I apologize I have always avoided this forum because it made me so depressed. I never felt I could do anything to help but after going through some of this myself I came to realize how much it means to have support from the YT family. Just a prayer from a member or to learn others have gone through just what your dealing with means so very much. I have found so many people on here ready and willing to be there for those who's heart is broken or so stressed that they don't known where to turn. The knowledge, love and support is sometimes all that is needed to lift the ones spirit. I promise to give more support to those in need if only to offer a prayer. |
What a nice, thoughtful & sweet person you must be :) |
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That's so sweet. Many times I have had to post to this section and just reading that people were praying and giving support during a difficult time helped get through it. |
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Your post is so thoughtful and I can speak firsthand how the support of others on YT has helped me a great deal. This forum is how I found YorkieTalk, and I am grateful that it is here. It feels at times that reading it breaks me apart and it is often so sad, but especially if you've had experiences like the ones talked about in the thread, there is a greater feeling of desperaion to able to help another from going through it also. I understand the pain that you are feeling with your little one being ill, and I would like to help in any way that I can. |
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Ok .. I'm going back and leaving a message even though as I read I did lift them up in prayer. I need to leave a :animal-pa I second your thought to apologize.... I just last week had a situation I needed advice for and several people took the time to respond. (Thanks again) This is such a wonderful place to come for help.. healing.. comfort.. advice.. friendship.. etc. Thanks for taking the time to post this message and giving me the shoulder shaking that I needed. |
No need for an apology.... this whole forum is a learning experience. When we're not learning about behavior, training, illness, or things to buy our FBs, we're learning how to help others, and how to manage and cope with the emotions that the unpleasant things like illness, disease, injury, and death can bring on inside us. From my personal experience, there are good days when I feel strong and try to help (too much), and the days I don't feel so strong, and tend to visit the 'lighter' forums. I just try to do what I can, knowing that other members will carry on in my absence. It can become overwhelmingly depressive, so I would do a little at a time... work on handling things slowly and always visit a funny thread before your sign off for the day. It also helps to exchange phone numbers with a YT friend, just in case you feel the need to talk to someone (or cry) and I stress a YT friend... bc no one else could ever understand how one can get so upset over someone else's pup, especially someone you don't even know, or 'know' only from the Internet. I had to call my YT Buddy 5 months ago. I had been reading the S&I forum and became very sad and went to read a 'Welcome' new member thread which I thought would lift my spirits. In the thread, the new member had a bad problem with their new puppy. I broke down crying uncontrollably and I could not stop crying. I have never been one who cries alot, and not knowing how to stop myself, all I could think of was to call my friend, whom I had never spoken to over the phone. As I dialed her number, I was worried she wouldn't know who was calling, because I was still sobbing hysterically and was having trouble talking (and breathing) without crying. Thank God she answered the phone and not her DH, all I could get out was her name, and 'This is Kathy'. I thought she would hang up at any moment thinking it was a prank caller.... She knew immediately (I think) it was me, and then thought I was having a problem with one of my dogs. Through my sobbing, I got out 'It's not mine they are fine... I'm losing it!' Kind soul that she is, she got me calmed down and we talked for a very long time that day, about everything one could possibly talk about! I don't know what I would have done without her number, or if she hadn't been home that day when I did call. After much thought, I think I went over the edge that day, a bit beyond my limits, and was shocked reading the 'Welcome' thread that really wasn't. I feel more in control since that happened, and know better where my limits are, and know too it's not good to push myself too far, as I am no good to anyone nor myself when I am that upset. Hopefully no one else will have this experience, although I'm sure others have had this or something similar occur. I just wanted to warn you to not to try to do too much, too soon. You have a kind heart and your support in members' time of need will be appreciated. |
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If you need to apologize, then so do I for avoiding the 'In Memory Of' forum for much the same reason. It's not that I don't care, I do, maybe too much. I have visited there before and have found myself in a funk that can last for days. The loss of those babies feels so real and then I get to grieving about dogs I've lost through my life. I even grieve for my Yorkies, and they're the picture of health. I think all we can do is to participate to a level we're comfortable with. The great thing about YT is that it's a big community and there is always someone there for anyone in need. There have been times when I've been the one in need and it's in those times that I realize just how wonderful YT is. |
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Like others have said, I too sometimes spend a lot of time in here...and other times, I need a break. And Jim, I really hear you about the RIP Section - I feel bad when I don't go in there to support people, and I feel bad when I go in there too...bc it's so sad and I then relive the actual deaths of my past furbabies. |
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