Co worker miscarriage
 

I have a co worker that just had a miscarriage a few days ago. She send an email to another co worker to tell her that she doesn't want to talk about it when she goes back to work which is today. Of course we all want to make her feel good. I was thinking about giving her a card with something not related to what happened to her. Should I do it? Is it ok if I give her the card? If so, what should I write on it? I just want her to know that we care for her and that I really fell sad for what she is going through. Or should I just leave it alone and don't do anything. Any suggestions are appreciate it.

That sounds really nice - and maybe take her out to lunch just to give her a chance to talk if she wants to ?

Maybe just a thinking of you card. You don't really have to write anything. That way she'll know how you feel without having to talk about it.

^I would do w/ that, but send it to her house. She probably doesn't want to talk about it at work because she doesn't want to get upset at work.

I agree. I would send her a nice card that says something unrelated to the miscarriage, like "Have a Nice Day" or just something nice. Maybe send some flowers to her house or something. She probably just doesn't want to talk about it at lunch bc she doesn't want to cry at work.

I agree a thinking of you card. She obviously doesn't want to breakdown at work.

devoted to Lucy!
 

The thinking of you card sent to her house is a good idea! It's very thoughtful of you, too.



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My daughter had a miscarriage a few weeks ago and she wanted left alone for a while too. She didn't want people to come up and voice their concerns for her. Her emotions were too much on edge. She's talking about it now but still doesn't want a lot of people to know about it.

A card or flowers sent at home would be nice. In a week or more give her a hug and ask how she's doing and really listen. Don't be afraid after a period of time to let her talk about it. It is healing for her.

When you have a miscarriage it's a very personal thing to happen. It's hard for someone who hasn't experienced it to understand. To those going through it it's a death and they need time to grieve. Don't pretend that it never happened. Let her take the lead on how much that she wants to share, but let her talk, as I said it is healing for her. Don't expect her to be "over it" very quickly, as I said, give her time to grieve (which could be months).

Be sensitive to her loss. Don't point out cute babies, talk about your expecting friend, show a baby gift that you bought for a friend, and etc. Those things are reminders to her of what she's lost.

I hope that some of the things that I've said are helpful. Because I, too, have had a miscarriage.

I am so sorry to hear about your daughter losing her child, and you also. While I've never been pregnant or had a miscarriage, growing up my mother had 3:( !She was very sick, and it was a miracle she had my sister and I. It devestated her and our entire family each time it happened. It really is a death of a loved one.

I agree having had a miscarriage myself she will not want to break down as time goes on I am sure she will be able to talk about it but not yet.