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StewiesMom 08-12-2006 12:36 PM
Dating...
 
Why is it so hard? I am too upfront to play the games! I am not "settling" for anyone; I want someone awesome. I think I found someone awesome, but he is playing games with me. I have to admit that the games keep things interesting and keeps me on the edge of my seat wondering what's happening next, but aren't we wasting precious time? You only live once!

gutu28 08-12-2006 12:43 PM
because men are stupid and dont always know what they want..thats why :D

newmommy 08-12-2006 12:44 PM
im married so I envy you sometimes, i think dating would be fun, but then again i am secure and stable lol its always greener on the other side

ytsirk27 08-12-2006 12:44 PM
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Originally Posted by gutu28
because men are stupid and dont always know what they want..thats why :D

:thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: Either that or they want there cake and eat it too!!!

amspoelstra 08-12-2006 12:59 PM
This is what I found from both personal experience and what I've seen with friends. Men still live like prehistoric times!!! Honestly, they are like the cavemen! They feel like they have to hunt for the right woman to make it worth it. Is that what you mean by playing games?

Dragonfly 08-12-2006 02:16 PM
I can't help you with the dating game I haven't dated in 22 years my hubby wouldn't like it. I tryed to help my daughter but she wouldn't hear of it, now she is getting married in Oct to a guy that has nothing but 2 children from his frist and second wife my daugher will never have anyhing unless she does it on her own she is 20 years old. Please don't give up he may be right around the coner. Best wishes.

my2boyz 08-12-2006 02:36 PM
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Originally Posted by StewiesMom
but aren't we wasting precious time?
Do I hear a clock ticking here? ;) All kidding aside...it won't happen until it's time...quit looking and you'll find it, that's just the way it works. Not to be harsh here but the awsome person you found might be someone elses awsome person...the trick is to find the awsome person who thinks you're awsome too and they won't play games! I wasn't looking for anyone or anything when I met my husband...3 days later I moved in, 10 months later we got married and this December 20th will be 25 years. :) Good luck!

red98vett 08-12-2006 02:47 PM
Kristy - if you think you found someone awesome - go for it - if it's not meant to be...you'll know it soon enough. Life is short but by no means does that mean you can't have fun....if it's not this guy...then it could be the next guy. IF you don't want to settle - Keep tasting the deserts till you find one you can't live without !

txshopper73 08-12-2006 02:56 PM
Because women generally know what we want. It's men that are usually undecided...wanting to keep their "options open".

When you stop playing their games is when they "normally" start coming around. So my advice to this person you found..."SH** OR GET OFF OF THE POT!"

simonandhallie 08-12-2006 04:16 PM
Is this like a complete the sentence game?

Dating.............SUCKS!

That's my 2 cents but I'm old and bitter :)

Lexi Rae 08-14-2006 08:14 AM
i hate dating too,,, never really did it though,,, i always got really lucky. when i did go out, i usually found someone that lasted years... thank god i found a nice guy., well so far so good.... you cant look for it either, when you least expect it, boom there he is.... if this guy treats you nice kristy , keep him, but if you feel he is giving you a run , drop him... real fast...
good luck to you...

vainchick5 08-14-2006 08:21 AM
Honestly that's just how juvenile guys are. If I were you, I would have an honest conversation with him and tell him that you're not interested in playing his games and unless he WANTS to be with you game-free, that you are moving on. That's what I would do personally. I ran into that problem as well, and I think it's just dating younger guys is really what gets you in the game playing. When I met my b/f, who's 6 years older than me, so he's in his early 30's, the first thing he told was NO GAMES. He said, no waiting 4 days for the other person to call, or waiting for one person to say something or invite the person somewhere. He was like, both of us are great people and can date whomever we want but we choose to be together so let's not play with that, cause if games get involved, I don't want to be part of it. I couldn't have said it better myself, I was always the one having those talks with other guys, so I loved that he was just like me. When you meet the right person, games won't be an issue. Good luck!

