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I got ripped off on Christmas eve Christmas eve we went to my mother-in-laws where my husbands side of the family gathered to celebrate Christmas. Someone stole $70 out of my purse that night! We are pretty sure we know who did it, but no way to prove it. My mother-in-law said she feels responsible because it's happened before and she meant to warn me to not bring my purse or not have any money in it. The girl we think stole has a lot of growing up to do...she's about 19 and has a little boy and is always stealing and doing wrong. I have always felt sorry for her and always tried to give her pep talks and build up her self esteem and all. Never again...and I'm sure she's stolen from me before as there's been times when I just can't figure out where my money's gone and just figure I must have spent it somewhere and don't remember. I will never again take my purse in when there are family gatherings where she will be. My purse will stay locked in the car! Oh, by the way, my mother in law is reimbursing me the money because she feels bad she didn't warn me. |
That's horrible when you can't trust a family member. If your mother-in-law wants to reimburse you that's okay, but it isn't her fault. She's not the one with the sticky fingers nor should she be held responsible for that gir's action. You didn't say you blamed her so that's not where I was going with this. But it really is a shame. I wish that you had proof. That girl needs to learn her lesson! |
How terrible! I am sorry you lost the money and sorry for that girl who took them. She obviously needs a lot of love and attention. |
I know my mother in law shouldn't have to pay me and I told her that, but she insists since she's reimbursed others that have lost money. She was going to call this girl today and ask her flat out if she took the money. We know she'd never admit it, but it would let her know we're on to her. This girl's dad is my husbands brother and he's kind of in denial over things she does and we don't want to do anything to get him on the outs with my husband because they're very close. My husband and another brother want to set her up at the next get together. I always put my purse in one of the bedrooms and they would be watching for her to go back there and catch her in the act. |
How sad. I'm sorry this happened. It reminds me of a few years back. We went to a new years party and I know it was not a good idea to take my purse in so I took everything out and just put my lipstick, powder cigs and a lighter. After the party we stoped to get something to eat. And when I went to go get my money I could not find it. I was like,,,,,,, how, what, when, did I lose my money?!?!? So there goes Tim, I told you not to take your purse in,,,,, bla bla bla. So we go home I am so upset about the money so I go and get ready for bed and what do you know,,,,, out falls the money that I had forgotten I had stashed away in my bra. I felt so stupid!!! |
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say I would try and set her up. If you can indeed catch her I don't think her father would even have to know what went down. I am sure if she were caught in the act she sure wouldn't want him to know so you may be able to kill 2 birds with one stone taking that approach at the next get together. I can understand not wanting to cause a rift in the family because I have been there done that scene many times before, but it would be nice if this works out because this young lady needs to learn the meaning behind family get togethers doesn't include her walking away making a profit. Good Luck! |
Oh Connie! Kind of puts a shadow on Christmas, doesn't it? It's really sad that it's a relative doing terrible things like that. I hope the girl can get some help someday soon, or she is going to find herself in jail. Your mother in law is really sweet to reimburse people, but in doing so enables this girl to continue to get away with this without making restitution herself. Not good. Hopefully this girl can get turned around before she ruins her own child's life. :( |
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what a shame to do that to a family member especially on Christmas....that really sucks and would make me very upset - so much so....I\'d probably go straight to the source. Did you talk to her Connie ? She needs the face to face discussion because when someone does things like that - they really need to know people are on to it and it cannot happen again if they are ever going to be welcome in someones home. |
This may sound mean but your mother in law protecting her from the reality of what she is doing is almost as wrong as the girl stealing, for years I watched my mother in law do the same thing for one of her grandsons,he is now in a federal prison for 20 years..to bad he was protected and not allowed to be embarresed and put to shame...gee 20 years vs facing up to what he did no brainer..just glad she died before she saw how he turned out with her help |
i would say get the proof first..you have to do that before anything... set her up the next time. you cant blame someone without legit proof of it.. i wouldnt say a word to her, how can you? just play it cool and set up her real good, catch her in the act and make a big deal over it.... that would stop her... |
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I\'m sorry that this happened to you. :( |
I\'m so sorry to hear about what happened...it\'s such a shame when a family member have done such a horrible deed. This situation has happened to me before by one of my aunt. Usually the thief thinks that they are entitled to the money or make some excuse as to why they took it to themselves so they won\'t feel guilty over it. Does she have any mental illness or problems w/ things like substance abuse or drugs? The idea of "catching her in the act" is good. That way her dad has to deal w/ the problem and not be in denial anymore. I\'m with you, when you mentioned you\'re not going to take your purse in the house next time. Your mother in law sounds very sweet. But maybe you should mentioned to her that if she keeps on reimbursing people back,the girl who stole the money will think she can keep on doing it and get away with it and someone else will have to solve the problem. |
Im so sorry this happened to you on Christmas Eve and by a family member. That is so sad. I think that setting her up is a good idea. She needs to be teach a lesson now before she ends up in jail and destroys her son\'s life. |
And there is no way of proving it??? I would set her up, if only to catch her and have a heart to heart. Sorry about the money, more sorry that you can\'t trust the family members. :( |
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If your husband and his brother are "close"...there should be NO problem addressing this. If any member of my family STOLE from another family member, there wouldn\'t be ANYONE "holding" back"..to save feelings...The "Perp" would have their literal and figurative A-- kicked until they begged for Mercy ! Geez...is nothing sacred anymore? :confused: Next time you visit? I\'d leave my purse with American Express Travelers Checks...with her NAME on them...just to make a point... Francie |
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