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JeanieK 05-25-2007 04:59 AM
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Originally Posted by Akina (Post 1141941)
I forgot to post picture but I don't have a picture that is small file size....
I'm sad he can't accept who and how I am.
I will try to speak normal but I can't promise him I will never talk baby talk with her.
I'll try to train her to sleep off my bed, and I'll try to give my attention to him as much as I can but I just love her sooo much that I can't promise him 100%.
After that, it is up to him what he wants.
Too bad, I really like him....:(

the fact that he won't accept you the way you are says it all. there are plenty of nice guys out there. Tell this one it's just not gonna work.

camly 05-25-2007 05:04 AM
well .. your bf should want you happy no matter what b/c that's what you want for him right? if your baby makes you happy he should accept it too, just like if he had something taht he were crazy about .. lets say a car or watching football every sunday and monday, you let him do it b/c it makes him happy or try to help out or sit with him and watch the game. maybe have him help you out with your baby?? spend time with them together, or something to make him feel included. you don't need to change who you are just change how you approach things.

misilmisil 05-25-2007 07:37 AM
Firstly, there is nothing wrong with you...My motto in life is "if you want to love me, love my dog first"...You had your baby a way before you had a boyfriend and he knew that you were in love with your doggie even before you guys were dating right? Then, why now he wants you to change? This world is too short and too small to let go off things that you like and change yourself for someone that cannot appreciate you for who you are...

Now you have 2 choices: talk to your boyfriend and tell him openly how annoyed/upset you are that he finds your relationship with your dog annoying...if he really loves you, he will feel bad that he hurt you...second choice is to let go off him...if he cannot take you the way you are in teh first 2 months of your relationship, then he will never understand you longterm. believe me the first couple months of all relationships should be fun and exciting and drama-free.

hope this helps! keep your head up girl! :rolleyes:

genie 05-25-2007 07:46 AM
He is already trying to be controlling of you by trying to get you to change how you are. I think that most men want you to give them more attention than you give to anything else. My husband even got jealous of Hannah at first, but now he loves her just as much as I do and he talks baby talk to her too. I would just tell him that you care for your dog like someone would care for their child and if he can't accept that then you need to move on. Don't let him make you feel like you are wrong or stupid for acting the way you do because it is perfectly ok to love your dog that much. Some people who are not dog lovers or who don't have the compassion that we do will try to have you believe that "we" are crazy and that is not normal-but they are wrong, not us. Some of my friends and family act like I am crazy but htey don't have dogs and so they don't know how attached you can get to them.

genie 05-25-2007 07:48 AM
Never change who you are and your relationship with your baby for anyone. Your baby will be right there waiting for you long after a man has walked out....

LoveMyGirlz 05-25-2007 07:49 AM
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Originally Posted by Betty'sMom (Post 1142084)
Ugh...I vote for Momiji. Hit the road, Jack...
:thumbup: :thumbup: LOL!
I agree with this one Kana!
Hey I know you really like this guy, but I also know how much you love Momiji! That little baby depends on you so much and is already used to you being her best friend and protector. I know some people just don't like dogs on their beds...but usually it is a HUGE dog that takes up the whole bed or a dog that sheds :( I've slept with Momiji....she doesn't fit in either catagory!! She's so sweet Kana...it kinda breaks my heart that she might be put "second" in your life to try to please this guy! Thankfully, big biker Ray is a total softy and LOVES our animals as much as I do :D
Well you know Ray will adopt Momiji if you trade her in for "the guy!!" HAha!
Go let him pay for your nice weekend away next week, and then kick him out the door....:p

LoveMyGirlz 05-25-2007 07:51 AM
Oh and....would he also be this jealous if you had a child from a previous relationship??? Mmmmm think about that one. I agree with another poster who said they take how someone treats an animal and compare it to how compasionate they are or would be to humans :eek:

coli 05-25-2007 07:58 AM
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Originally Posted by Akina (Post 1141923)
I just start dating this guy for about 2 months now.
He likes Momiji(see attached picture) but now he tells me there are few things that bothers him.
He said I'm too attached to my dog that he feels he isn't getting attention from me, doesn't want to sleep on the bed with her, and can't stand I talk baby talk with her.
I am VERY attached with my dog.
I agree that she should sleep on her bed, not mine.
I can't help talk baby with her, she IS my baby.
Am I so wrong or crazy????
hello, there. Well your not crazy and your not wrong. I talk to coli and he loves it, my boyfriend tells me Im crazy, but he doesnt care because he does the same thing even though at first he didnt do it.As for the bed issue, my boyfriend hated when coli got on the bed, but i told him to get use to it. It was funny at first he would put him in his bed and coli would jump on the bed. This would go on for some minutes. Then coli(my yorkie) would stay on his bed and wait for my boyfriend to fall asleep and get on the bed. Now my boyfriend is use to it to the point that he calls him to get in bed. So have patience, your boyfriend will get use to it, if he doesnt well its not meant to be, because your baby was there first. Take care, and dont feel bad.

