party question..
 

when an invitation says to RSVP by...

do you usually RSVP? do you invite other people to this person's party without permission? is it okay to to do that?

i only ask because a friend was telling me to go to her friends daughter's 1st bday and bring my daughter... and first, i don't know the person... i don't have a present... and we weren't invited..

and my friend was saying it doesn't matter it's a party...

and from my standpoint it does matter.. because when i throw a party, i'd like people to RSVP so i know how many people to expect to be there for food count, party favors etc.. i'll have extra of course, but i'd like it if peole were to tell me they were bringing their extra friends if that makes sense, as this happened to me at my daughter's 1st birthday.. she invited a lot of her friends and their kids an di didn't want them to feel left out so i had to have my hubby run out and get more items for their kids...

so my friend told me i was just being stupid lol.. that if it's a party, everyone's invited..

but i used to think like that too, until i had my daughter and it was me planning everything etc..

am i just over reacting? lol maybe it's the pregnancy hormones.. i seemed to always get irritable anyways :cool: :rolleyes:

Personally I RSVP. To me it is rude to not. As far as showing up unannounced, I would be a little miffed at my guest that drug the other person along. I mean, throwing a party has to be planned and you have to know who and how many you are expecting.

I agree with you... I don't think people should invite others to partys without asking the host first for the exact reasons you've given

Okay I thought i was just over-reacting, according to my "friend" lol.. she kepttelling me to go.. i really didn't want to... besides it's raining out here (she said it's in a house) lol, and ugh i don't know!

but yea she was the one who brought extra friends and their kids to my daughter's 1st birthday.. and i realy don't want that to be the deal with my baby shower again :rolleyes:

You are absolutely correct! When a written invitation comes with an RSVP it is up to the receiver to respond. It is not correct etiquette to bring along other guests. Bringing uninvited or unannounced guests put the host or hostess at the disadvantage that you describe.

These are my thoughts on your question..........

Thank you for your response.

My Baby shower is January 12th (omg soo excited lol) and actually a lot of people have not rsvp'd yet...

when should i call them or ask them if they are comign or not? because im assuming they are not coming if they don't RSVP.. but im scared they'll show up and i won't have enough supplies/etc for them if they do and add friends lol :D :eek:

Since you are so close to your party date you will need to call your guests and ask them for a response. If you have their e-mail addresses you may want to send out a quick note to everyone.

You are correct in wanting to have a count so that you can everything you need ready!

It is an exciting time for you. Lots of very good luck!