Am I over reacting.........
 

BECAUSE I am pissed!!!..Last night after work my bf's mother came home from her job and asked if she could babysit Maximus...so I wonder why would she ask that....well my bf wanted to go drive to a/c so he had asked her if she could watch Maximus and we would pick him up in the morning....she called to ask me if it was okay. SO fine I say okay...it is about 7:00 when we get there and we start playing...mind you I have work the next day (today) and we are driving back...my contacts start irritating my eyes..I am LOSING...and I am TIRED..at 11:30..I ask if we can go...no still playing..at 12:00 I ask if we can go..in a few minutes...well at 12:30..I tell him give me the keys and I will go to the car and close my eyes for a few minutes...just meet me there..well I go to the car and close my eyes and wake up at 1:30..still no sign of my bf....cell phones don't work in there and his is in the car anyways..so I close my eyes again and this time wake up it is 2:45....he left me in the friggin car for over 2 hours...so I stomped in there and was like "are you ******* joking me"..he was like I thought you were sleeping....would you just leave your girlfriend sleeping in the car for 2 hours and not even think anything is wrong..I FLIPPED out last night in front of everyone at the table I went back to the car...and didn't speak to him for the rest of the night..as soon as we got hom he was trying to hug me and whatever...no apology so I told him to kiss my a**...and I am about 90% less pissed thenm I was last night...but I am still livid...I am a taurus..it takes alot to get me mad but once I am look for cover...do you think I am over reacting???....did I mention I woke up to a strange guy peeing by the car the second time (grrrr!!!!!!!!!!1)

I can only say I hope your car was LOCKED while you were sleeping and no - If I ever fell asleep in the car waiting on someone - I would expect them to come get me.

He may have really thought you were tired and needed to sleep & was trying to be thoughtful - but that's DANGEROUS. Especially if there was a lowlife peeing in the streets - you could have been in serious trouble if he was a psychopath, saw a sleeping woman and decided to act on something. Cars are one of the places women are attacked.

How long have you been going with this boyfriend? He knew you had to work the next day? He thought you were sleeping in the car? Was this in Atlantic City? (a/c?)
You can do better. Find someone that actually CARES about you. JMHO! ;)

That was I was saying this in the middle of the morning..2 am...and you would just leave your gf in the car...why wouldn't yuo get up and say she's in the car waiting for me..so I could go home to my bed and go to sleep??? I just don't understand!!!

5 years....yeah that is the way I am feeling today...and he knows it..I am about to leave him because this was like the last inconsiderate final straw...YES a/c

I dont think that you are over-reacting at all....dont get mad , just get even lol

first off..is your name Samantha too? Because mine is and this sounds a little like my life. Sometimes guys just don't realize how selfish they're being. They wonder why we throw fits and tell them to kiss our a** sometimes lol. I definitely feel ya here... tell him what's up...and hold out on him for awhile ;) lol

I'm sorry, it can be heart breaking. But, do you want this to continue? He will always be inconsiderate. No, you can not change a mans behavior. It will always keep surfacing. Like I said, you can do better and you deserve better. Find a man that appreciates you. ;)

It is a long time...but that is what's making me wonder if after all this time....he's still such an a**hole...is this something I want to live with my entire life...I know everyone doesn't get their "fairytale"...but I just see certain things never changing... :sigh: .... I left him a note this morning telling him I need space...just to think so we'll see...but I am still LIVID!!!!.....and I definitely won't be going to a/c anymore just on a whim...yes I am Samantha

I agree with what you said - Sam, you can't change him. If this is how he has been treating you for 5 years, he will never change. It's his personality and he doesn't see anything wrong with his behavior. If it really bothers you, you may want to consider other options to figure out where your relationship is going long term. I know you love him but do you love the way he treats you? Can you overlook the way he treated you last night, even if he does it again and again (which he probably will)? If not, then it may be time to end things. I'm sorry this happened to you. You're a sweet and beautiful girl and you don't deserve to be treated this way. Have Maximus give you lots of kisses tonight. Codie and Katie send kisses and hope you feel happier soon.

