Prayers for my Cousin Amberly please
 

My cousin Amberly is about 30-32 weeks pregnant. They can't give her an actual due date because the baby is way too small. She went to her appointment yesterday and they found that both her uterus and the baby have stopped growing. He only weighs 2 pounds 6 ounces right now. She has a blood disorder called APS which could lead to hemorraging (Sp?), and blood clots, and she already has a weak heart due to the APS and this is baby number six and she has had every baby by c-section. The baby is transverse, and the placenta isn't laying right, which makes the c-section even more high risk. Plus they are giving her steroid shots to help the baby's lungs develop which causes more stress on her already weak heart. I know there are also lots of probable complications with the baby, too.

I know some of you are probably wondering why she is continuing to get pregnant given all the complications. We are praying so hard that she will go through with the tubal this time! Her husband refused to let her get it last time and he refuses to get cut. She had three children before she married this...."man"....and he married her and has kept her pregnant! This is the third baby in less than 3 years. They have a 2 year old and a 1 year old and now this one....the 2 year old and one year old are less than a year apart! The one year old will turn 2 before the 2 year old turns 3!!!! She is supposed to be on complete bedrest but her "man" will not help her around the house "because he works outside of the home". I realise this is more info than everyone needs, but she really has a controlling husband and I am upset because he is so selfish and is more concerned with the house being clean or his dinner being ready for him than he is for the health of my cousin and their baby.:mad: :mad: :mad: :thumbdown :thumbdown

Forgive me for venting, but please pray! The will be taking the baby either this Friday or Saturday.

Thank you in advance.

Keeping her in my prayers.

Many prayers going out to your cousin and her unborn baby. Please continue to keep us posted on her!

Suzi

prayers going out to her right this minute.....just think possitive, hugs

Definetely keeping Amberly in my Prayers. I think once your cousin is out of the woods with this baby, she needs to put her foot down and earn some of her self-respect back. I HATE men like him and if they fell off the face of the earth we would all be better off. So once your cousin recovers tell her to either step it up or risk living like that for the rest of her life.

So sorry to hear this and of course prayers are going out to the whole family. Too bad he won't wake up and realize that "barefoot and pregnant" went away like 50 years ago!!

I'm so sorry to hear this - my daughter is pregnant right now and I know how it is to have something go amiss.

I hope everything turns out OK

Thanks everyone! I really appreciate it!

She won't stand up to him because she believes that women are supposed to obey their husbands.

Oh brother :eek: You need to bring her to YT so we can allllll have a serious conversation with her about this. After eevrything is cleared up of course.:p

Sending prayers to Amberly and her baby for a successful delivery and a healthy little boy. She must be so scared. I hope her "man" realizes how much danger he is putting her in with his way of thinking. He needs to have a brick come up side o' his head, for sure! Hugs to you, Amberly and her little guy.

Your cousin and her unborn child are in my prayers. I pray for a safe delivery. After this baby is born your cousin needs to set her husband straight, I think she needs to talk to a professional , she is allowing her husband to treat her this way. Not a good thing... Gina

Strange... I have so much in common with your cousin but our husbands don't. I just turned 32 weeks pregnant. My husband has been VERY helpful around the house. Even though he works, he's been doing the grocery shopping, laundry, cooking, and has even been helping out with the cleaning. He loves doing stuff for me and I tell him that I apprecaite it. His consultation to get snipped is today, it is something that he wanted to do because we only want 2 kids.
Maybe you can help her out around the house or babysit the kids? Maybe you can even take her hubby off to the side and straighten him out. Now is not the time for her to be arguing with him about this because she's already under enough stress. If he cares about her health and the baby's he will take care of his family better.
Another thing is that it does take 2 to make a baby. If she doesn't want anymore babies there are steps she could be taking to prevent it even if that means taking birth control pills behind his back. Or she can cut him off until he gets snipped. But I think the best thing to do is for her to talk to him. It sounds like they have a lot on their plate. I can't imagine having so many kids and having them close together.
I will be praying for that baby and that she finds help for the problems with her husband.

I am sorry I haven't updated you all. They ended up NOT taking the baby when they had planned to. When she went to the hospital for her c-section he was doing better and so they sent her home for the week and told her to continue on bedrest. They felt that at that point it was best to keep the baby in for as long possible.

Ok so she went to the doctor again yesterday and the baby is worse again.
Unfortuantely so is Amber-Leigh. She is wearing a 24 hour heart monitor because they believe she is suffering from Bitaychardia. ( two areas of the heart are beating to fast.) This is probably what is causing ineffective blood flow to the baby and making him not grow as well. They also got a picture during the ultrasound yesterday that showed the baby pushing into the birth canal during braxton hicks contractions. The doctor is talking about them taking the baby early again. They are hoping to wait until Monday at least so they will have the results of Amber-Leigh's monitor test back by then. If she does have what she suspects they will have to take the baby because he will just suffer increases stress and risk if left inside. So we are back to waiting and wondering. The doctor is now firm about how far along she is. The doctor says she is at 33 weeks now. If she can wait just one more week she will be at 34 and the long term health of a baby born at 34 weeks or later is better than a baby born at 33 weeks. So She need your continued prayers.

i hope that everything will be okay for your cousin and her baby...let's all keep prayers floating her way!!! she can tell her ob/gyn to tie her tubes right after the c-section it doesn't take very long and she can do it without he hubby knowing about it....he needs a kick in the nads for the way he is acting! but that is my opinion. anyway good luck with your cousin and her baby!!!:)

Willow,
I am saying prayers for both your sister and her unborn child. Your right, 34 weeks is much safer. That one week makes a hugh difference. Good luck to your sister. I pray the delivery of her son is a safe one.
Your brother in law is a controll freak! I hope at this point he has opened his eyes and is scared to death for his wife and unborn son. He better drop down on his knees and pray his heart out that things work out. Maybe God will give him a second chance to smarten-up. Please keep us informed. Carol