Lexi Rae 05-25-2007 08:06 AM
you need to

( speak now or forever hold your pease)

AngelWorks 05-25-2007 08:26 AM
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Originally Posted by Ozzie'sperson (Post 1142081)
My dog has never:

1) Cheated on me with another woman
2) Criticized my choice of clothing, music, or friends
3) Asked if I'd put on a few pounds or cared if I did
4) Called me to make sure I'm really where I said I'd be

I have, however, had a man do ALL those things (and not even all from the same man!) So, I'd say stick with your dog. If I had only done that when I was younger, I could have saved myself a whole lot of trouble! :)
Amen sister!

jp4m2 05-25-2007 08:28 AM
Addition to my first post......Just to give the boyfriend the benefit of the doubt
;) ... Some ?'s to mull over....Is this the only problem you two are having is Momiji ?...Are you REALLY being obsessive w/ him or is it just a normal amount of affection your showing Momiji? ...Have you had other people tell you that you are a tad over the top w/ Momiji ?....Baby talk can be hard to take from a grown women, so I might give him that one..;)... Just don't want to put down a man if he has a legit complaint...good men are few & far between...think w/ your head & not your heart, it will give you the right decision..:)

LoveMyGirlz 05-25-2007 08:34 AM
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Originally Posted by jp4m2 (Post 1142399)
Addition to my first post......Just to give the boyfriend the benefit of the doubt
;) ... Some ?'s to mull over....Is this the only problem you two are having is Momiji ?...Are you REALLY being obsessive w/ him or is it just a normal amount of affection your showing Momiji? ...Have you had other people tell you that you are a tad over the top w/ Momiji ?....Baby talk can be hard to take from a grown women, so I might give him that one..;)... Just don't want to put down a man if he has a legit complaint...good men are few & far between...think w/ your head & not your heart, it will give you the right decision..:)
I disagree that baby talk might be hard for a man to see a grown woman do!! HAha! My husband is almost as bad as I am!! LOL! And he is a bit biker type, long hair, tattoos etc! I think it's adorable! He walks in the door and the girls go running to him and he sings "its the girls, its the girls" in a not so masculine tone! When I brought home Gemma, he was playing cards with the guys and I sent him a picture of her to his phone. He said another guy said "oh....it's not even a dog, its one of those tiny things" and he said he turned to him and said "HEY NOW! Those are my daughters!!!" How cute is that?!
I think we've all been told we are "a tad over the top" by people who don't have a yorkie and just don't understand!

chachi 05-25-2007 08:38 AM
I dont thinkyou should let your boyfriend control what you do with your dog. If he is like that now it will only get worse if you become more seriously involved. Put your foot down with him now or you will probably regret it

JCarlson2004 05-25-2007 08:46 AM
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Originally Posted by Hokule'a (Post 1142036)
My ex had those same issues and said I spoil the puppies more than most people spoil their kids and he didn't think that was right. Note I said 'ex' - LOL!
LOL!! Right on girl!! :D

I'm lucky because Jim is CRAZY IN LOVE with our babies. He also understands and fully RESPECTS my feelings for the pupsters. He backs me up on everything regarding them too (which is major for me).

My brother-in-law, Cole, isn't a big dog lover. He doesn't like them to kiss him but he'll pet them and play with them. He also USE to make fun of their clothes and the way I baby them. Notice I said USE to ... because Jim handled it. He knew that it seriously upset me (not to mention embarassed me). So without me asking him to, Jim took it upon himelf to talk to Cole in private and told him not to make fun of our dogs or insult them anymore.

jp4m2 05-25-2007 08:51 AM
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Originally Posted by LoveMyGirlz (Post 1142407)
I disagree that baby talk might be hard for a man to see a grown woman do!! HAha! My husband is almost as bad as I am!! LOL! And he is a bit biker type, long hair, tattoos etc! I think it's adorable! He walks in the door and the girls go running to him and he sings "its the girls, its the girls" in a not so masculine tone! When I brought home Gemma, he was playing cards with the guys and I sent him a picture of her to his phone. He said another guy said "oh....it's not even a dog, its one of those tiny things" and he said he turned to him and said "HEY NOW! Those are my daughters!!!" How cute is that?!
I think we've all been told we are "a tad over the top" by people who don't have a yorkie and just don't understand!
LOL! :lol tears That's funny about your husband!!


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