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Problem With A Friend Please, you be the judge: A friend and I ordered some rose plants from a nursery. We often order things together so we can split the shipping....much cheaper that way. Well, she was able to get a 10% discount on our order. The discount was applied to the whole order and now instead of sharing the discount she wants me to pay her what I would have saved. I told her to just have half of the discount removed if she didn't want to share it. I was hurt that she would expect me to pay her for something that doesn't cost her anything. I also told her that if it was me who was able to get the discount, I would have happily shared it with her...sounds like what friends would do to me. Anyway, now she's upset that I don't think I should pay her and has decided to cancel her half of the order. She has been a dear friend for years and I was surprised and hurt that she expects compensation. Do you think it's fair that I should pay her for what I would save with the discount? |
I don't think she is being fair but as much as I love roses, they are not worth losing a long time friend over. Maybe she is just having a hard time financially right now. Probably would be best to either just cancel it all or pay whatever she wants. Sometimes we just don't think clearly. Give her the benefit of the doubt.:) |
Being that she has the discount, she can do whatever she wants really . . but should have told you her intentions first so you know what you are getting into. If she was a true friend indeed, she would not do that though . . . gosh I too would be upset! I guess some people just can't help being greedy :( |
Hmm... no i don't think you should pay her for what you could save with the discount! Maybe she misunderstood the whole discount thingy, and might think that the discount is for her half of the order only. Speak to her, and ask her to explain to you what she thinks. It's definatly not worth losing a good friend over!! Good luck, she's been your friend for a long time, cherish her ;) |
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I agree with you. Why should you pay her for something that she didn't have to pay for. I can't belive that she would cancel her half of the order. Maybe there is something else going on. Hope you guys are able to work things out. |
I agree with doortego....maybe she is just having a hard time financially right now. If she really is THAT good of a friend to you, I would just forget about it and pay. I personally think she is being rude and you have every right to be offended, but just think about whether it is worth losing a friend over or not. It's really up to you. She may just be having a hard time right now and may be too embarrassed to discuss it with you. |
wow. I wouldn't do that to ANY of my friends no matter what the reason - that's pretty petty - I'm sorry to say that :( but wow. She should have been happy to discount YOUR half if she was a real friend - but to want to charge you just isn't right at all. |
That's a shame. However, I think she should have been happy to share the discount with you. You saved her money on postage by putting your orders together. Your share of the 10% would be 5%. What are we talking here in dollars? How many roses did you two order? Looks to me like it only involves a couple of dollars. I think she is being petty! I would be insulted if my friend did that to me. To save the friendship, if you want, I would pay her the few dollars and order my own flowers in the future. Carol & Buddy |
sorry to say, but friends like that,, you dont need... to me, she wasnt a good friend to begin with.... how could she even ask ????? how could she??? i would be embarassed... i would of paid her and then not be so friendly with her.. just my opinion.... |
i think..just me opinion...if she had been a good friend for the past few years, you might want to keep a friend..give her the benefit of the doubt..she might really be having a hard time financially and is too embarrased to ask. hope everything works out at the end. |
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Ditto. There are no friends where $ are concerned. |
I don't see why she won't share it with you, especially if it was taken off the whole order. Is this friendship worth losing over a 10% discount though? That would be my main concern |
and if she were a really good friend, then she would of know about her financial position if it was a bad one....... that was just plain rude... an insult at that.. |
So let me make sure I understand this, she wants to have 20% off of her share and you have nothing off of yours? Were all the items included in the 10% discount? If so then she is trying to make a profit off of you by taking the discount on both her plants and your plants for herself. Because if you hadn't ordered with her, then she would only have gotten a discount on hers I can't see why a friend would do that. and personally I wouldn't consider her not to be much of a friend. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but she really is asking a lot by expecting you to pay her full price for something that she received a discount on. |
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If she were having a hard time, she shouldn't be ordering plants, she should have given the discount to her friend and said her you use this because I just can't afford to be buying plants right now. Instead she said here let me order the plants for you using my discount and then you can pay me full price for them. |
I would not care how down and out I was I would not do that to a friend, or even an acquaintence. In fact, if I was that down and out, I don't think I would be ordering roses. But... I would just tell her, look the discount was given on the whole order. but if you would like to charge me more than the company did for my part of the order, fine -- it is not worth it to me to argue with a friend over it. But, that would leave a serious dent in the friendship. |
I would hate to see anyone end a long term friendship over anything like this but it is rather petty. I can't imagine doing that to any one of my friends; I would take the loss first. I don't think I would want to lose a friend over this but I would want to pay my own way on everything from now on. Don't most good friends share just about everything with one another?? |
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line over 10% or even think that its ok to ask you to pay her what the company took out of both of your purchase...If she had a money problem what would 10% help her in??? |
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Karen |
I'm so happy you worked it out between yourselves. Sometimes we just aren't thinking clearly. Will you still enjoy the roses??:) |
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Now you definitly know she's a good friend if you guys can talk it out like that :) Maybe she was just having a bad day or something. I'm glad you guys made up! |
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