Is Amelia Just A Brat Or Can Terrible Two's Come Early? Mum's Advise PLEASE!
 

O. M. G.

Brat is an understatement. :rolleyes: She's so naughty lately. If I tell her No she either laughs at me or shakes her head to tell me no... if I really tell her off she will cry uncontrollably for anything from a couple of minutes to 30minutes. Sometimes she will throw herself on the floor and other times she will just stand and scream and scream and scream! :rolleyes:

I'm literally at my wits end with her now... she climbs things she shouldn't, bangs stuff on the tv, bites, pinches and no matter how I try to tell her not to I get the same screaming, crying response. She's up till 4-5am every single night because her back teeth coming in threw her soooo far off her routine. :( She's not overtired because she is sleeping most of the morning, as am I because I physically can not get up in the morning after so little sleep for the past few months.

So now I don't know the best method to approach this with. I don't want her to be one of those kids that cries to get their own way so I don't want to be trying to comfort her when she's crying... after she was told off so I would be going back on it if I then hugged her.

What's the best method for dealing with this behaviour? I know there are plenty of mum's on here and I would appreciate hearing different methods etc.

I don't remember how old Amelia is, but it has been my experience that the terrible twos start at about 18 months old. Hang in there, Mom. She is precious and this too will pass.

Vicky,
Amelia sounds like my granddaughter Isabella to a T.
My daughter calls them Melt Downs! Isabella is 2 1/2
and is going threw the same thing. She's so very sweet
but when she get's her feather's up there's no talking to her.
Her newest thing is running away from her mother in stores and
hiding. She was missing in Lord N Taylor's last week for 10 mins
my daughter said. Four people and a security guard were looking
for her! One second she was there and the next gone!
My daughter found her in a dressing room hiding behind a door
and then went into a melt down when she was found.
I don't know what to tell you because I don't know what to tell
my daughter. Hopefully they will get out of this time as fast
as they got into it. Finger's crossed for you.

Amelia is coming into her independence. She's learning...she does not have to do as she is told. I don't mean you aren't teaching her what you expect...I mean she's just testing to see if she can have things her way.

Be firm and consistent. Not doing so is what teaches them ....throw a big enough fit...she'll win.

I'll tell you what worked very well when mine threw tantrums. I walked out of the room. There were times...I'd leave the room with the screaming kid....suddenly there would be dead silence...until she'd follow me to the next room and "perform" again. Complete with throwing herself back down on the floor. It was almost comical. She quit throwing fits though...fits are not very effective if there isn't an audience.

She's 15.5 months. Maybe she's just hit it a little earlier. :rolleyes:

Oh good grief! :( I guess my worse fears might of been confirmed then that has hit the TTs! :rolleyes: Amelia isn't allowed to walk round stores because I don't trust her, she can't listen at home nevermind when we're out. So she stays safely strapped into her stroller. ;)

Mine never knew walking in any store was an option.

Ohh, now that's a tactic I've not tried. Amelia thrives on attention so I think I'll try the walking out the room. I feel so bad leaving her to cry but I can't just give in to her all the time because she's such a little madam! I don't want one of those kids you see frailing on the floor, shouting and screaming because they know that it will get them sweets or toys. :(

I think it's safer for sooo many reasons. When she's older she can walk but not till I know she can be completely trusted.

I think mine might've thought...WTH???? the first time I did it. LOL.

I bribed mine in stores to avoid that scene you mention above. At the time there were the rides located outside of stores...IF she was good...she got to ride one when we left. Of course...she was a bit older than Amelia's age at the time.

Oh dear, our sweet Amelia Grace has started with the TT a bit early and is searching for her level of independence and buttons on her mummy!!! I feel for you as it is a tuff time to go through for both YOU and HER.

Suggestions is to be patient, consistant, calm and patient, consistant and calm. This too shall pass!

(((((((HUGS TO VICKY/MUM))))))))))

I totally agree with you on that! I have seen her in action and she
WILL NOT sit in the stroller if she dosen't want too. My poor daughter
has to get things done so she allows her out to help mommy find
this or that to keep her from going into a meltdown. Her sister
never got out of the stroller, ever and this one won't stay in!
I know what I would do but that's another story.

Haha, I'm not against blackmailing children... ;)

She sounds precocious! Maybe she's on her way to becoming a genius. :)

I don't have kids, but I have read that the TTs come partly because this is the first time they have wants that their parents cannot completely fulfill. You can't let her jump off a balcony, for instance. At this point, they lack the language and emotional skills to deal with frustration.

I think leaving her to her tantrum is a good idea. I actually remember having tantrums when I was a baby, rolling on the floor, hitting the ground with my feet and fists, the whole nine yards. And I would be FURIOUS when my mom left me in my room. But eventually, I did get tired. :)
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ETA: Saying "no" is also an important stage of development, where the child starts to understand that she is a separate person, who doesn't necessarily want what her parents what. So as maddening as it is, it is helping her grow.

Thanks Carol. I know it's going to pass it's just soooo trying right now with her not sleeping and stuff on top of it. I literally spend all day long with her... with maybe an hour break if I'm lucky enough for her to take a nap. She gets up, I get up, she's awake till 4am and then I go to bed when she does. :rolleyes: She just suddenly turned into this tantrum throwing brat overnight! :eek: Good thing she's cute! :D

Amelia has days when she doesn't want to get in her stroller and aches her back so I can't get her in. I learnt a trick to get her in though.... I'm just waiting on the day she works out how to undo the stroller straps! :(

This is exactly why she goes off like she does. Because I'm mean and won't allow her to do things that result in either her breaking something or hurting herself. Bad Mummy! :rolleyes: She gets SO mad at me for spoiling her fun.

I always tell her "no" it's the response that comes afterwards that is the hard part because I couldn't find the best tactic in dealing with it, (hence looking towards YT advice, which has been GREAT with any issues I've had in the past). I'm going to go with Deb's advice though and just walk out the room next time and see how that goes down with her.

I feel bad hoping she throws a fit...I would love to be a fly on the wall when you do that.

I know how hard it is on you Mom's. I don't remember my kids being
so thick headed. LOL. We are teaching Isabella pinky-promise. Once
she pinky-promises she has to stick by that. She seems to be taking
it serious at this point so I hope this sticks with her. She has been
bribed and on rides at the mall more times than I can count.
Some kids are a breeze other's give you a run for your money.
You seem to be living my daughter's life and via-versa.
I feel for both of you.

Oh gosh! Thanks sooooooooooooooooooo much! :p

I know, she thinks she's the boss and right now she's taking the role VERY seriously. It doesn't help that members of her family insist on giving her cuddles when I tell her off and she crys... purely because they don't want to listen to her crying. :rolleyes:

I can't do that with Amelia, her routine is messed up. She goes to bed around the same time each night but it's just the wrong time. It's like we're on another timezone. Once she's tired she goes to bed and sleeps 9hrs straight and is ready to take on the world again. :rolleyes: I just need to force myself up in the morning and try to power through the day but I know it's going to take a few days for her to adjust which will leave me physically and mentally drained. :(

:rolleyes:Is she listening.....OK mom's when do we tell Vicky that TT's are nothing compared to what they turn into when they're 3? It'll be our secret....she really does not need to know for another year or so.;)

:eek::eek::eek: Thanks Jeanie! :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

Actually I'll take the terrible twos and threes....to the sixteens I have now.

*Googles adoption agencies* :rolleyes:

Tell me about it!!!!!! My now 16 yo dd was an angel until the day she turned 3. She was like a totally different kid. Ugh! The attitiude switch got turned on and I haven't been able to figure out how to turn it off yet! :rolleyes: