children?
 

anyone not planning to have children?
hubby and i are at a point in our lives when we're getting constant pressure from the would-be grandparents to have kids. (nothing like an otherwise sane mother-in-law constantly reminding me that i'm no spring chicken). but we're seriously considering not having kids at all.

anyone not planned/decided not to have kids? ever?

Can't help ya there, but I will tell you this I always wanted children and never had any. Now I have step children and grand babies and love it to pieces...

I really cant help you much but this is definetly you and your hubbys decision! I have always wanted children since I was very young and I just cant imagine my life without them! I dont have kids yet but one day I will!

Maybe you should sit down with your mother in law and let her know that you and your hubby have decided that you dont want to have children.

yeah i have had a chat with the mother in law already. besides it's her son that's really really really not wanting to have kids. i'm on the fence about it. but her attitude is kinda like we're just a couple of kids who don't know what's good for us.

i told her if she really wants us to have kids then she'll have to talk my husband into it because he's the real bottle neck. but she feels that it's my responsibility to talk him into it. and i'm like, i can't talk him into something that i don't know if i buy myself. and i refuse to be a married but otherwise single mother with an unwilling father. parents ... can't live with 'em. can't kill 'em. ;)

I know you have to make your own decisions but, I just have to say one thing. If you have a yorkie, multiply that love times 1000,000 and I would hate to see anybody miss out on that. I have 3 children and I couldn't even begin to describe the love I have for them. I just couldn't imagine not having them.They are my life. OK. I know, that was more than one thing, LOL, sometimes I get carried away! Anyway, good luck in your decisions! ;)

My parents were in the same boat... they were married for 9 years before they decided to have me and then 4 years later had my sister only because they did not want me to be an only child.
My mom said that before they had me people had just assumed that she could not get pregnant, the real truth, she did not want to have kids, but my dad eventually talked her into it and she is glad that he did...
I think it is your choice, no one else's, you are the one who is going to have to raise them... it is you and your husband's choice.
I would just tell them that it is you and your husband's decision when and if ya'll have kids and you will let then know when the decision has been made... Good luck to you!

Relations of my hubby decided they too didnt want children so he had a vasectomy at the age of 35.
Each to their own i say :D

well, i wish i had children years ago when i was married, it never happeend.
i feel it was all in gods hands... he has other plans for me... i do regret it
somewhat now, but its really to late for me and i have to deal with that.
it does make me sad when i see my b/f with his child and my x husband
talk about his children, i just want to cry at that point... i gonna fill my
life with a bunch of yorkies and that will fullfill me...

I can't imagine my life with my children. Yes, they are work. Lots of hard work, but every minute is worth it. The laughter that they bring....you just wonder what you ever did before you had them. My children are my greatest joy!! And grandchildren.....well, there just aren't enough words to describe the joy that they bring!!

I don't plan on having children... Don't get me wrong..i love kids but i just can't see having my own..

My Husbands brother isnt having children. It is sad because he is so good with children which is usually the way it goes. My husband was 36 before he had his first child.

I wouldn't spend too much time on this, because let me tell you, if the Lord wants you to have children, you WILL have them!! I had my tubes tied 3 yrs before my last child was born :eek: During a procedure a few years after he was born the doctor told me that my tubes had not grown back together, they were still cut and tied :eek: (we even have the picture to prove it, but I'll spare you and won't poste it :rolleyes: )! So my theory is...it is out of our hands!! If it is in the master plan for you to have kids you will have them...so tell you MIL that if it is meant to be it will and there is no need to keep putting pressure on you!!

Edited to add: Just wanted to say that my "suprise" child is such a joy and adds so much to our family...don't know what I would do without him!!

I could tell that you were unsure about this. I can tell you this if you decide not to have a child because your husband doesn't want one some day you will resent him for robbing you of the joy of motherhood. That is something you and he need to consider. I couldn't imagine never having kids but I know there are some people that just don't and they live very fulfilled lives. My neighbors sister doesn't have kids doesn't want kids..but she's a school teacher. She loves kids but didn't want to have any of her own. I think it's something you both need to be a 100% on either way. Good luck I know this is a very tough decision.

Well, you BOTH have to want the child, this is VERY important. A pregnancy is NOT something that should happen just to make someone happy. How old are you? If you are young, you still have a while to decide, a lady just had a baby at 64 recently. There is no rush on these things.
I will tell you this though. My son is my whole world. I don't even want to think about what my life was like before I had him. He changed my whole life and I feel like I've come full circle. He is my reason for living now. Children are such a special love that is different than any other. Whatever choice you make is up to you and your husband. You two definately need to talk it out. I hope that he warned you before you two got married that he never wanted kids.

My husband and I have been married for 20 years this June, and no children...after awhile, the "grandparents" just stop asking! :)
When we were married about 5 years we decided to try but after a couple more years when nothing happened went to see the fertility specialist. Turned out our "difficulty" was treatable, and the doc started making plans to move forward...I remember sitting in the dr's office and saying "wait", I want to discuss all of this with my husband first (of course, he was sitting right there at the time, but I wanted to talk with him alone). At this point we had been married 7 years without kids, we had a great relationship (still do) and I just wasn't sure I wanted to push the issue. Surprise! Husband felt the same way. So we decided to table the thought and revisit the idea of having kids if and when either of us decided it was something we really wanted to do.


What we didn't want to do was have children just because it was "the thing to do" or was "expected of us".

It was a little lonely for awhile when EVERYONE WE KNEW seemed to be running around after little ones, but we've managed to find several friends who also don't have any children, (there are a lot of us out there). But if you're in your late 20's - early 30's it will seem for awhile that you're the only ones without children!

Have children if that's what you both want to do, but if not, you are not alone!