Originally Posted by erickajm (Post 2109367)

Amen! Sounds like your depressed. I had such a hard time adjusting when I moved from Oklahoma to Pennsylvania. Giving up everything I ever knew was tough! 10 months after the move, I was on anti-depressants!

Its tough but you are so young that I would have gone stir crazy at your age if I didn't work! The one thing that you wrote that kind of made me go ugh...was the fact that it is your boyfriend.....not husband. Not that divorce isn't a reality..but when its a boyfriend/girlfriend kind of thing....I don't know...you need to get out there and see what floats your boat!

The only piece of advice I give to young people like yourself..is GO SEE THE WORLD!!! Had I known what I know now! Traveling isn't...or at least wasn't as expensive as what I had thought...go get a job...who cares where...save up for a few months then go somewhere you have always wanted to go...do this kind of stuff now while your young because one the marriage and kids enter the picture...it just slowly starts becoming harder and harder to do the little things in life.

I agree with volunteering! I did two years with AmeriCorps...you get a living allowance but at the end of your year you get an Educational Award....money towards school....or to pay back school loans! I did my first year at an Area Prevention Resource Center (drug, alcohol, depression, suicide......tons of training that you will never receive in college) and the second year I was with the American Red Cross teaching various classes...not only was this awesome training but looked excellent on the resume!

The possibilities of life enjoyment are limitless...you may very well be the one person stopping you from totally enjoying it! Good luck!

Originally Posted by emilyann (Post 2109383)

I appreciate your opinion on my post and I don't want to come off as being rude or anything under that category I'm just wondering what him being my boyfriend has to do with anything?

Originally Posted by celstu1 (Post 2114308)

Boyfriends can be 'easy come easy go'. Sadly :( I had a boyfriend for 10 years, then he was a fiance, then he was gone. :( No strings, no alimony, no money, no nothing.... just gone. Like that! Luckily I have a nice career myself and can support myself so i didnt have to move back home or anything, I actually bought my own townhouse and went back to college pt nights so I can get my degree finally.

You seem like maybe you MIGHT be interested in doing the doggy clothing and accessories, why not try to work through the initial 'no interest' and see if you gain interest as your creations take form? :) Sometimes we don't realize how much we really do like something until we see the finished product!

In this day & age, I cannot advocate enough to young woman to take control and responsibility of your own life. You have no idea how woman had to struggle in the past to earn the rights to get the life we can have now. I know this was not the direction you intended your post to go but you cannot seriously jump on and say "im 20, don't like to work, can't finish a project and Im bored, what can I do with my days?" when MOST of the women on here are hardworking or have families and plenty to fill their days with household chores and raising kids. You are going to get the advice to get your life in order. Find what makes you happy and persue it. You also need to work on your self-esteem, try getting some good self-help books or maybe seeing a therapist. You ARE a smart, wonderful, young girl FULL of potential and who can do anything she wants! You just need to see that for yourself! :) :)

Originally Posted by emilyann (Post 2114399)

Thanks for this, this is actually encouraging and didn't make me feel like crap! I'm sure everyone was just trying to give their opinion and I respect that but for some odd reason it made me feel like I was stupid for doing what I'm doing. I admit I have really low self esteem and I always have and I really need to work on that. It's not the low self esteem in the aspect of looks but in the aspect of doing anything in my life or with my life.

You're so sweet though and thanks so much for your reply is all I'm trying to say.

Originally Posted by zoeybear (Post 2114438)

If you like school, but aren't ready to go back, check on some online courses at the college. I have taken 2.