Down & Bored... :cry2: I am so bored and lonely all I want to do is cry!! We recently moved to a new area and I don't know anyone. Of course I have my kids (3 grown and 1 in 4th grade). Hubby works, daughters work/go to school. I am now home alone all day. Can't find a job anywhere down here!! We adopted a beautiful Yorkie baby back in June but she passed away from serious medical issues just 3 weeks later (July 3rd). I am so down I'm afraid I might be battling depression. We live in a pretty rural area and I'm afraid to drive very much due to a horrific car accident last summer so I feel like I'm stuck!! Not to mention I feel like I'm losing serious IQ points just being down here! Help!! any suggestions?! |
I'm sorry that you'r going through this. Have you gotten another yorkie? Maybe that would help you. I went throguh the same thing about 30 years ago, moving away from my family and friends, and i also was very depressed for a while. I know that you said you don't drive much, but it's really important that you get over that fear or you might lose your mind. Then i would suggest doing some volunteer work to keep you occupied. Do you have a Sr Center. I'm guessing that you are close to or over 50 since you have grown children. Our Sr center is wonderful. We have all kinds of dance classes and other activities and people are so nice. I joined our center about 18 months ago and have made so many new friends. I never had real girlfriends before because I worked and took care of my family and did not have time to have girlfriends. Now i don't know what i would do without them. Please try to get out and do things. Your family counts on you. |
That was really good advice, also I live in a very rural area too= not even one redlight mind you ;) but there is a college about 30 minutes away and they offer potporrie classes like flower making & cake decorating & lots of things like that & it's not expensive like fifty dollars to take the class maybe you have something in your area like that? or get involved in your daughter's pta at school & meet some of the moms?? |
join some clubs or take a class |
thank you for the suggestions Thank you both. I'm not quite old enough to be invited to the Senior Center, unless they need a volunteer, I'm still a bit under 50:). I have tried to find a new Yorkie baby to love & spoil but I just don't have the funds right now. My hubby was out of work for almost a year and he has recently started back to work...Thank you God:)! After paying for the vet bills for Lilly, I'm pretty strapped. I have actually found a couple of little ones available for 250 but we're still catching up on our finances:( I did sign up to help with a rescue. They called and did a phone interview but I am still waiting on a home visit. You're both right of course. I would like to take a class or something but there again ...the $$ issue. I'm so scared about all of that right now. We used to be in the "upper middle class" but I think that may be becoming an extinct entity now:) It's really hard to adjust from going shopping or whatever, whenever I wanted to counting every penny and only spending on necessities now. But I just keep trying to "think positive and smile" and remember what Mom always says..."this too shall pass"...but When?! |
I have had times when we have had little money also. I would have garage sales or sell stuff on ebay for extra money the best thing you can do is get your self busy. Good luck |
I know this is MUCH easier said than done, but you gotta get back on the horse. Time to get out and take some rides. Wear your seatbelt, maybe travel/drive early in the morning when there are less people on the road, go get coffee in the morning early. Or take some rides later at night when the kids are at home in bed, that way its only YOU in the car that you need to worry about. Get used to being behind the wheel again. You can do this!! :) You will lose your mind if you dont get some stimulation. Start small, go to the library to get some good books to read, get a coffee and find a river/park etc... find some hiking trails and get some exercise, you'll get to know your new area better and you'll feel better getting some physical activity, it really helps to fight depression. Here is a great quote! "Fear is the main source of superstition, and one of the many sources of cruelty. To conquer fear is the begining of wisdom." ~ bertrand russell |
You should find a creative hobby. Even gardening is wonderful stress relief and something you can put your heart into and be proud of and it's cheap. |
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