You are NOT over reacting! That sounds too familiar and you have every right to be pissed! Hopefully the note you left him will give him a scare! I don't know what to say except to hold your ground on this one, and make sure he rally knows how mad he made you (but it sounds like you are doing a fine job of this!)

O wow Samantha, I think you have a lot of restraint and no, you did not over react. Long about 11:00, I would have lost it. Thank goodness nothing happened to you while you were asleep. That is just scary. Does he typically treat you like this or is this unusual? If it is typical, don't stand for that!

He is not a bad guy...he loves Maximus and he loves me too...I don't want to make him sound like that...but he is a) selfish -- only child....I accepted that..but when he gambles he just doesn't give a cr**...and that is what pissed me off....he doesn't care...I don't know there are just a ton of little things that have been grating my nerves...we shall see..I think Maximus and I need to get away for a weekend...Dawn we may end up on your doorstep..lol..j/k

Oh, my! If you're not even married yet, I can only say, my dear, that I would not want to see how he would treat you as his wife! :cool:

oh my... what im stuck on is y would he want to go to AC during a weekday?
did his buddies go too? Men would think you were over reacting b/c he dont sweat things like we do .. but i dont think you are.. that was very inconsiderate of him for doing that to you CONSIDERING the fact that you actually said yes lets go...
so sorry hun.. has he called you this morn?

oh p.s. the ecollar the vet charged me 10 friggin bucks for that piece of chit.. can u believe that!!!!!!

No just us...but this is his "weekend"..and his stingy a** doesn't like ot go on the REAL weekend because he says the bets are too high...no he hasn't called me..but I made sure to bang every door, cabinet, dish and everything else this morning...that way he could wake up at 6:30 too...I then wrote him a nasty note..and told him he should stay by his mother's....

I feel you are not over reacting...You are worthy of being treated with respect and care. Being left alone is not only dangerous but shows lack of care and concern for you.

You can decide how YOU want to be treated and expect nothing less.

Good luck and please don't stay in a car by yourself late at night alone again.

I know you were joking, but you are more than welcome here!!!!!!!!! That would be just awesome to have you and Mr. Maximus.

You were a lot nicer than I would have been. I would have probably packed my bags got my dog & left.

You have every right to be as pissed as you are.

I think you should end it.

This may ruffle a few feathers but...
people get hooked on gambling and become
so focused on it that they forget everything and everyone else.
He probably completely lost track of time and really forgot about you.
He was focused on betting.

I've seen it happen.
My father-in-law and my cousin's husband.
It doesn't happen to everyone but when it does,
it devastates their lives forever.
They live to gamble and are like street bums.

Just something to think about.

ohhhh i would've been pissed!

i know what your going through and i feel bad for you. iv been there, done
that. i know your stomach is doing flips... i dont get why men do things like
that to us.... cause we are too good... you should be mad. i would be so upset..he should of never left his woman by herself (anywhere) alone, at
night especially 2hrs or so away from home. its just not right..

Sam you know how I feel about it, after talking to you. This is the type of crap that made me breakup with my ex. He was a nice guy but was a bit too selfish. That's just how he's been raised sam and nothing you or anyone else can do to change that. It might provide a temporary change but nothing permanent. He will have to find someone that will put up with that bull****. I really believe what Dermot said (dang he's hot) in Wedding Date, "EVERY WOMAN HAS THE EXACT LOVE LIFE SHE WANTS.." OR at least thinks she wants. Don't let THIS kind of behavior be what you want in a relationship. There is no reason you should HAVE to adapt to his selfishness because he's an only child. That is not an excuse, it may have been when he was 12 but hopefully he's not that young anymore. DUMP HIM and move here so we can go accept new man applications together.

hey count me in on that application, i think you should come to
ny to fill it out with us.

Haha...honey I CREATED the application and it applies to CALI boyz...I don't know NY boys..you both gotta come here..hehe (im a tricky gal) :D

That was totally inconsiderate, and I'd seriously think about giving him his walking papers.