OT: I More Then Like You. Alright, so I'm a little out of the loop when it comes to meanings etc. A little help please. A friend of mine had a very involved affair that last years. They became very involved and she really fell head over for him and although he never said he loved her she was pretty certain he did. Last year he ended it telling her it was too painful etc. Anyway, they still remained close but not intimate. This was beyond a sexual relationship. It was very emotional relationship for both of them and because of that it was hard for either of them to fully break ties. Although they should have, neither were able to and so they kept in touch but have not been "sexually" involved now for a good year. Yesterday, in conversation they spoke about seeing each other for a drink. maybe, getting back together etc. And she felt he was trying to tell her something but didn't know how to. He has a very hard time letting his feelings show or telling someone how he feels. And, so he finally said to her awkwardly "I like you. No I more then like you." Now keep in mind that they were way past like. LOL. So was this his way of telling her he loved her? These are not young kids they are over 40 yrs. old. |
i would say yes he loves her but cant say it.. some guys are jerks that way. |
So why was it so painful if they clearly loved each other that he had to break it off? Sounds like he loves her, but if I were her, Id make him wait until he is emotionally stable enough to say the words! Clearly his head is not in a good place if hes afraid to put himself out there again to someone he knows he loves! |
I would say that he definitely does love her...he just can't say it. WHY? I have no clue :confused: Sometimes men are afraid of the "L word" I think ;) HE NEEDS TO SAY IT! :p |
You called this an affair rather than use the term relationship. I take that to mean an extra marital affair? If the latter is the case...I'd say he's a cake man. Wants his cake and eat it too. The benefits of being married to one woman along with the benefit of a girlfriend. Personally I think his line...I more than like you...is just stringing her alone. He knows what she wants to hear...but to utter I love you would bring too many other implications...not to mention what he loves...may not be her...it's what she does for him. Just my 2¢ |
Btw, many times women over analyze what men mean...when the answer is simply...what a man said...is exactly what he meant. |
I have a friend in the SAME situation... they were "lovers" for many years and then he decided they "grew" apart and wanted be just "friends"..... She fell apart then got over it and NOW he is coming back with all that..... I think it is a terrible thing, and yes, he wants his cake and eat it too. I feel so bad for both of them. d |
Geeze:rolleyes:. Why are some people so screwed up, LOL? Why can't they just say what they mean? I say, if he doesn't ask her to marry him INSTANTLY when they see each other (I got this from LOTS of movies, so it HAS to be based on reality, doesn't it:p)?, then she should kick him to the curb and get on with her life. Ok....now back to reality.......sometimes people just don't realize what they've got and how valuable it is til they've looked around at what else is out there. And sometimes people just have to grow up, and that isn't age-dependent, unfortunately! I hope it works out for them....the best relationships are the ones who start out as friends and remain friends as well as lovers. |
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But actually, when I re-read it, I think he probably just wants her to be his friend with benefits...isn't that what "more than like you" means? If you love someone, you're not usually afraid to admit it if you know they love you. |
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