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cariblonde 02-20-2008 10:11 AM
I probably shouldnt ask this but.....
 
we are having a baptism for our son in a few weeks and at the reception after the ceremony we are going to serve beer and wine...well my best friend says that is a dumb tradition and there should not be any alcohol served at religious events but yet at our friends wedding she got sloppy drunk and that was a religious event so what is the diff... she is baptist and I am catholic btw so we have different views on religion but is it just me or is she being a huge hypocrit

daisy mae06 02-20-2008 10:22 AM
I say it is your event so you do what you want...
Now it it were me because it is a Child's event and not adult I would not serve Alcohol but that is just me.. A wedding is more for adults.
But you have to do what you and your hubby want..

btw I am Baptist also..;)

Yorkieluv 02-20-2008 10:24 AM
I agree that a wedding that takes place in a church is most definitely religious as well...
It's your son's baptism! Even though there will be wine, I highly doubt that anyone will be getting sloppy drunk at a baptism reception...People just don't do that!! :) I really don't think you have anything to worry about there. Guests will probably just have one or two drinks with their meal or hors d'ouevres or whatever you are serving.

The alcohol usually served at a wedding is saying "hey, have a good time!!" The alcohol served at an event like this is more like "have a glass of wine or enjoy a beer with your meal."

Catholic baptisms take place when the child is still a mere infant.

Tiggerwit 02-20-2008 10:25 AM
It's your event serve what you want is my opinion. I don't know the etiquette of the religious event issue.

lilstar63100 02-20-2008 10:29 AM
i think it not only has to do with what the situation is but also who will be there. My family and friends are all about making big jokes out of everything and dont really ever have the formal type situations... no matter what its for... so we would definately have beer! i dont even drink and i enjoy this type of layed back party more.

cariblonde 02-20-2008 10:29 AM
thanks! I just feel if she doesnt agree with it she doesnt have to come simple as that, she is my best friend has been since middle school and i would love for her to be there but if she feels so negatively about alcohol being served I am just going to have to tell her she doesnt have to come

browniesmom622 02-20-2008 10:33 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by daisy mae06 (Post 1782777)
I say it is your event so you do what you want...
Now it it were me because it is a Child's event and not adult I would not serve Alcohol but that is just me.. A wedding is more for adults.
But you have to do what you and your hubby want..

btw I am Baptist also..;)

i agree :thumbup: :D

heatherjean8737 02-20-2008 11:51 AM
My cousin served alcohol at my god daughters baptism. It is whatever you want. If someone wants a glass of wine, I think that is totally okay.

kdlmon 02-20-2008 12:09 PM
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Originally Posted by heatherjean8737 (Post 1783099)
It is whatever you want. If someone wants a glass of wine, I think that is totally okay.


:yeahthat:

Do what you think is best! YOU are throwing the party, therefore it is your choice.

Wylie's Mom 02-20-2008 12:18 PM
It's about your family and your celebration. Make it yours. Don't pander to other's judgements. They can stoop to that level, you don't have to. :)

cariblonde 02-20-2008 12:36 PM
I jsut got a call from her and her dog may die:(

lilstar63100 02-20-2008 12:47 PM
oh no! what happened?

cariblonde 02-20-2008 12:49 PM
I posted a thread bout it it says "I need YT prayers"

even though we disagree we are more like sisters than friends and i feel her pain:(

celstu1 02-20-2008 02:01 PM
ah do what you want... some people just HAVE to say something to bring ya down :( Im sure she'll be glad to have a glass of wine or a beer or two while shes there! :)

gutu28 02-20-2008 02:10 PM
Your reception, your choice..tell her unless she wants to pay for it to shut her mouth! haha ..in nicer words, or course!

MeganS 02-20-2008 02:15 PM
Its your (sons) reception, so its your choice! I wouldn't do it, but I'm LDS (Mormon) so we're not supposed to drink anyway. :p But she's an adult, if she doesn't want to drink it, then she doesn't have to. Its up to you!

Good luck! :)

Ponyup 02-20-2008 02:24 PM
I was raised Methodist. They believe drinking is a sin, but I know that Catholics do not. And me personal, I don't believe it's a sin. I like to have a glass of wine at times. Even though my religious back ground isn't the same as my catholic friends it doesn't stop me from attending their events. I don't feel weird that they do things that are different then my religion. It's up to your family & you what you want at your baptism. I really wanted alcohol at my wedding, but my grandma refused to come if there was any, so she was more important. I guess it's up to you if your friend is more important then alcohol, but I personally think a good friend wouldn't make you choose.

