Is it wrong...
 

to dream about people that have died? I've caught myself dreaming of someone a lot lately because my relationship has been nothing but arguements for the last few weeks... It's like I dream about this person to get my mind off the problems because I was happy with this other person who is no longer a live... But then I get really upset because its almost as if I compare them to each other in my head.. I've been with my boyfriend for what will be 5 years in January.. I met this other person while we took a break away from each other and he passed away unexpectedly... I just get upset keeping it all in.. Is it wrong to feel the way I do?

No, I don't think it is wrong at all. And it is not uncommon to dream of those who have died.

It so weird I always dream my grandmother and specially on the anniversary of her dead, but for some reason I din't dream of her this year:(, I remember dreaming of my grandmother sister like a week before my grandmother sister died:eek:

That's not weird at all! I too, dream of people that have passed. They say when you dream about a person that has died that they need your prayers.

I probably shouldn't answer because it's only been 3 months since I found my husband dead :(

When he died - I want thru a rollercoaster of emotions (still am) :(
I couldn't stop myself from thinking about him day AND night & even in my sleep ...Grief can take a big toll on us in so many sneaky ways - it's affected me physically as well as emotionally. I fell apart ...literally - I lost myself in my emotions. Things that I normally take joy in had no meaning anymore. I couldn't sleep - couldn't eat and lost alot of weight - not to mention all the tears and horrible hopeless thoughts racing thru my head. Then there's the guilt of what we COULD have done or said when they were alive. It can eat you up

but....now that I've accepted the death in my heart & know it was Gods Plan I think it's normal to have those kinds of dreams. When someone is a huge part of our live then gone it's natural that we'd have dreams about them.

It's emotionally draining to have these dreams because we want them to be real & they aren't .....when we wake up it's a big letdown - BUT - It's your subconsious filtering your loss and I think healthy ....just don't dwell on the past - it won't help at all.

sorry this is so long...my fingers have a mind of their own sometimes.
Good luck -

I think it's very normal. I don't care what kind of dream i'm having my mother is always in it. Wether she's sitting in a chair or doing dishes, I always spot her in them. She's been gone for 11 yrs.

I agree with V....I think it is normal but it can be draining!!! We long for our loved ones that have passed!!! I actually think it would be abnormal if we didn't dream of them!!! I know these dreams can be trouubling but like V said, it is our subconsious filtering the loss.
Best wishes to all that have lost loved ones!!!!!

I don't think you control your dreams or feelings. Maybe just take a little time to yourself to think it out.

I use to have dreams all the time about my father that had passed. Still do, but not quite as often (he passed in 1973). The dreams just always seemed so real. A very sweet lady told me once that it was God's way of letting me visit with him.

I think its normal. I dream about my Grandma all the time (she passed 6 years ago on Thanksgiving). It seems so real...like she's there talking to me. and I agree with V, when I wake up and she's not there, it's horrible. It is the biggest let down in the world. But I've started seeing the dreams as chances to visit her...to talk to her again.

Hugs!

I agree with Villette. You have to deal with every possible emotion there is. After losing my husband very unexpectedly 2 yrs ago the 14th of this month, I still dream about him. And the dreams are far more vivid than normal dreams. But, unlike Villette, when I wake up, I feel better. The dreams comfort me. We can't control our subconscience, but it controls our dreams. We, in turn, control how the dreams affect us. I look forward to those dreams. Maybe that's why I sleep better now than I used to. I hope, in time, you will be able to understand your emotions, and not let them upset you. It's a circle - you have a dream, you worry about it, it's on your mind, you go to sleep and your subconscience takes over and you dream about it, you wake up and worry about why you dreamed about it - back to the beginning of the cycle. You are very normal. You will be fine if you don't dwell on the dreams.

I dont think its weird to dream of people that we"ve lost ,I dream of my parents alot especially my father he passed in my house.

Heck no, you probably had no closure since it was unexpected .... there are times I dream of my lost loved ones and wonder why they do not call me anymore ...
then I realize they are gone ... I really miss my parents and my husband ....

I am so sorry to hear you lost your husband 2 years ago.

I have suffered loss more times than I care to mention ... and my dreams are extremely vivid and as I said before, I always wonder why I do not hear from them anymore. I guess, "I'll see you in my dreams" has more meaning than we know.
Yes, I look forward to "seeing" my husband each night ....

sorry double clicked ...