divorce laws in florida
 

does anyone really know about them.. my brother just got served with divorce papers , he knew he was getting them, but he is all upset because in the papers it states the witch wants everything. he as 2 children 1 girl 17
and a boy 12..anyway he is just un controlable right now. the paper states she wants him to pay for her lawyers, alimony, maintenance, mortgage, kids insurance etc,, mind you she works in the court system.. he is afraid he wont have any money to live.. i just want to beat the crap outta her..
he is coming to ny tonight, this was already planned and she planned to serve him today.. thank god he can be with his family this week..
please i need some answers before i leave today so i can tell him

I've never been through a divorce so I don't know this for sure but isn't it typical to ask for everything and then the lawyers negotiate and things end up being divided up in court? :confused: Hopefully being with family will help him through this...we'll be sending good thoughts your way.

I cant be of any help but I just want to say I am so sorry and I hope he finds a good lawyer and thing work out for him.

This is the best I can offer:

http://www.divorcesource.com/info/di.../florida.shtml

I don't have any advice I just wanted to say I think that's terrible:( . I don't know your ex sister in law, but she sounds like a heifer:thumbdown. I hate foul women:thumbdown I'm sending hugs to you and your brother and his kids:)

It's typical to ask for the world to start out with so you have room to negotiate. Depending on your brother's circumstances, financial and all of that will factor in. He may not have the means to pay her mortgage and all of that. I don't know their situation of finances at all, but I would definitely suggest strongly that he find an attorney. After which he'll state his ability to pay or not pay. It now becomes a matter of he said she said unless they can come to an agreement, which would be the most cost effective.

Best of luck to him.

Don't know about Fl, but I think most papers start out like that. Sounds like there will be alot of fighting for rights between the lawyers. Unfortunately, it usually takes a slightly crooked, or extremely powerful attny to win. Good luck to your brother in his hunt for the right representation. Just make sure whoever it is, that they know exactly what they are doing (yes, this is coming from experience - the losing end). I hope it works out for him. If she has the right attny, and he doesn't, he could still end up paying for things he can't. I ended up paying for my husband's support and alimony(we live in a non-alimony state) and we weren't even married because he was misrepresented. So, PLEASE, make sure he finds the right person.

thank you my friends. i just feel so bad for my brother.. he is 51 and lost.
he crys i cry. he calls my mom she crys she calls me i cry.. how can i just sit there and hear a grown man cry.. i feel sick... i want to be there for him..
his friends tell him that hes gonna lose everything.. i say impossible. ive been there..she can ask for anything she wants he just has to counter sue the
witch... what makes her right, cause shes a woman... shes the one who went for this divorce.. shes the no good one.. he s the one who pays every single bill in that house.. and then some... shes the one who racked up
a 25.000 credit card bill twice and my brother had to pay for it.. there is so much more to it and i just want solid answers to give him..

First of all, he needs to come up there, be with his family, and try to relax and enjoy the visit. When he returns to Florida, he needs to find an attorney, one who specializes in divorces AND that maybe comes recommended. Not sure of the laws in Florida (is it a community property state or not?) but there are laws in place in each state that sets a pre-determined amount for child support (which is subject to change based on the income). As for alimony, there again, there should be a set scale used to determine percentage awarded (if any!). I would not like to think that Florida, or any state for that matter, would award so much money that it makes the individual unable to survive!!! It should be set up to where he WILL have money to live on himself. Oh, and he also needs to make sure HIS papers state that he is no longer responsible for any of her debts. That way, if she racks up more credit card debt, he's not held liable for the payments. I know he's upset right now, as you all are, but hang in there Gina! Be there for your brother, just as you have been. He will be okay - I can't help but think otherwise! Will have you all in my thoughts and prayers:)

Suzi

the only advice I can say is


GET THE BEST LAWYER YOU CAN AFFORD!!!

he already has a lawyer and will see him aug 30 when he gets back.
my mom flew down there a few months ago when the s**t hit the fan. she wanted to make sure he was ok.. i think he was suicidal ,he was.. my poor brother lost so much weight, down to 130 lbs believe that.. my dad saw him and just cried... he is a loner type of guy,, just into fixing he house and doing stuff manually, and of course his motorcycle... doesnt ask for much. dont drink, do drugs anything like that, but she sure does. we all seem to think she went the other way, shes been hanging around her girlfriend for a long long long time now... sleeps there, and the children know this... i dont really care if anyone sees the either cause i hate the bitch. i want to let it known.