RLC12345678 08-14-2006 08:27 AM
I agree with Nobella....date someone older!!!!!!! I am in my 20s and married, but one of my friends is dating and she will not date anyone under 30. She says that if you just go on 1 date with an older guy, you will never go back to those juvenille guys! Get you a sugar daddy that will lavish you with gifts and treat you like a Princess! :p

vainchick5 08-14-2006 08:31 AM
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Originally Posted by RLC12345678
I agree with Nobella....date someone older!!!!!!! I am in my 20s and married, but one of my friends is dating and she will not date anyone under 30. She says that if you just go on 1 date with an older guy, you will never go back to those juvenille guys! Get you a sugar daddy that will lavish you with gifts and treat you like a Princess! :p
Exactly! I swear I used to think I would never date anyone more than 4 years older, but I'm 26 and my honey is 32 and I would never go back to dating guys closer to my age. Older guys are more responsible and have their crap together. They are financially stable and doing great, and they are out of their party phase, so they are not on the prowl. They are ready to settle down with the right person. They have more life experience so you can lean on them for help and advice. Plus they do treat you like a Princess and lavish you with all kinds of things, not just material ;)

Lexi Rae 08-14-2006 08:33 AM
perhaps all my b/f were younger than me,,,ooopps , yes i rob the cradle..
no really just a year or too younger... my b/f is 1 yr younger... when i first met him , i told him no games or take a walk. 1 game your gone i told him..
he hasnt played a single game yet....

Zoey's Momma 08-14-2006 08:34 AM
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Originally Posted by simonandhallie
Is this like a complete the sentence game?

Dating.............SUCKS!

That's my 2 cents but I'm old and bitter :)

I'm right there with you Kim.:thumbup:

RLC12345678 08-14-2006 08:34 AM
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Originally Posted by vainchick5
Exactly! I swear I used to think I would never date anyone more than 4 years older, but I'm 26 and my honey is 32 and I would never go back to dating guys closer to my age. Older guys are more responsible and have their crap together. They are financially stable and doing great, and they are out of their party phase, so they are not on the prowl. They are ready to settle down with the right person. They have more life experience so you can lean on them for help and advice. Plus they do treat you like a Princess and lavish you with all kinds of things, not just material ;)
For example, my friend says that if you go on a date with someone in their 20s, they will take you to dinner at a deli of somesort and then take you to the movies and then expect action from you at the end of the night. An older man will take you to a nice expensive sitdown restaurant that you have to have reservations at, take you to the theater, and then take you home and not even expect a kiss from you.

LuvMySissy 08-14-2006 08:37 AM
I have no advice to offer as I got married at 19 - though we're still married (and happily in love) 25 years later!!!

Good luck to you. You will know when you've found the person who is right for you.

vainchick5 08-14-2006 08:42 AM
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Originally Posted by RLC12345678
For example, my friend says that if you go on a date with someone in their 20s, they will take you to dinner at a deli of somesort and then take you to the movies and then expect action from you at the end of the night. An older man will take you to a nice expensive sitdown restaurant that you have to have reservations at, take you to the theater, and then take you home and not even expect a kiss from you.
Couldn't agree with you more. My b/f and I have been dating for almost a year now and we have yet to go to a restaurant that doesn't require reservations and nice clothes. When we want to relax, he cooks for me or I cook for him. But when we go out it's all great and fancy and there has never been an expectation on my end. He's NEVER let me use a single penny towards anything. He even takes me clothes/grocery shopping. I'm not materialistic by any means, because I do a lot of nice things for him as well, like cook, help him with his laundry, help his parents if they need something and he's not around, ect. But point is that young guys, you have to hint at the things you want, with older, (sometimes anyway, I don't want to generalize) they just know and are more considerate.

