Urn, burial or what other options???
 

Hi all,

I need some advice. As some of you know my Rhodesian Ridgeback, Kiah passed away last week. We had her created :( and she will be home probably tomorrow.

Here lies the issue. My hubby wants to spread her ashes, he says its kind of 'bothersome' to have ashes in the house. I REFUSE to spread her ashes, we will not be here for more than a few more years, and I want my baby to stay with me!!! I have looked online and found many wonderful urns. Just not sure. (The urn shopping has been rather rough for me, and always tends to bring me back to tears.) I am confused on what we should do, and am wondering what the rest of you who have lost pets have done with the 'remains'....ohhhhhhhh my that just sounds so horrible....I am just too confused on what to do???

Any thoughts to keep everyone happy??

When I had my first Maggie cremated, her ashes came back in a white, ceramic urn. I will keep her ashes and not spread them. The urn is plain, I'm not sure if I should leave it plain or not.

I'm so sorry for your loss. She was obviously one loved pooch.

We have a simple gold earn on top of a display case in the house. It's off to the side and doesn't get in the way.

Another thought is to get one of those memorial gems. Prices vary a lot and the link below is one of the high end ones. Show hubby these prices and he'll probably be cool with the urn ;)

http://www.lifegem.com/secondary/whatisLG2006.aspx

But google around if the idea interests you. I know there are more reasonable prices.

I know from our conversations how important Kiah was to you, and I think you will find some comfort in bringing her home and having her near. I think an urn or memory box with the ashes, and any other special things you want (like photos, her collar, toy, etc. will help you feel her presence in your home now.

I knew when my Sachi died that I didn't want to bury her, and I was so relieved to bring the ashes home. They are in a box that I kept on my desk at first, and it has since moved to a bookcase.

Hugs to you. I know the pain you are going thru, and hope it eases in time with only happy memories of your Kiah.

I am so sorry about the loss of your beloved Kiah. We buried our first Yorkie in our backyard. Although we planted a beautiful tree there, my husband John has always regretted it, knowing that we will move from our house someday. With our other three little girls that we raised together, we still have them in the tins they came home in on our dresser in our bedroom. We looked at urns, but John thought it would be nice to put them in one together. We lost Ashley in June, but we still haven't looked into finding an urn for them. There are many nice ones out there, but I don't think we're ready just yet. I don't think there's any need to rush, and that's what I'd advise you to do. In time, you'll find the right way to honor your beloved Kiah.The ashes can be put high on a shelf out of the way if it bothers your husband, but you'll know they are there, and it will probably comfort you. We had to open Ashley's tin when there was a question with the paperwork whether we had our little girl. They are secured properly, and there's no need to worry about them. I hope each day gets a little easier. I understand the pain you are feeling, and you have my deepest sympathy.

I'm so sorry for your loss:( I thought this was a special idea, my friend has a cross necklace made from the ashes of his Mom:love: He wears it close to his heart.

Pet Memorial Jewelry - Cross Cremation Memorial Jewelry made for Pet Ashes

I'm so sorry about your loss.....I wish I had some kind of advise for you but I've not come to any decisions as of yet of what to do.....About 2 years ago I unexpectedly lost one of my babies so he was cremated. His ashes are in a tin with doggy paws on it in my dresser drawer next to my bed...... On some days I think want them placed with me when I pass ....So far that is the only solution that brings me peace.....

My daughter, who has lost 2 dogs, a boxer and a dalmation, has had both cremated. She has them in urns and has buried them in the yard. When she buried the urns she made plaques with their names and ID tags out of a kit she found at the craft store (it looks like a garden stone). She has moved several times since they have passed. Now when she moves she just packs them up, takes them with her, selects a place and moves them to their new home.
I'm so sorry for your loss. They are such a part of the family.
ps I want to be cremated also. If Bubba and Sissy pass before I do I want them cremated and placed with me. Then I want us scattered as I love to wander. Sorry I hope this doesn't sound morbid as we are not planning on going anywhere for quite a while :)

I had my 20yr old cat, Einstein, cremated when we had to put her to sleep in 2006. I bought a very simple, non-urn, wooden box (very plain/earthy) - and I have her ashes in there (the ashes themselves are inside a little container). I love knowing her ashes are still with me.

Again I am so sorry this is happening to you, I know what it is like to lose your furbaby. This is what I bought for our last couple babies. We were renting and didn't feel comfortable leaving ashes behind. I just used my favorite photo for the tower box and they are in a special place in my house. I light a candle beside them and talk to them (sounds crazy?) especially on their birthdays. It has been a big comfort to me.

Safe Haven Tower .

Harley, DJ and Annie were all privately cremated 1/08 and 2/08. Their plain blue urns are near me in the study. DW still drops a hint now and then to spread their ashes around the yard but I am not ready yet since the Z gang all 4 of them are out there playing, pottying etc. And I still say hi and pet their urns. Call me goofy, sentimental whatever.

I like the thought that I am setting them free by spreading their ashes. Free from the confines of a house or yard, and free to roam without worry of cars or predators. I know I wouldn't want to be kept in an urn, and I don't think my pets would want that either. But, that's not to say I woudn't keep the ashes for some time while I decide on the perfect place. And I am not saying it is wrong to keep them if that's what anyone chooses. Instead of keeping the ashes, I keep something else, a favorite blanket, a tuft of hair, a favorite toy and lots of pictures. I am so sorry about your loss. What ever you decide will be the right choice for you.

I had Trixie cremated and placed in an urn that I have left instructions to be placed in my hands when I pass away. She currently sits on my mantel with her favorite toy and harness, I miss her and some days just sit and talk to her. Trixie and I were definitely connected and feel she would want to be with me forever. the kids have been fully instructed what to do.

I apologize for not saying this but, please accept our condolences it is a very difficult time and understand how very painful it is. For that I hope the memories you had for a lifetime hang with you and hold you close while you work through the grief of your loss.

Thanks guys for all the ideas. One thing I would like to do is either get keychains,necklaces or charm bracelet.. that a bit of her ashes can be placed in. For each of the family members. Meaning myself and my daughters, son and possibly my mother. I would LOVE to engrave each one with her name at the very least, and mine with her birthdate and date of her death and her name. (Hubby will not want one I know this) The remainder in an urn of some kind. I need to get a big enough urn, so that when something happens to Kahn, I can put the two back together. That has always been my plan.

Enchanted Pet said that she would be ready to come home in a week. Which is today. I have not yet heard from them, and am so anxious and nervous to get the call. I think picking her up will be almost as hard as them taking her away. I am happy, but dreading the sadness I know it will bring at the same time. Ugh....