Need some advice
 

Gosh I don't know where to begin. I don't want to sound as if I am complaining or being a baby it's just I have nobody to really talk to and I couldn't think of a better place than YT. I have alot of problems with my husband's family. None of our problems are getting better. It all started back in May of 2005 when my great grandma passed away. I didn't feel like going to my husbands cousins birthday party the day after the funeral and his mom threw a fit. She came to my apartment to tell me my grandma was gone and an empty shell and to just get over it. Basically from then nothing has gotten resolved. She always calls me names and trys to argue with me. I always try to keep my cool and not pick fights with her cause that's not me. I don't want to make anyone upset and most people know that. Now I have a son that is involved and she picks on him. They buy my husband food and tell us it's just for him or when they are introducing us to new people they say this is my son and never mention me and I'm just standing there. On Easter my son was sick and she didn't believe us because she wanted to come over so she has a fit because she couldn't come over. She always expects us to drop everything for them. The name calling and stress has just gotten the best of me. I have went to couseling over it, im on blood pressure pills, and now depression medicine and my husband isn't the most understanding over it. Just a few weeks ago they came over and it seemed like everything I said they were ready to charge at me. My blood pressure shot up and had trouble breathing, my body turned pure red. All my husband could say is I'm sorry they do that to you. I just really need an outsiders opinion. I never use to be like this. I never want to get out of the house now. I use to be a go getter. I can't keep punishing myself to keep everyone happy. :(

I don't have a lot of advice but I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Your husband needs to stand up for you. I know from experience that is easier said than done. It sounds like you are holding a lot of anger in which is probably for the best for everyone..but you. A sounding board is what you need so just vent on here.

Thank you so much!!! Prayers are def. needed!!!

I am so sorry you are going through this. I can completly relate to you. my husbands family hate me simply for the fact that i am with him they just don't like me nor do i like them it has caused a lot of stress and a lot of fights but we don't really talk to them now. i have 2 sons ages 2 and almost 7 and they use them as pawns to try to get their way i hate it. I know how hard it is to hold your tounge. My sugestion is this have a very long talk with your husband ask him if he supports you and or feels the same way you do about them being rude. he has to stand behind you and he has to stand up for you or you will get no respect. as long as he lets it go they will walk all over you. you have to stand as a united front. Once he understands that and you both agree to back eachother up you must confront the Mother in-law together and take it from there give her a choice she either respect you and treat you with kindness or she doesn;t have to be involved in your lives. if you do nothing it will not stop. If you need anything let me know.

Sounds like you an hubby need to sit down and have a little heart to heart. He needs to stick up for you in front of that mother of his and let her know that you are his wife and will not be treated that way. She sounds like a very cold selfish person to think a birthday party is more important that grieving for the loss of a loved one like that. Please stand up for yourself towards her and dont let her walk on you or she will never stop leaving tracks on your forehead. Hubby needs to get some ##### and put a stop to this nonsense right now before you end up in the hospital worrying about it. I know how you feel. My ex-mother in law never liked me either and was the cause of many fights.

You must have been posting the same time as me Amber but what you say is exactly what I said. LOL.........

LOL how funny! Great minds lol

I agree that hubby needs to step up and put a stop to this. Good luck, hopefully you can find some comfort through venting here and finding out that you are not alone!

Yeah I think my husband and I have a good relationship and they are the only thing we fight about. It's just not fair. I don't understand why someone lives to make people sad.