Missing family at Christmas time So this is the first ChristmasI will be spending without my family, and it proably wont be the last. I moved away this year from CA to TX. Yes I love it here but Im missing my family a lot right now. Sure sometimes they are a pain and sometimes it was boring and sometimes I didnt know what to say but they were my family and it was our tradition to spend Christmas eve together. I miss the smells and the sounds, the chaos and the quiet. If you are spending Christmas with your family please dont takee it for granted, I know I did and now I'm sorry. Nothing ever stays the same and now its my urn to try and make my own christmas traditions but they will never be like the ones Ive had. I mourn their loss but try and look foward to the future with optimism. |
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I understand how you feel. Most of my family is back in Chicago and it is too hard to travel with kids or dogs. I will be having a quiet Christmas with dad and the dogs in Virginia. Set up video conference on your computer and do live chats with your family. Before I had the doggies, I made gingerbread houses and cookies. Definitely work on those new traditions. |
Although my family is here,close. We didnt have traditions. When I moved to my own place,I began my own. I hang a stocking and I put up a tree. My husband and I would invite others over for dinner. I have watched "White Christmas" for the past 35 years on Christmas Eve maybe longer and make a point of listening to Christmas music. I have continued these traditions while our family has grown and as our kids have moved away. If it is just you and your babys,shop and wrap,make traditions that you think you will keep all of your life. Even if it is making a gingerbread house or two and giving them to your neighbors. We have made anywhere from 8 (this year) to 36 ( a few years ago) and given them to friends and family. I am sorry that you miss your family and hope that you will find joy and be blessed during the holiday. |
I so understanding how you're feeling. It's a long story but I was estranged from most of my family for several years. I spend Christmas with my husband's family but it just isn't the same. My mom passed away a year and a half ago and I miss her so much. My grown children are back in my life now but they spend holidays with my ex and his family. I really miss all the things we used to do at the holidays. I've kind of forced some of them on my husband's family. Tonight my stepson gave me a big hug and told me he loves the way "we" do Christmas. I don't think he'll ever know how much that meant to me. |
We go to my parents on Christmas Eve. I do not take it for granted or lightly but I feel like I am going to throw up.The last 4 years my family has shunned my adult children because they have children out of wedlock. It is the only time of the year they are welcome at a family get together and the tension is so thick you can cut it with a knife and I walk around the week before a nervous wreck. It ruins the holidays for me. I use to love Christmas but now I am so nervous I can't hardley enjoy it. Its a shame that I let this affect me so deeply but I cannot control it. I really want everyone to be together but my family do not like my children (their grandchildren) and its no secret. |
Awww, I know how you feel:( My family is far away and we're all not rich enough to travel very often, so we see one another about once a year or less:unlove: It's really hard on the holidays, even though we're not super close, really. DH's family are all over the place, but they do visit here and there. Like you said, it's time to make your own traditions! :)Sending you hugs! |
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My heart goes out to you and I wish you peace and joy not just during the holidays but throught this coming year.Blessings!!! |
I feel your pain. This is the first Christmas I have had without my daughters. It is not good. I hope it is the last, but I am afraid they will have their own families and traditions soon. Like Maximo we have been "face to face" a lot so that makes it so much better... It does brighten our day when we get a phone call |
My mom and her husband moved to New Mexico from New Hampshire about 5 years ago. My brother followed her and lived there for 4 years. It was hard to be so far away from them for many years for Christmas. I had my grandparents and my Dad here and my fiances family is always welcoming to me, but it was not the same. My bro & his wife moved back with their 2 kids, but they are now divorcing :( Very hard! The BEST gifts I got this year, was Christmas morning with my nephews opening their gifts (well 1 of them is too young to know) and my brother finally (for the first time in 10 years) coming to my Dads house. I don't know if this will be the first step in a reconciliation for them, but it was AWESOME to be at my Dads house with my 2 brothers, my fiance and his 2 kids! Best gift I got this year... by far! :) |
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