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Divorce pending; REALLY gonna miss the Yorkies I know I shouldn't be posting personal issues here, but yesterday my wife told me that when she gets back in town she is going to retain a lawyer and suggests I do the same this week. (I've taken a couple days off from work.) I'll be very honest with you, leaving little Bella and Beau is going to be more difficult than the divorce. As flame-worthy as that statement seems, it is the truth. When I think of leaving my wife my eyes don't cloud up but when I think of leaving the Yorkies I'm on the verge of tears. Don't be too harsh with me. Please.:cry: |
0uch! fight for the dogs ..take them with you? or make the wife leave if she is the one to want to call it a day, make her leave alone without your dogs good luck with the difficult time you may go through with the divorce.. some get through it fine others melt down i was the latter :rolleyes: i won the skin children and he won the cats in court lol.. jeez did i miss those cats though and still do :( |
Actually both of them belong to her. Bella though, has taken to me big-time! Beau is just a typical little boy................. not a care in the world except for chasing the neighbor's dogs up and down the fence line and of course eating!:) I really love the little guy though. He thinks he's seven-foot-four and bulletproof! |
Get visitation trust me it's been done. I'd say take one and let her keep one but the dogs may miss eachother when you are at work. I am sorry to hear about your divorce. |
I'm sorry you're going through this. I've read of this before, and sometimes they split up the dogs, each person taking one, and to me, that's the most heartbreaking. I've even read of one couple who felt that on their own, neither could care for all four dogs, and instead of each taking two, had to rehome all four of them separately. Have you checked out our rehoming forum? Yorkie Rescues & New Homes Needed - YorkieTalk.com Forums - Yorkshire Terrier Community. One of these little guys are looking for a new home too. |
I'm so sorry to hear about your divorce. I doubt you'll get anyone trying to bash you here. We all adore our pups, and can understand the feeling. Pups just love you unconditionally and always help take you away from the human adult problems. I hope something works out so you can still take care of your pups. Our thoughts are with you! |
Oh my goodness I'm sorry, I know how hard it is to loose your beloved pet. Maybe your wife will let you babysit sometimes.. Or have them over on the weekends.. |
So sorry to hear about this, but, if you paid for the dogs, then YOU Should be able to keep them. I would fight for them in court! |
sorry Just a thought......what about "joint" custody? They could stay together, and have a home at both of your houses? |
My prayers are with you. Divorce hurts everyone. God bless and keep you. |
I know of a couple who split up but the man gets the dog every other weekend - for real! It works out. |
Thanks for your warm words everyone. It means a lot to me.:aimeeyork I didn't realize it 'till just now, but I'll bet nearly every one of you thought this thread was started by a female.:D:D |
I thought your op said your wife told you to get a lawyer or something to that order so I knew you were a male from the start. I still think you should get shared custody. |
I am so sorry this is happening to you. You seem like such a sincere person. Bless you, and I just know something good will head your way....Everything will work out... |
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Figured you were a male once you stated your wife wanted it but yeah, when I first saw the subject title, I did immediately think it was a female being as though most members are female..but we do have male members too..and they have the same problems..it works both ways.. It is amazing how these little guys really become one of the family. It's a sad situation for all. :( I really hope it willl work out, especially since you said one of them has a special bond with you. How do you think your wife would feel about joint custody and/or visitation? If not, maybe you can look into a rescue or something like Nancy stated. It may help you through this ordeal & one things' for sure...you'll always get unconditional love from these babies as long as they live! :) Best of luck to you! |
HI :) Just wanted to wish you well. Divorce can be so hard. My only advise is, if she is going to take them, which I'm sure she will if they were hers, then why not get a little one of your own? :) I know when I'm feeling down..all it takes is a hug and kiss from one of my furbabies and dam, it sure makes things better for a few :) Just a thought. Again I wish you the best. Take care. |
No one cares if you are a guy or not. When you have to leave your babies it hurts. I would see if you can see them on weekends. Good luck:) |
I'm so sorry you will soon be going through a divorce. It's never an easy situation to go through. Some divorces can get nastier than others but none of them are easy. I hope that yours will not be one of the "nastier" ones as that just makes it all the more difficult. Don't assume that the furbutts have to stay with your wife because you have just as much right to them as she does. Hopefully you guys can work something out since it sounds like you and Bella have really bonded. (Not to offend any lawyers but sometimes the lawyers and the process can create more issues than were there to begin with.) See if you can both come to an agreement that's in the best interests of the furbutts when making arrangements for them. This divorce will not only effect you guys but them as well, just like it would skin kids. I wish you the best of luck and again, I'm so sorry your going through this rough patch in life. |
Divorce can be difficult and painful. I hope your divorce ends peacefully. Your wife taking the Yorkies away is heartbreaking, because you love them too. If I were you, I would get my own Yorkie to love. Then you do not have to worry about somebody taking your Yorkie away from you. :hug: |
I'm so sorry for your divorce. It doesn't sound like it's what you really want. There are a lot of babies as well as older yorkies on here that need a home. Maybe you can help one of them out. Depending on how long you were married you might have a chance of getting one of them, but I think they would be best left together. If you ever need someone to take to; just pm me. |
So sorry to hear of your pending divorce. I did the big "D" myself nearly 19 years ago. (Geez, that makes me sound old!). It's never an easy time, but you will survive. As for the Yorkie's. Do you even know at this point that she wants them? Perhaps suggest leaving them with you? And if she won't, then I'd go for visitation. 1 week with her, 1 week with you. And keep rotating it. Or whatever time period you both can agree on. Just a thought.... Good Luck to you! |
I would absolutely try for joint custody. No matter who paid for them, you both should get to still see them. It had been done, me and my ex did it. He kept our Great Pyrenees and she came over to my house when she started getting arthitic in her hips. She stayed with me for @ 5 months with him visting her all the time, before we had to move out of state and he just recently called me to dicuss her health, as she was getting really bad and it was time for us to let her pass. Even though he was the one with my son there physically with her, he held the phone to her ear while I could tell her goodbye. I guess that was really off subject, sorry. Try to make a good arrangement for your furbabies and if it can't be done, I seriously recommend finding a baby for yourself. Best of luck and we are here for you. :) |
We too wanted to voice our sincerest apologies that you are going through this now! Divorce is never easy, and leaving a loved one (furry or not) is hard too! Like everyone else said, forget about who's they are, fight for them if you can! She must know how much you care for them and how much they care for you! Keep your spirits up and know we're thinking of you and sending good thoughts your way! :hug: |
I agree with others. You should get visitation or like people do with children..shared custody! It's very normal these days. |
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