How do you do it... For those of you who have in-laws (parent, sibling, etc.) how do you get along with them? Just wanting to hear how other people get along and your personal experiences... :rolleyes: Hope to get a LOT of responses.... :) Thanks YT! |
Haha, Actually I get along with my In-law a lot more then I get along with my family haha :) Sorry I am not much help, but I can say I do not get along with my brother in law(my sister husband) or his family(other then his parents) and it very very hard spending time with them, they never grew up or something... very crude and rude and so nasty to be around. SO we limit the time we spend over at my sisters, if the whole gang is around :eek: |
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Well as far as my inlaws go I get along with them pretty well, my brothers and sisters there are six of us with me being the oldest and I am not living at home anymore thank goodness bc we fight constantly. I work with my mom so we get along pretty well. |
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My inlaws claim to LOVE me now, but when I was dating my husband (the oldest of 7 their kids) they really hated me and called me horrible names, etc. So, I don't know how to react when they're nice to me. This Christmas was the 1st one that I've spent away from my family and it was interesting to say the least. |
I didn't realize you were asking about one's own family too. I get along with mine (own a business w/ one brother),talk to the other frequently love all the spouses and the nieces and nephews. But the secret is......my family is NORMAL |
LOL,,,,,, you gotta love family! My mothter in law is also my stepmother. And I would have to say I do love her very much but I tell ya,,, we have gotten into some good ones over the years! I had a very hard time hearing the words come out my dads mouth,,,,, "Are you coming over tonight?" I was in the hospital having my son and I was hoping I was just hearing things,,,,,, but nope I sure wasn't. It was the hardest thing to get used to but as long as the are both happy that's all that matters. |
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well, im divorced now , but me and my mother in law loved each other.. i took her everywhere .. shopping she just loved. especially the dollar stores and junk stores...i was closer to her than my mom, well not really, but she was just as special. after my divorce, i havent seen her in 7 years, i ran into her in the hospital visiting a friend. well let me tellyou, it was like we never were apart. she cried, held me tight and said she loves me and i was the best thing that ever happened to her son...im in touch with her now and am now talking to her son.. she needs me and i love her...i was a good daugher in law, not like the one she has now... |
This is such a great post!!! My hubby's parents are....different...to say the least! My family is very loving and we try to do things together all of the time. His family hardly ever tries to arrange visits, etc. with us. As a matter of fact, they have been known to visit family that only live 20 minutes away from us and NEVER call us!!!! BUT...when I do have to be around them, I just remember that if it were not for them, I wouldn't have my wonderful husband. So I smile, mind my manners, and remember that they are the reason that I have the sweetest, most wonderful man in the world!!!! :wub: |
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I am a very stubborn person who speaks my mind and will not tolerate ill treatment to myself or anyone else. :mad: How did you do it Bchgirl? :eek: |
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That's nice :) My sister in law had a wonderful relationship with my mother.When my mother passed away, my sil was as devastated as we were. :( I sometimes wished I had that with mine, but it didn't happen. Shoot, she made it pretty dang hard just being AROUND her, much less love her. |
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My hubby's family is really nice, but I'm still having trouble adjusting to hanging with them. They are very quiet and just sit around watching t.v. and my family is in constant motion. His one brother is a little off and his uncles are pretty much rednecks. But they all like me. His mom is just so happy to have a girl around to talk to. |
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I try to stay away from them. They can be ignorant about things at times. So, why go over to get my feelings hurt? Also, I have a daughter from a previous marriage. When my husband and I first got together, they loved my daughter as though she were their own...then I had their grandson. I no longer subject my daughter to their brash treatment and have said plenty to them about it. If you think I'm blunt here, you should see how I get along with them! :cool: |
I get along great with my mother in-law, she is a great lady, bless her heart, but not terribly smart, she calls me whenever she has a problem. My husbands brother has s*** on me several times & I have NO time for him. The rest on my husbands family is great & I have no problems with any of them. As for my family, we all seem to get along fairly well. My sister is probably the hardest to get along with. My father is married to a psycho-bi***, and she has cut him off from all of us. Other than that we seem pretty normal..... Des |
