You and your husband will be in my thoughts and prayers! I hope he is able to get clean and stay clean.

I have had the problem of a brother and a husband being alcholics! I had to see my brother go through Dt's whe!n I was 16! It is not easy at all!
I will be thinking of you and keep your family in my prayers!
One thing an Aunt told me ,in a rough time in my life-
God will not put more on your shoulders than you can bear to carry!
You are a stong person! Keep your faith! Pray, Pray,Pray!

Oh I am so sorry!!!!!!!!My prayers are coming your way. I pray for strength for you and your children and for recovery for your husband. He can do it. You can do it.

You & your husband & family are and will be in my thoughts and prayers!

Our family is struggling with addiction this year....we have a family member that is in this battle. Addiction is truely a disease....not a choice......and it is a disease that effects the entire family. Please seek out an Al-Anon program....you will need the additional support system. You have had some excellent advise and information. Know that you have friends here that will keep you in our/their thoughts & prayers!!

Keep your strength up and your head held high. You are doing a great job.
Still praying for you. We are here whenever you need us.

thanks everyone. i had to go to my doctor four hours away for my 4 week post op appt.

im going to bed but first I will be on my knees praying for my husband. I love him so much and I cannot wait to see him on monday. im so excited. in the 6 years we have been together we have never went this long without at least a phone conversation.

I talked to his counsler and he said he is doing great. he has opened up more than he thought he would a lot quicker than it usually takes. he said he is going to make things right and he knows the children and I have been hurting. please please continue the prayers, i know they work!!!!

That's good news! It sounds like he's really trying to get straightened out.

If God leads you to it, he'll lead you thru it..............

Just checking in again to let you know hugs and prayers still coming your way. Patty

Just wanted to see how you were holding up. Hang in there. Make sure he goes to NA after he gets out. It will help a lot. If they have open meetings go with him for support.

I have not been through this in my immediate family . But have lost a brother in law to drug (Rx pills and meds.) but have a success story of a recovering 33 yr old nephew from crack . He found Jesus and has turned his life around. I will pray for you and your family that God will be gracious and bless your family with healing. There are lots of good books out there to help you. Shattered Dreams is an excellent one. Hang in there and never give up.
God will take you through this .

I hope you are feeling a bit more confident as the days have passed and that things are beginning to look a bit brighter too.
At times in my life I have felt like I was surrounded with people who have had substance abuse problems...whether it be with alcohol, or drugs and at times it was just so overwhelming. It is a HUGE step that your husband agreed to treatment, as many of those I knew refused and it was just so painful to watch the decline of that loved friend, or family member.
If there is anything I can do to help, please do not hesitate to count on me. I wish you peace and I hope your husband appreciates all the love it took for you to take this step with him.
Sometimes it takes a village for support and you certainly have that here with us.

he called me he called me he called me. :D :D :D :D all i could do is bawl and tell him that i love him.

the counsler called to tell me that i can come for thanksgiving. he is supposed to let him have no phone calls at all but only for certain circumstances and he let him talk to me for 1 minute about my post op appt yesterday.
it was the best minute of my week. I cannot wait to see him on monday. I love him so much. his voice oh god his voice.

thank the good lord for guiding us through this. his love is pure and i am soo thankful !!:D

:) Oh, I'm so happy for you! You sound much happier now that you've spoken to him!

That's great that yall can spend Thanksgiving together! :)

Stay strong girl! Still in our thoughts & prayers...

Keeping you in my thoughts.
Stay strong my friend. :justahug:
~Angie

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Ms. Newmommy,

I've never had my boyfriend deal with meth..but he used to abuse alcohol and marijuana A LOT. I would always catch him being drug or high etc...and it hurt me..broke my heart. I was upset and threatened to leave him because I didn't want to associate myself with that lifestyle...bascially to make my story shorter..It was his personal descion to stop because he didn't want to lose me. I turned a new leaf and reamined a counselor to him, loved him and keep him in my prayers..not he doesn't smoke anymore..and occasionally he'll drink..but not into a stupor like he used to..GoOoo future hubby!:D

So what I suggest to you newmommy, is keep your love strong for him..visit him in rehab and let he know you need him..and he needs you.Never left go of him and keep him in your prayers to get better...


wishing the best,

Daisy's mommy

Sending lots of prayers and hugs for you and your family.

I hope you are getting some support as well besides family and friends.

There are support groups for family's of drug abusers: Alanon, NA, etc. You need to find out that you can survive this ordeal. It is a family problem and it hurts him, you, children, everyone. Don't be afraid to go to therapy, counselors, or support groups....and it is one day at a time.