TommiGirl 02-20-2008 04:25 PM
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Originally Posted by Yorkieluv (Post 1782783)
I agree that a wedding that takes place in a church is most definitely religious as well...
It's your son's baptism! Even though there will be wine, I highly doubt that anyone will be getting sloppy drunk at a baptism reception...People just don't do that!! :) I really don't think you have anything to worry about there. Guests will probably just have one or two drinks with their meal or hors d'ouevres or whatever you are serving.

The alcohol usually served at a wedding is saying "hey, have a good time!!" The alcohol served at an event like this is more like "have a glass of wine or enjoy a beer with your meal."

Catholic baptisms take place when the child is still a mere infant.
Forgive me for being ignorant, but is a baptism a party for children?
I thought it was babies that got baptized, and therefore adults would be in attendance.
So if I were you i would do what I wanted to.
Your friend does not have to drink if she does not wish to.

Kaluiah 02-20-2008 04:45 PM
It is totally up to you. I just had my daughter dedicated back at christmas and and the dinner afterwards I chose not to serve beer. Being that it was a reliougus event I didn't think it was right to serve any achoholic beverage. Wedding are different from baptisms. baptisms you are dedicating your life to Christ and to live your life in a christian way. Wedding you are vowling to love and cherish each other in the eye of god.

Kaluiah 02-20-2008 04:47 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by TommiGirl (Post 1784053)
Forgive me for being ignorant, but is a baptism a party for children?
I thought it was babies that got baptized, and therefore adults would be in attendance.
So if I were you i would do what I wanted to.
Your friend does not have to drink if she does not wish to.
a baptisim is a dedication ceremony and it can be for children or adults

cariblonde 02-20-2008 07:31 PM
I appreciate all your responses and opinions, It just really got under my skin b/c (and i hate to say this) I think she is somewhat jealous of my husband since we have been friends for so long and she is not married so she finds every way possible to ridicule him and put him down, she thinks it's HIS tradition to drink at a baptism :rolleyes: I told her I just wanted to have some wine for guests that enjoy that with their meal and as soon as i see anyone getting to the point of intoxication no more...... and I know if she comes she will drink

TommiGirl 02-20-2008 10:13 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Kaluiah (Post 1784119)
a baptisim is a dedication ceremony and it can be for children or adults
thanks for clarifying that for me.
I have been to a few, but the ones being baptized were infants and the guests were adults.
So I see not problem in serving wine.

Boosted Panda 02-20-2008 10:18 PM
Its a celebration!!!! God wouldn't mind if you guys popped a cold one in his honor. People need to loosen up a bit. Its a joyeous occassion and as long as people don't get sloppy drunk it should be a good time!

Yorkieluv 02-20-2008 10:20 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by TommiGirl (Post 1784053)
Forgive me for being ignorant, but is a baptism a party for children?
I thought it was babies that got baptized, and therefore adults would be in attendance.
So if I were you i would do what I wanted to.
Your friend does not have to drink if she does not wish to.
Tommigirl, I think you misunderstood my post. LOL :) That's exactly what my post was trying to explain :p That's why I said that Catholics baptize children when they are infants, therefore, it's not like it's a children's birthday party or something like that. Mainly adults are in attendance and sometimes their children, so having drinks at a Catholic baptism is not like a wedding in that people won't go there looking to get drunk. They will go there to celebrate a baptism and have a couple of drinks with their meals :D

TommiGirl 02-20-2008 10:22 PM
got it!!!

Boosted Panda 02-20-2008 10:24 PM
I am buddhist HOWEVER I was a baptized Catholic and in my baptism post party pictures you see my hippy uncle with a cold budwieser playing guitar with baby me on his lap!

Yorkieluv 02-20-2008 10:39 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by TommiGirl (Post 1785708)
got it!!!
:thumbup: ;)

Tillys_mom 02-20-2008 10:56 PM
Personally I wouldn't. As a child I had family that chose alcohol over me so I just naturally don't serve it at any of our family events. I chose not to even at our wedding, I wanted to feel like my family came for me, not free beer. LOL I know your situation is different. :) Whenever we have friends that serve alcohol at gatherings we still attend but choose not to drink. I just suck it up for a couple of hours then its over. If she is a true friend she will put the differences behind her and come and have a great time.

chachi 02-21-2008 04:13 AM
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Originally Posted by Tillys_mom (Post 1785753)
Personally I wouldn't. As a child I had family that chose alcohol over me so I just naturally don't serve it at any of our family events. I chose not to even at our wedding, I wanted to feel like my family came for me, not free beer. LOL I know your situation is different. :) Whenever we have friends that serve alcohol at gatherings we still attend but choose not to drink. I just suck it up for a couple of hours then its over. If she is a true friend she will put the differences behind her and come and have a great time.
I wouldnt either its a childs event. I didnt serve alcohol at my wedding either. And none of our family cared


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