just need to vent
 

I am just flusterated and need to vent.


I am currently still living with my ex boyfriend. I am trying to get back to work after surgeries so I can save to move. He has been making it VERY stressful for me. I mean threatening to kick me out after I just got home from one of the surgeries.

Well his 8 yr old daughter is here for the weekend. He lets her be a zombie in front of the tv or computer all day and that annoys me how it is. He basically uses it as an electronic babysitter. He feels if he can't spend money for something like bowling or whatever that there is nothing he can do with her. I wake up this morning to her on the couch watching tv yelling at Aurora. Aurora is trying to get her attention to play with her. His daughter is sitting there yelling at her that she is bad. She is a puppy trying to play, she is not bad. She can go upstairs and watch tv and at least there she plays too, not just veg out in front of it like she does down stairs. My ex doesn't suggest that she goes up stairs so that Aurora can't bug her....he wants to put Aurora in her crate. He said his daughter shouldn't be "mauled" by my dog. Aurora was not mauling her, she was not play biting or anything. She would bring toys to his daughter and then when she was ignore, she would try to sit on her lap. She was stuck closed into the computer room with me and I felt horrible. Aurora would get on the other chair so she was eye level and just pout and whine. Then she will go to the door and whine. She just wants to be out and play.

Now ex is furious with me and says he will never have his daughter again while me and my dog are here.

Am I wrong to be upset that Aurora is being yelled at for trying to play and keeps being told she is bad??

Goodness, I couldn't imagine living with an ex; I know that has to be stressful on you. I can see what you mean about his daughter just sitting around watching tv and stuff; that would get on my nerves too. No, I don't think its wrong that your little dog wants to play but, you also can't make his daughter play with her so, I guess its just a situation you will just have to deal with for a little while. I'm sure there is a lot of tension there. Best of luck!

I don't want to force them to play together but I don't want my puppy yelled for just trying to play and being told she is bad. I would hate for her to think its wrong to play.

I can understand that...I guess just sit down with his daughter and explain that she is just a puppy and likes her and wants her to play. That's what I tell my little sister when Cocoa bugs her; I tell her he is just a baby and wants to play and doesn't understand when someone doesn't want to.

I wish I could, ex wouldn't let me. He is one of those types that his child does no wrong and everyone else is wrong. It would cause a war if I tried to talk to her. If I upset him, he says I am being kicked out that night.

So basically just came here to vent since I am just stuck and able to do anything.

I'm sorry he's treating you so unkind. His daughter sounds like she needs some discipline, and needs to get a life.

Yes, you should be upset she did nothing wrong.
 

Just from reading your post it sounds like your "ex" is an emotional abuser. I really hope you will be able to move out soon, that situation sounds really horrible for you and aurora. Do you have any friends or family you could possibly stay with?

oh there is definately a lot of emotional abuse , but I am working on getting myself independent so we can move out very soon. He treats Aurora good usually but just has no backbone when it comes to his child. She only had rules because I was making and enforcing them.

His daughter is bummed she is not going to the yorkie meet up with me on sunday....too bad. If one annoys her and makes her yell, she doesn't need to be around others. I will not change my life or my plans though.

he is now going to file to have me evicted, he is heading to the police station to file to have me evicted. Its his control thing. He knows I have not been able to work with healing from the surgeries.
So I have 30 days to figure out where me , aurora and my cat will go.

OMG, what a horrible situation. I don't think you did anything wrong. I have a 7 and 10 year old and don't let them veg out in front of the tv or computer all day or yell at Bella! He does sound like an emotional abuser and I hope you have a safe place to go now with your furbabies. Please keep us posted. We will be praying for you and a better situation! God Bless.

he still syas I have to be out BUT he did talk to his daughter. She did come and say sorry. I explained how Aurora doesn't understand and she is just a baby. I explained that she loves her, that is why she crawls onto her lap alot and always wants to play with her. Its true Aurora does love her. Aurora will sit outside her door after she goes back home, she is outside her door every morning. She is playing with her more now.

Oh I feel so bad for you. What a horrible situation to live in. Constantly being threatened to be kicked out. I hope you find a better living situation. Home should be a peaceful place. Sending good wishes to you from me and zoeybear.:)

I feel terrible bad about your situation, I hope you can move soon, You certanly dont need his abuse:(

I hope you can come to an agreement with your ex for you both to try to be civil to one another until your situation changes. It can be extremely uncomfortable in a environment like you explained. Better to try to get along until you can move. Hope everything changes for you soon.

It may sound stupid but it helped inspire me to start a new biz. I have started making dog clothes, beds, etc. Been wanting to sew for aurora so figured might as well make stuff to try to sell as well. Been working on getting the site up and running since right after my surgery...I was actually out shopping for fabrics right after. It has become one more to help get more independent. I been working my booty off, I will make this a success once the biz is ready and I use that as a way to help support myself (not doing this completely, but helps to be able to work on this while I can not work)

He went to police station and they said he had to go to court to file, he says he will do that monday.