It's funny how we can all share in the delight of that minute on the phone you had. I'm so happy for you. Not that there won't be tough times ahead, but God gives you moments like that one to store up the strength to deal with the tougher moments. Hang on to the way you felt when you heard his voice. God Bless......

I am so happy for you!!!! God is so good!!!!! I am so thankful that he recognized that he needed help. He is so lucky to have you stand by him the way you are!!! You are a very special lady!!!!

believe me, i know this is hard. my kids are out of town staying with their nana, his mom, for almost a week so I can go be with him.

i dont know how im going to pay the bills, let alone have money for christmas for my children, :confused: :confused: :( i really dont. Im so freakin stressed but hey at least we will have our family and thats what matters most anyways right???

I almost cried when I read your last post and I'm continually amazed by your wonderful attitude. You are a strong woman and y'all will get through this. You are facing huge challenges but you have something that many people don't and that's love and as you have already said, that is the most important thing. This Christmas will come and go but your children having parents who love them and love each other is more than many people can ever hope for. In the long run, there is nothing you can buy them that is worth more than having parents who love each other and are willing to fight for each other.

I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers .

Its really great when they get into rehab...but I have to remind you to get yourself into a 12 step program...its going to be very difficult as rehab is great...while they are in it...when they come out its different for you and for them and you will really need the support as will he...if you dont do anything else pleeeeeeeeeeeease go to Narc-Anon or Al-Anon...I havent been able to keep up with the whole thread so Im not sure if you have gone yet or not..but once the honeymoon phase is over with you will really be glad you have it...its great if you can both go to your own meetings and really learn what you can both do to prevent a relapse!! I bet you both thrilled to get to see each other!! How long will he be in treatment for??

Dawn

28 days.

i have to look into it. i am planning on going but i have been so busy, I am 4 weeks post abdominal hysteryctomy so im still recovering from that and taking care of my children. My son just turned 7 on the 10th and my step daughter 9 on the 12th. Im trying to figure out my finances so we dont drown. Im up till 11 pm at least and up at 5 to get kids ready for school. so i hear you, i do and I AM going to go. But first I need to get my kids back into some sort of schedule. they have been with so many of my friends and family at this time as I am running here or there.
I am estatic to see him. I cannot wait I probably wont sleep at all for the next two nights. Its a family program that I am going to. First day we watch movies together, tuesday I have to tell him all thats on my heart. how he made me and the kids feel. what this hell was like, what i expect from him, what boundries i want to be me kept, what I expect from our marriage. then on wednesday he gets to tell me what it was like to be the one living with the diease. so I am sure its going to be heartbreaking. I havent seen him for a week now and I dont wanna yell or be angry. I just wanna be with him. But I know the warrior in me needs to fight this, for him, for my children, and for me.
Im leaving tomorrow morning, so happy thanksgiving everyone. And if you have a spare prayer, please wish me luck. thank you all for your support. Im so thankful for this board!!!
Jenn

I am so glad that you have friends and family that you can lean on and depend to help with your children. Yes, it is very important to give your children a sense of normalcy - I will pray you can do this - but I will also pray that you have time to get the support you need in one of the groups designed for this.

I will pray for your finances as you go thru this time. While I know your children have visions of what they may find under the tree on Christmas, what you can give them with a whole, healthy family and strong parents is the most important. Perhaps you can hold fast any strong traditions you have for Christmas or establish new ones that focus on your family, the birth of Christ and the real reason we celebrate.

But right now focus on the week ahead, you do have much to be thankful for. Right up at the top of your list must be that your husband did go into treatment. That is a huge step!! Please get your rest, you will need it as the emotional days that lay ahead of you will be emotional draining and you want your mind to be at its sharpest to best express yourself.

Hugs to you Jenn. And many prayers. Praying God's will for your. Walk with Him!

You and your family are in my prayers daily.

I'm sorry you are going through this. :( I have never had any dealings with drugs in my family, but I watch the show Intervention a lot, and I can see the toll they take on people and their families (NOT that watching a show compares to anything what you're going through). How long is he staying in rehab? 90 days+ would be ideal, especially if he's been addicted for a while. Good luck!

they say G-d never gives us more than we can handle. I am sure things will work out for you. You may have to get a part-time job to handle some bills and all. I do not know tha ages fo your children, but if your mom can help out that way by baby sitting, you can get started on some kind of job pattern ...
I wish you luck! Bless your heart and your family ....and yes, unity is the most important thing.

I hope the holidays go smoothly for you. Your husband took a very important step in is life by going into rehab .... things can only go up from there.

The holidays are abut loving and family, not gifts,
Even your kids can learn a good lesson from this.
love and peace ...