So whats the secret?
 

To meeting a guy and having a successful relationship?

I seem to be hopeless at it. I'm about to be 24 and I can feel my bio clock ticking. However, I haven't had one long term relationship.. well there was one on again off again thing I had with one guy, but when it was all said and done it really wasn't much of a relationship.

I'm not Miss america material, but I'm reasonably cute. I've had guys tell me before that they can't understand why I'm NOT in a relationship.

At this point I fear I'll never meet any guy, much less the right one. I'm not looking to get married tomorrow, but sometime before Im 30 would be great.

I know what you mean, I feel the same way. It seems the older I get (im 25) the harder it is to meet a good guy. Ive temporarily put my dating life on hiatus. I just seems like I meet the same type of guy over and over again....
BTW- I cant stand it when people find out im single and then do the shocked "wow I cant believe youre single" thing....soooo annoying
So dont worry - you arent the only one going through this...

Its good to know i'm not the only one. It seems as if everyone my age is getting married and having kids already. I'm a senior in college and I swear just about every day someone in one of my classes has gotten engaged. :rolleyes:

LOL - its the oopostie with me - all my friends are single so we sit around complaining about it. But i've decided not to think about it anymore...when the time is right - it'll happen. Even though I always hate when people tell me that you find love when you arent looking for it...There has to be some truth there HOPEFULLY! ;)

I think you're still young and should just have fun, do your own thing and a guy will pop up when you least expect it. Enjoy your youth and hang out with the girls. Meet lots of ppl, i think that's the way to go. :) I used to feel the same way and i was only 15, all my friends had bf's etc and i would always think well why don't i? I had like flings, etc but no serious relationships until i was like 17. Up until then i always thought omg im gonna get old and never have a serious relationship! Now im 20 and have a bf but im still having fun and not thinking of marriage. I htink nowadays ppl are getting married much older, like in their 30s. Enjoy yourself girl.

But it's truuueee, i swear i swear!

Yea Yea Yea, says the girl with a boyfriend:grin2: ... lol :D

lol u're funny. :p But i mean it happened to me and to other ppl i know so it has to have some truth to it. I had split up with my ex and wasn't looking for another relationship when my now bf kinda just wouldn't go away! lol He kept pursuing me, even tho at first i didn't like him like that but then he grew on me. Don't give up hope!

I have to say my younger years were fun. Don't be discouraged. i met my husband at 36! Were married at 42. Of course, we will not have children, but he has a daughter(17 yrs) that lives with us. I have known her for 7 yrs and love her alot. So, really I am the happiest I have ever been. Women are having babies much later 30's and even 40's. Its just not for us at this point in our lives. So chin up girls! My guy was definately worth the wait!!!:thumbup:

Lol I know...sometimes its just nice to complain though - when I think about my one and only true boyfriend did happen by accident - So I guess it is true :)

I'm too busy trying to graduate right now to have time for a bf anyway. I used to love going out with my single friends, but now they ALL have bfs and never go out :thumbdown It would be nice for guys to pursue me. Apparently (at least from what a guy at the bar told me) I come off as standoffish even though I'm not trying to be. i'm also horrible at flirting.

I kinda did the same, i stopped hanging out with friends but not on purpose. They kind of started acting a little diff. towards me when i got serious with my bf, it sucked.

Oh man you guys are in your 20's, you're still young and your life is just starting, enjoy it. It'll happen when it's time.

Now, try being 38 (divorced) with 2 snot nose teenagers and having to start over..... then you can come complain to me. LOL :p

Let me just say, that you are SO young! Don't worry about kids right now. I had my first daughter at 24. I LOVE her so very much and wouldn't trade her for anything. BUT, give yourself some time to live life! Go out, have fun. Don't be activly looking for love or a relationship. Guys, most, tend to notice that and will shy away from it. They can sense that the girl is wanting something serious. They like a girl that is independent and not needy. A girl that is self sufficient is a HUGE turn on for them.

My sister is the one that is always out looking for a man. She has a 3 year old daughter with a man that she tought was the one. This happened when she was 34. She is now 37 and has to basically keep the biological dad out of the picture. I feel really bad for her, but, she is overly ambitious to make the man happy. I say, make yourself happy first. If you can't make you happy how can you make your relationship a happy one?

I know it sounds like a psycho therapy type answer, but it is oh so true! I wanted to be married so badly at 20. I left to go on my career choice and make myself happy and self fullfilled and low and behold, my (now) hubby proposed to me on my graduation day and said he couldn't live without me. He said that me making myself happy was the best thing that ever happened.

Hope that might offer a little perspective from a different angle for you.

Oh i'm not actively looking currently, i know guys can sense desperation.

I am VERY self sufficient, my mama taught me how. My ex hated it. I knew how to work on cars and do stuff around the house better than he did. I think he felt immasculated some.