WTF is wrong with Rihanna?
 

Just wondering out loud. :thumbdown:thumbdown I guess she doesn't realize what a terrible role model she is for all those young girls who look up to her. She could have been a great advocate against domestic violence, but now...

Wasn't it four years ago that POS beat her? And he was put on probation for five years? Yet he got in multiple fights with other people, why is he not in jail for violating his probation?

So sad...really sad...some day she will sell a memoir about her life and how she now looks back and realizes...blah, blah, blah,.....she will one day speak against domestic violence...I hope she lives to tell...

This is something I will NEVER understand....why a woman will allow a significant other to raise a hand against her. and she is allowing this to happen to her.

I know it is so sad. I have to say I never realized how complicated the cycle of violence could be until taking classes about it with my nonprofit job. She needs some education...

Having never experienced it myself I think you are so right about the cycle! They beat (literally and figuratively) women down so much they lose all self worth. It doesn't matter what she looks like, how much money she has, he's obviously made her feel like she isn't worth being with someone better. I agree she could have been such an advocate speaking out against domestic violence:(

Its a hard cycle to break. Lets just hope the dude has changed doubt it but one can hope. Shes heavy into something too she treats crazy stuff and so that might not help either.

It's following the traditional pattern, isn't it? Beating, doctors, separation, reconciliation and sadly, usually keeps happening over & over. I've heard so-called experts say it is a kind of co-dependency and that both can be drawn to the other. Apparently she's not very strong in her sense of self and he likes and needs a woman like that. He would never ask a strong, self-assured female out and she probably wouldn't go out with a nice, old-fashioned type guy who opens doors and treats her like a princess. Well, let's hope this thug can keep from beating her to death the next time she crosses the line with him.

Oh yeah, it's a victim mentality, that they deserve it. It must be SO hard to basically grow up in the spotlight and sometimes one person can be your buoy, sadly for her, it must be him. If he is her lifeline then the pattern may never be broken. or take a long long time of therapy and counseling for her to realize she deserves better. Ah well... she's got the money to 'fix her mentality'.

I think it's just attention. It's got us talking about 2 people who's music I haven't heard in years. I know more about her than I wish I did, and I'm not a fan of her at all!

I am a survivor of domestic violence. It took me 20yrs to break away from my abuser....had I not gotten out, there is no doubt in my mind that I would not be here right now. These 'men' never change IMO the cycle continues and gets worse, they all say I'm sorry I will change and they never do....sadly some do not make it out at all.....I am now an advocate against domestic violence through a support group at my work, its amazing how many are going through this cycle, and don't know where to go for help or where to go if they do manage to leave.
Rihanna is still trusting that this man will or has changed....for her sake I hope so...I so hope she does not become another statistic.

I'm assuming you watched the Grammys. Yeah....the song was beautiful, and I could feel her passion. but it was eerie if you take it as an abused woman begging her abuser to stay with her. I don't know. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me....I hope he changes and knows how lucky he is that she gave him another chance. However just this week he was in trouble once again saying a paparazzi made him get in a car crash, or something like that. Then he's in a fight with whoever this Frank Ocean guy is...tsk tsk.

Ps she looked absolutely drop dead GORGEOUS, beautiful, stunning, breathtakingly lovely last night.

Yes I knew that about you from your prior posts, and I look up to you bc of that. What you say is exactly how I feel. She could have been a great advocate for domestic abuse, but sadly, she isn't. Only time will tell if she was right, or we were. :(

Actually I didn't watch, and I don't have TV at home, but Yahoo makes it inevitable for me to avoid it. Same with when he got in the fight with Frank Ocean. Don't know his music but just heard on the news radio and Yahoo that he's a singer. Saw on Yahoo that he won a Grammy and Chris Brown did not give a standing O like everyone else did. He got in a fight with him over a parking spot at a recording studio. I think if FO did not come out as being gay or bi that CR would not have fought him.

Point being, if you are on FORMAL probation (meaning you have to check in with your probation officer bc of a felony, not like informal probation like having a DUI misdomeanor--looking at you LiLo :rolleyes: you had your chance), if you are an regular person and get in a fight or have an issue that is a violation, you go to jail, period! Why is CB not back in jail? Marc Garagos again? :rolleyes: Wish we were all that rich huh?

