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I have mixed feelings and what am I supposed to do?? I like the new job, but the kids are adjusting well, they are very emotional and crying a lot and its just not like either of them. Im having a hard time leaving them when financially i really dont have too. so what do I do ??? |
Just follow what your heart tells you to do - keep in mind, it's still a new change for everyone - and the kiddies will adjust. Some people work regardless of financial need just to get out in the world and interact with other people and get away from home for a bit - but if that's not what you need, and money isn't an issue, than why not just go on being a domestic goddess! If you're not happy, then do what you need to do to make yourself happy! |
If you dont need the job I would give the job up untill all your kids are in School. They are only little once. I also think it is sad that they are missing you so much. I am a stay at home Mom and I know it is boreing sometimes but it also has its rewards |
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i agree, but the reason i took the job was for one, its like a once in a lifetime oppertunity and two I was feeling smothered. I mean I was with kids 24 hours 7 days a week and felt like I too needed a break. I dont know. My husband says give it a few weeks and that the kids arent going to adjust in a week. Its a lot for them. Issac started kindergarten and mommy started working, thats a lot to choke for a 5 year old ya know?? Maybe it will get better after the two weeks, Im going down from 4 ten hour shifts to 3. that may help?? |
As it's already been said, all you really need to do is follow your heart:) It will never steer you wrong! But, your hubby may have a point as well. It's only been a week, just as you have to adjust to a life outside your home by means of a job, your kids have to adjust to mom not being there each and every day. I'm a working mom and when my boys were little, especially the oldest, it was so hard to leave them the first week I returned to work after their births. I just wanted to stay home and love them and attend to their needs, not have someone else doing it for me! But - I love my job, enjoy the "adult" conversations I have and when the day is done and I'm home with my family, I enjoy them even more because of the time I've had away from them - if that makes any sense! If your heart isn't in it, then you'll have your answer but - my vote would be to give it at least a little more time if you truly enjoy what you are doing (and I can tell from your posts about your job that you do:)). Best of luck and I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers:) |
All I can say is that the time you spend with your kids is about QUALITY not QUANTITY. I know what you mean about feeling smothered. Absence does make the heart grow fonder and it helps you appreciate your family more when you are able to be with them. Your kids probably just want attention because they're not used to what's going on. Just make sure you ask them how their day was and make sure they still get the attention they need. I think you all can be happy. Also, let the kids know how much you enjoy your job and talk to them about it. If there's any way they can visit you at work it would even be better. Lots of people work for reasons other than money. Feeling like you've accomplished something is a very rewarding experience and in my opinion better than sitting around at home missing the kids while they're at school anyways. Good luck. |
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