Lexi Rae 08-14-2006 08:59 AM
a man is a man,, they all expect something or at least wish they got something at the end of the nite... not that they are gonna get it, but if it wasnt in there head,,, well, then i think , he didnt have such a great time..
one track minds i tell ya.... dont believe them if they tell you otherwise

vainchick5 08-14-2006 09:07 AM
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Originally Posted by Lexi Rae
a man is a man,, they all expect something or at least wish they got something at the end of the nite... not that they are gonna get it, but if it wasnt in there head,,, well, then i think , he didnt have such a great time..
one track minds i tell ya.... dont believe them if they tell you otherwise
Well of course they are thinking about it, but there's a difference between thinking or wishing and expecting. If my b/f EXPECTED something, he would be out the door. The difference is a guy who expects gets in a pissy mood when he doesn't get what he wnats at the end of the night or becomes a 5 year old kid. So I don't think a man is a man, it's more a difference between a boy and a man. A real man doesn't expect it but appreciates and enjoys whatever happens and still has a good attitude if nothing happens.

StewiesMom 08-14-2006 09:12 AM
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Originally Posted by vainchick5
Honestly that's just how juvenile guys are. If I were you, I would have an honest conversation with him and tell him that you're not interested in playing his games and unless he WANTS to be with you game-free, that you are moving on. That's what I would do personally. I ran into that problem as well, and I think it's just dating younger guys is really what gets you in the game playing. When I met my b/f, who's 6 years older than me, so he's in his early 30's, the first thing he told was NO GAMES. He said, no waiting 4 days for the other person to call, or waiting for one person to say something or invite the person somewhere. He was like, both of us are great people and can date whomever we want but we choose to be together so let's not play with that, cause if games get involved, I don't want to be part of it. I couldn't have said it better myself, I was always the one having those talks with other guys, so I loved that he was just like me. When you meet the right person, games won't be an issue. Good luck!

The guy to which I am referring is 14 years older than me.

I appreciate everyone's advice and responses. :)

vainchick5 08-14-2006 09:13 AM
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Originally Posted by StewiesMom
The guy to which I am referring is 14 years older than me.

I appreciate everyone's advice and responses. :)
You should just have an honest conversation about game playing with him. That usually sets them straight :D

Lexi Rae 08-14-2006 09:15 AM
well, the first date i had, my b/f was afraid to touch me,,, thats because
the days before, just on the phone, i warned him.... more than once.. just felt like i had too,, i was scared to to death,,, im shy when in person..so thats why i did it that way.. actually still shy,,,

StewiesMom 08-14-2006 09:18 AM
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Originally Posted by vainchick5
You should just have an honest conversation about game playing with him. That usually sets them straight :D
I did. He's hopeless!

vainchick5 08-14-2006 09:20 AM
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Originally Posted by StewiesMom
I did. He's hopeless!
Sorry hun. If I were you, I'd move on. Just my opinion though.

Lexi Rae 08-14-2006 09:24 AM
awww kristy, there are plenty of fish in the sea... just go out with your
girlfriends and have fun, before you know it, you will find a nice man..
i alway thought i would be alone even though i really never had a chance to be.. well yes actually before this b/f i took a break and got lexi and didnt want anyone and then boom... michael came along and wont leave., kidding.
he is here to stay,,,so far so good

JCarlson2004 08-14-2006 09:40 AM
Kristy, everyone has given you great advice already -- so I won't bug you with anymore. All I want to say if from what I've seen from you (just over the internet), you're a very smart, level-headed girl. And from the pictures I've seen, you're beautiful too. You've got a lot to offer a guy and any guy would be lucky to have you. Just remember ... this guy isn't doing you any favors. HE is lucky to have a girl like you interested in him. If he's playing games with your emotions or being fickle, drop him. Once you do, he'll either say screw her and move on or he'll realize his mistake, change his way and apologize to you. You're too good to be treated this way. YOU know you're worth something ... now it's time for HIM to know it.

PS - The REAL reason you can't find the perfect guy is because STEWIE is the perfect guy!! :D :D

Lexi Rae 08-14-2006 09:44 AM
you are beautiful kristy,, no man is worth heartache so dont let him give you one.. your worth more...keep on trucking....

Pattie 08-23-2006 03:08 PM
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Originally Posted by newmommy
im married so I envy you sometimes, i think dating would be fun, but then again i am secure and stable lol its always greener on the other side

Greener on the other side but you have to cut the grass no matter what side your on!:D


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