I am also a survivor of domestic violence and lived that life for 8 long, grueling years. I do believe, if I hadn't gotten out when I did, I would have ended up dead. I can't imagine anyone, after getting out of the relationship, ever going back. These creeps don't change...they promise it will never happen again, but it always does. When I went through this, there was not the public awareness that there is now. I truly thought that I had to live with it...I didn't even know I had the option to call the police. I was so ashamed and felt I had to keep it a secret, though people knew from seeing all the bruises. My heart breaks for anyone going through violence like this. There is no defending oneself against a raging, crazed man. I survived it, but have permanent aches and pains as a result of those beatings and torture.

Hugs to you. I am sure it is not easy sharing this and thank you for being such a role model and an advocate now.

From what I have learned from classes is that just about anyone can get sucked into this because it is a very slow process and an abuser can be very clever, starting with hearts and flowers, isolation, monopolization, exhaustion, and total compliance. (Something like that) I believe I read it takes at least 6 or 7 cycles of abuse for the victim to want to get out. So sad. And, others (like me before) didn't understand the dynamics of entrapment, so we think they are crazy for staying in the relationship. I really do believe that education is the key here.

The same reason why Linsay Lohan got community service for several DUI's, DWI's, possession of cocaine, violating probation, leaving the scene of an accident, stealing, and driving with a suspended license. Their rich and famous. Their laws are not the same laws WE the common people have to live by. Parents should be their kids role model. It's not the job of celebrities to be role models for kids. Especially, music industry celebrities and reality start. After all they are promoting, sex, drugs, and alcohol for the most part.

It's really an odd situation to watch. On so many levels, Rihanna comes off as so strong and powerful...but then she goes back to a man who beat the crap out of her. I can't imagine going back myself; I can only imagine that there is some kind of obsession / co-dependent thing going on btwn them.

I will say though, despite saying it being unpopular, that I do believe people *can* make extraordinary changes - so my hope is that Chris Brown has made them. Unforch, I'm not so convinced from the outside, at all, given all his publicly known rough ups w/ various people.

As for Rihanna being a role model - I don't think she's ever been interested in being one (even though she IS one, by default of being a celebrity).

On day I sat on Twitter transfixed as I saw post after post - hundreds - of Tweets with avatars besides that looked to be very young girls obsess over the glories of Rihanna and I barely knew who it was. They went on about what a wonderful, cool, hot, wonderful and a lot of other terms I didn't understand - a lot of them were several words runtogether like so - person she is and I was amazed at how many out there thought she was the end all and be all. It was after she was beaten up by her "BF". Many said they wish they were her or had her life and worshipful things like that. It was an eye-opener and I was still pretty new to Twitter so was especially shocking then.

Im not saying that he was right but I will say you cant help who you love. I do feel that it takes a real man not to hit a women but I must say we all know how to push their buttons. Do I think she was wrong for taking him back? No I dont. Also his probation was cut short because she dropped the charges like 4 or 5 months after it happened. I do hope that he changes his ways at least with her because he has no right to beat on her that way.

Would you take a guy back that beat you up or want your daughter to?

I have no respect for Rihanna, she could be a beautiful role model, but instead she likes the ganksta street type image. To many tatoos, I dislike most of her song choices and now I believe she is back or at least seeing that POS Chris Brown. For those of you that suffered abuse my heart goes out to you, I can understand when you have children and not much money how hard it must be to get away, but in Rihanna's case she has millions and no children.

No I wouldnt but thats me. I have more respect for myself but I do know people who have been beaten on and they are married and dont have any problems anymore. Some peopleit is a one time thing and you have to follow your heart.

She doesn't she wear a gun tatoo and use gun jewelry? I think I saw a recent necklace or something that was a jeweled little automatic or something like that. Could be she wasn't wearing it and it was just Tweeted about but she sure seems gansta to me. And didn't I hear that one of her songs seemed to glorify guns? She does seem to walk on the edge or over it. All I know is what I pick up on TV or the internet from pictures or links. I have never heard a single song or seen any performance of hers but I sure hear constant buzz about her.

She does have at least one gun tattoo. One was fairly recently after the "incident". She said the gun symbolized power or strength, something like that. I agree that she "seems" like a strong woman, but to me, seems like she is very co dependent and well, weak. Her "strong" persona seems to be her stage persona, much like Beyonce and her "Sasha Fierce". Anyway, I just worry for all the girls who look up to her. She may not want to be a role model, but the fact is, she IS.