Make sure he has the best family/divorce lawyer around!!!

Friend just went through a divorce this summer. Her husband filed. She got EVERYTHING...because she had the darn best lawyer in town.

I don't have any advice, but wanted to wish you and your brother the best. I can't stand it when women or men have a decent, hardworking, loyal spouse and then they sh*t all over them. It upsets me to no end. Please give your brother a big hug from me!!!

It is usually the good one that gets s**t on!

devoted to Lucy!
 

In Georgia, kids can choose who they want to live with at the age of 14. Seems to me his attorney might want to talk to them also. Sounds like he's into his family and she's into everything else.

Wish him well
Kim and Lucy:aimeeyork

how is your brother doing??

he is ok but pitiful. im taking care of him... trying to make him strong. thanks for caring....

i feel bad for him. It hurts sooo bad and its like you feel so empty and alone. poor guy

Sounds like your brother is gonna get screwed ...Sorry ....But alot of states are as bad as flo .Hope it works out for him at any rate they can only get so much according to how much he makes and in the start of a divorce its always out for blood ..his attorney should make a solid counter offer .I feel for you /divorces are no fun ~

I just saw this. I am no legal expert but my uncle got divorced 2 years ago in Florida and he got screwed up the you know what. The slut filed for divorce after leaving him for another man. My uncle is a corporate executive and he traveled alot in his job. She took advantage of this and had an affair. Anyway, after she filed she asked for everything, the house, the car, their daughter and the b*tch even wanted half his pension!! In the end, my uncle settled for leaving her the house, car and daughter if she gave up going after his pension. I think my uncle even wound up paying her attorney fees. He has visitation with their daughter and he is much happier now. But when the whole thing was going on, he would come to NY to spend time with us and he was miserable. Just like your brother he lost weight, couldn't sleep and became very depressed. Please give your brother all the love and support he needs right now because he going through a really hard time. I wish him the best of luck and hope everything turns out ok for him.

devoted to Lucy!
 

I've read several of your threads and you sound like a really caring person. I hope things go well with your brother.


Kim and Lucy:aimeeyork

Gina, I feel so bad for what your brother is going through..Although I don't know what the Florida laws are on divorce I do know that he needs to get tough...I got divorced 9 years ago and am now married to a wonderful man...I had just turned 40 yrs old so my girls were older. One out of HS and the other graduated a few years later...This was a decision that I had made several years before I finally did it...It wasn't because of a man. My X was an abusive alcoholic, more verbal than physical...But, it was still the hardest thing I had ever had to go through in my life. I can only say from experience that your brother can't back down from her...He is hurt and she is going to say things to him that will tear his heart out..I'm sure he is on an emotional rollercoster..Having children makes it that much more difficult. She is going to tell him things that probably aren't even true..I have to agree with some of the posts...her lawyer probably told her to go for EVERYTHING. This doesn't sound like it is going to be an easy divorce...not that any of them are. I learned things from my divorce....never settle! I did and got screwed....(long story!) I'm sure your brother knows he is responsible for his children...I feel he needs a good lawyer so she doesn't take him to the cleaners...I pray you brother gets through this hard time..He is very lucky to have you as his sister and friend...My family turned against me at that time in my life when I needed them them most..(all is good now)being the person that I am.

She works for the courts so she knows how to play the game. Rule number 1 ask for everything. He can go in and ask her for all the same stuff. Judges are usually fair and reasonable. Who has the better job?

My son went through a nasty one and he allowed her to mop the floor with him. And he is still payhing. You cannot be a whimp. You have to fight just as dirty as they are.

Best advice I can give for right now is cancel all credit cards and bank accounts. My dumb ass son kept putting money in and she kept over drawing it. So guess who got stuck paying off all the over drafts.