friend at the Rape and Crisis Center that she can talk to any time, day or nite, even tho she talks to me alot. The world has become such a sad place to grow up in.

Your daughter is lucky to have such a loving and understanding mother to support her through such a tough time...I hope everything will work out for her in the end, she definitely deserves a happy ending. My prayers go out for you both.