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My son's friend died My son's friend April died in a car accident on Sunday night. She was 10. She had just been picked up by her dad for his last weekend with her before school starts. There was a drunk driver that crossed over and hit them head on. Her dad is seriously injured and she died on impact. This has affected all of us. She was in Gavin's (my son) class, but its a small school, so all of my kids knew her. I am taking Gavin to the visitation tomorrow. I don't know how I will hold up around her family. I tear up just thinking about it. I am really struggling with not having a lot of rage right now. I come from a lot of alcoholics, and Jason's (dh) mother is drinking again (supposedly quit for a couple of years after a bad drunk driving accident) now his sister is an alcoholic, well both of them I think now, and his brother in law. They all drive drunk daily. I think that anyone who drives drunk (or "buzzed") needs to be locked up for a long time, I dont care if its their first time or not. Or perhaps we need to bring caning to this country. I am soooo sick of selfish people right now. My stomach is just so sick over this. |
So sorry to heard that:( prayers of comfort for them:hands::hands::hands: |
So sorry to hear about the loss of your son's friend.... my thoughts are with you and your son.... |
That is so....sad. :( There are highway signs here in PA that say: DUI, you can't afford it. That is so....true in so many ways. :( Take Care...... |
I am so sorry. How is your son taking it? That has to be a horrible thing to go through at such a young age, and for you as a parent. The local horse community here just suffered the huge loss of a local horseman- he was heading in to work at the saddle shop on his motorcycle when a man swerved over four lanes of traffic and hit him head on. Enough said. It is the hardest thing to understand- how these innocent people can loose their lives because someone else was so careless. So sad. |
How absolutely heartbreaking.:( I don't even know what to say- I really feel for your children, it is such a shame that they have to deal with something so hard and what that child's mother is going through... well no parent wants to even think about it. My thoughts are with y'all. |
How tragic can this be... omg.. my heart goes out to you and your family.. and also for this child's father and mother.. I will keep you all in my prayers.. I lost a 5 year old nephew when I was 14 years old.. I know how devastating this is.. anne |
So Sorry to hear about your son's friend that is so awful :cry: I just went through a death with my bf his father was killed in a car accident 2 months ago because another driver was in a hurry and not being cautious about other drivers...sending prayers to you your son and the family that this happend to...also if you need anyone to talk to.. please feel free to send me a message. |
How sad for all involved...My prayers are being said for all ... So many people are affected by such a tragedy, even the person's family who caused the accident...Prayers are for them also....Everyone will carry this event with them for the rest of their lives....How tragic ! Hug your little guy extra long ! |
Thank you all for your kindness. Gavin is rather numb right now. We read the news article yesterday morning, but didn't know it was her until this evening. I think he is in shock. He watched the video clip on the news a few times, and says he is "just trying to act normal" right now. He is like me and hates to show sadness for some reason. I don't deal very well with death, not that anyone does, but I have a very hard time grieving, and unfortunately he is like me that way. I keep encouraging him to talk about it,but I dont want to hound him either. I just don't want it to eat at him like it has me when I have lost people close to me. |
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Oh how horrifying. I am sooo sorry. Your son is in my thoughts. |
My daughter was killed by a drunk driver..it will be 10 years in Sept...and still feels like it was yesterday....You are all in my prayers, everyone involved will have a hard time dealing with this, trying to understand. Just know that it will easier for your son than it is for you even. Kids have a way of dealing much better than us adults. Hugs to all of you. |
I'm so sorry, that is really sad:( And she was soo so young |
I am so sorry that he has to come to terms with such tragedy and loss at such a young age. God bless you all. |
I am so sorry for all of you. There is just nothing that can be said to make it any better or less painful. Your son is so lucky to have a mom who cares so much. Another reminder to hug those you love, live each day to the fullest, and don't get caught up in the "stuff" that just isn't important in the big picture. You and your family are in my prayers. |
I am so so sorry!! what a horrible tragedy you & your son are going through! :( i too have had a couple friends die from drunk drivers(1 last year)!! :mad: your son will benefit from having you help him through this.. thank goodness! i will keep you guys and her loved ones in my thoughts and prayers.. and will pray for her father!! :hands: my deepest sympathy.. RIP sweet baby girl!! :( :heart to |
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this tragedy. Poor Gavin! I know he's old enough to understand what happened - but knowing that it could've been prevented.............. I'll be praying for all involved. |
oh that makes my heart hurt :( Im so sorry to hear this. Last week my friend's 23 year old cousin died in a car accident. No alcohol involved in this one but still way too young a life lost :( My prayers go out to you, your son and that girls family. |
Please, please come to terms with your anger. I too lost one of my two sons at age 16, not to a drunk driver but suddenly without warning. Anger will only prolong the hurt you feel. Try to turn things into positive, work at a MADD group (mothers against drunk drivers), or something to that effect. And just a suggestion for your son. Kids, boys inparticular have a difficult time saying how they feel, you know that male macho thing. Encourage him to write his feelings on paper, tell him he can throw away the paper, so no one sees, or he can put it on the grave of his friend. For me I think what saved me the most from just doing myself in was the kids, I tried so hard to help them, and they helped me without me even knowing it. My heart bleeds for you, your son and your friend. L. |
OMG..how horrible...I hope the drunk driver will be charged with vehicular homocide and gets the MAX time for this!!! |
I am so sorry. The family of that little girl must be so devastated - and to think that she died because of a drunk driver. It just breaks my heart. My daughter dated a guy in high school, they were both 15, and he was just the nicest guy. They stopped dating their senior year, but they always remainded friends and both went on to marry other people. Last year he was driving (drunk) and hit and killed a woman, a mother of five daughters. He was sentenced to 9 years without parole. It is heartbreaking to think of the life he took and to know that he has ruined 9 years of his own life for that one moment of selfishness. :( I hope you and your son get through this ok. |
That is so horrible and I am so sorry. It makes me sick and to hear a poor innocent family affected like this becasue of someone else's stupidity :mad: I will pray for the family |
So sad. Sending prayer's for the two of you to help you get threw this horrible day. So young to lose her life. I lost a friend at 12 and went to the viewing, my first one ever. No one prepared me for it and it haunted me for 55 years. I could never go and view again. I just stay in the back to pay my respects. Please prepare him for what lies ahead. It may be too much for him to handle. What a tragic story, one that did not have to end this way. How do we stop these people from driving while intoxicated? |
How terrible. Accidental deaths are difficult enough, but to know this death was at the hands of a drunk driver is just too much. Prayers to you and your family and to her family as well. |
My heart breaks for you and your son and the family of the little girl. My prayers are with all of you. Your son is very lucky to have a mom who loves as strongly as you. My thoughts, prayers and wishes are echoed in what has already been posted. I, too, have lost to drunk drivers, twice. My parents and baby sister suffered a head on w/a drunk who crossed the center line doing over 100 mph, they were never the same. Then, my Dad (who was never right after the first accident, heavy brain damage, but still NO excuse) was killed when he was driving drunk and almost took the lives of two innocents as well. The pain these people cause is so horrific! We need to force the lawmakers into being tougher about this!! Don't let go of your anger, just channel it into positive work against these atrocities!! God bless you and your little boy and the parents of this precious baby girl. |
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