i don't get along with my bf's family, except for his little sister, who is 15 and the sweetest little thing.His mother HATES me!!!!! it's because he is the only boy, and I think she feels like I'm replacing her, which isn't true! And his older sister hates me for the same reason too. Also, his mom is VERY controlling, and she doesn't like me, bc I don't do what she says or wants, and she's used to that with everyone else. We just had are 2 year anniversary, and for about a year and half of our relationship I took there mess, but for the past 6 months, i've been speaking my mind a.k.a being FOUL to them. I let them treat me badly for no reason for almost 2 years, and I still was kind if not overly nice to them(and I regret this the most,i should of said something earlier). There is NO reason for them to dislike me, I'm not loose(my baby is my first and hopefully last boyfriend, not saying that anyone who's had more then one bf is, i'm just overly picky i guess), i've never smoked, been in trouble, or any of that stuff and I'm nice.....most of the time hee hee!!!!!! She's tried to break us up so many times.And when my babe asked her why she didn't like me, do you know what she said? It's not that I don't like her.....and then she came up with some lame excuse as to why she treated me so badly, for no reason. I wanted to call her up and blast her so badly, but while I dislike her greatly, I feel like I still have to show respect to her, bc she's his mother. THEN she gets mad because he spends more time with me then with her.What did she expect? she can't marry him(that would be weird :( )!!!!And she resents me bc I'm very very close to my family(my older sis is my 2nd mom, and my dad is my hero....literally), and her family is close but not nearly as close as mine. I've got so stressed over it, that my hair was falling out. WOO!!! sorry you guys if this is too long, i had to vent. I feel so much better! Thanks!!!!! |
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Wow! That is a thought provoking question! Swore I would never get personal on here...but you have touched a hot button! Actually a "steaming" one. I get along with them by attempting to "consider the source" and thank God I am halfway normal and not one of them! They are proof that God watches over fools and children. Thank goodness Christmas comes only once a year..maybe in about 6 months...my response may be a bit different! Sorry....I don't think that helps much! :mad: |
I guess I've been really blessed.. I love all my in-laws, including their spouses and kids (and thats a lot of people, my husband has 5 siblings). They loved me from the start, my family loves my husband and his family, etc. etc. etc. I know, I know.. it sounds sickening, but its true. My friends who know us for years cannot believe how well the 2 families gets along. |
It's actually getting easier now b/c my husband thinks they are just as crazy/sorry as I do. ;) My mother-in-law only opens her mouth to discuss one of 3 things: 1) how sick she is/has been/how bad she feels 2) to talk about someone else 3) Bingo/Karaoke/Casino...I just walk off right in the middle of her trying to tell me any of the such and come back later...it's rude, but gets the point accross. We have gotten to where we only visit with them on special occasions--a birthday, Christmas, Easter. Usually there are other "normal" people around that we can talk to. Last time, we never even went in the (nasty) house...we stayed outside talking to a cousin. If my child has to go to the bathroom while we are there, that is our que to leave b/c is is so disgusting! Then we stop for her at a gas station on the way out :rolleyes: |
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This is gonna sound really, really mean but those who would know our family would totally agree with this statement. My in-laws are ever so much easier to get along with now, because they are both in heaven. My FIL was a Meth. minister and his wife was a perfect preachers' wife..She had a girl picked out for her son, my hubby. I grew up very poor, but with a good family and ambitions to become educated and do the very best I could. To her, I was not good enough for her son or family- you know, the poh white trash mentality.- nor were our children. There were times when they absolutely needed me to act as nurse, and I did, but otherwise, there was very little interaction. Long after she died, I learned that my MIL talked to the WHOLE family against me. I chuckle when I remember a cousin jokingly saying she did not know my first name was NOT "That", cause my MIL would start every conversation about me with the phrase "That L...." even her brother told me things she said and frankly, they missed out on a lot when they chose to discredit me. My kids were not spared until later years. Both in-laws needed me in their last years and of course, I was there. I do not believe that we should deny things and care to the elderly in the family because of past feelings. I personally, feel we still have an obligation to cae for them. My mom and dad divorced after 34 years for another woman. My mom was my bestest friend. In late years, my dad depended on me to help with him and his second wife and again, I was there. AND, I gladly cared for him even though the remainder of the family would not speak to them. I loved him and and my mom and I dealt with them from mt perspective of love. Okay, chapter is finished..I was a middle kid, older sis who was dad's fav died of Lou Gehrig's disease at 49 and my brother was my mom's fav. My granny was the model for my life-strong, determined, nothing got her down even thoough she was in W/C and I had to care for her from age 7...I am thankful for her more than anyone else in my childhood.. |
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I love my partners mom and step dad they are some of the most wonderful people i ever met and enjoy them despite any flaws or bad behaviors i see ,the truth is lifes to short to waste time waiting for those you love to get it Right" whatever that is after all living your love which is inside you is the higher ground to walk , not to mention its not for whimps ..but is so worth it! My parents are dead now i had a good realtionship with my mom and a terrible one with my dad i felt my dad abandonded me as a child because of divorce but came to realize it is my own abandonment that hurts me ,Not living your love is the single most hurtful thing we do to ourselves .And forgivness and loving is the most power thing we give to ourselves and to others .I feel blessed having had the experiances so keep in mind ..a silver lining is within a relationship healed ..in lovenlight Deb |
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