need to vent..... ok im really not the jealous type at all but my bf has met this girl in his chem class that his is seeing alot of...study sessions, driving her with him to the library lil favors like she needs to borrow something ever day or needs a favor. In fact,she just texted him at midnite asking him for a favor. She needed him to take roll for her in chem tommorow becuz she had a fam emergency so she needed to give him her clicker( a clicker is like u see the audience have in game shows but they take roll with it)anyway she asked if he was home then!!! At midnite!!!! well he is with me,not at his apt...I just dont think it is appropriate. Hed flip if I spent so much time wit a guy like that...I dont think hes cheating but he doesnt understand why it bothers me. Ive never met the girl or I mite be ok with it. It just doesnt seem appropriate to me...needed to vent or i may get back in bed and let him have it |
Well.. . . I say if you are upset that is reason enough for him to lighten up. Sometimes girls now of days are relentless when they see something they want. Or your guy is just a nice guy that does not see where there may be a problem. (My hubbies one of those nice guys) Try explaining how it makes you feel. Not the jealous type, but the type that is aware of how other women behave. Boundaries are always good when you are in a relationship. They help shore up the home front! There was some party girl that wanted to car pool with my husband to work back in the day. I wasn't for it. He understood. Now today she is in Washington with the DOT and my husbands bosses boss. When he saw her 15 years later, she kept saying how much she settled down and how much she changed. I tell you she was a wild party girl!! Stick to your guns. Be calm. Be fair. It will work out. (Trust your instincts.) If you doubt he is doing anything, you are probably right. Just use your head and follow your gut!:thumbup: Keep us posted! |
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I have seen women try to pick my husband up right in front of me:eek::lol tears:lol tears Some are just relentless! I think if you trust your guy then just keep an eye on it and make sure it doesn't go further than it has. It's hard because a woman knows when another woman is planning to do something or has her eyes on a man, while a man just has no clue at all and perceives it as small talk and the woman just being nice or needing help:p We have the gift of intuition and we have it for a reason. I trust my husband with my heart and usually I laugh it off but if it got to a certain point then I would step in. Just watch, be aware and let her know your watching. Good Luck |
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yea i agree with you all, her msg said she had to take care of somethings at home...her "boyfriend" is back home...i have a feeling they are gone break up. Just from thingd said...and sandyapk yes,me being upset is reason enough to cool it...that has been my main point in all of this. Now, i was very calm at first as I thought he needed her help in chemistry. I cant discourage something if it wll help him do good in school.but then one day he said "yea lauryn doesn kno the answers any more than I do"red flag...he left this morning and I pretended to be asleep. yes my bf is a very nice guy,he offered a ride and occasionally offers hw help...i think she pursues it more than him,but still the fact that he does at all bothers me |
Ya sometimes life is just plain hard. I think we all need to be super honest with what we want. And after that be honest and communicate that with your bf. I am going on 29 years of marriage, honestly it is just work. Tell him how you feel and lay out what you want. Don't take the easy way out. Have no regrets, live life full every day! Enjoy life and take on its challenges head on!! Wishing you well. You can do it!! |
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