Phoebes' passing
 

Hi all, I am new to forum, the only reason I found it was because of Phoebes unforseen passing this past Monday.
After reading about Junebug I wanted to share what happened to Phoebe.
After puppy sitting Phoebe for 2 years her owners gave her to me last year. She was usually with me for 2 weeks out of each month anyways and they were just way to busy not to mention that they had 3 very active boys. They also said that when I would take her back home to them, she would sulk for days.
Phoebe would have been 5 in August and if you weighed her right after eating she weighed a mere 3lbs 9ozs on a very full belly.
So, what happened. I am not sure that I fully understand or maybe the better wording would be accept it. I had taken her out to go potty & she made a little noise ....a whimper. We came back in & I noticed a funny color of little blood droplets on the floor. Well being a female human I put 2 & 2 together and thought she must have a bladder infection. I called the vet, they said to bring her in, but that I would need to drop her off because they were booked, but that they would work her in. She trotted right over to her little carrier & away we went. She always rides on my lap, but because she had drippled the blood I put her in her carrier. She was not lethargic, she was not moaning, but she wasn't 100% herself either. 25 minutes later the vet called me & said that she need emergency surgery. Evidently when Phoebe had gone into heat a piece of the lining did not shed and stayed attached to the uterus. The cervix closed and an infection started. Evidently this type of infection weakens the uterus & leaks the infection into the abdomen.
I can honestly tell you she did not appear or act that sick!
Yes, Phoebe was intact. While her 1st family had toyed with the idea of breeding her, I never intendend to breed her. I choose not to have her spayed because of her small size & because when she first came to live with me on a full time basis, she was not in the best health. You could feel every bone on her, she also refused to eat for them.
I was given 15 minutes to make a decision on what to do. I was told that due to her size and the infection she may not make it through this surgery, one of the concerns was that the uterus would burst into her abdomen. They also said it was a very complicated surgery & if she did make it she may not make the recovery. I opted to let her go peacefully.
Phoebe was my companion. She went everywhere with me. My daughters are now 21, 18, & 16. So they are often to busy to hang out with mom. But Phoebe was never to busy and she always wanted to go.
I know that I will replace her, not only for myself but also for all of the people that Phoebe touched on a regular basis. One imparticular comes to mind. Nick. He would wait by the curb at his house, in his wheelchair until we would come by. Phoebe was small enough that she could sit on his lap and he could pet her on his own without someone needing to hold a dog up so that he could pet it.
Given what I have just gone through if you were to ask me, if I had it to do all over again would I have had her spayed? I still do not have the answer to that. I do realize that some breeders require it and in that situation you do not have a choice. But under 5lbs is so small to go under, and right now all that I do know is that I really miss her.
Sorry this is so long

I am very sorry for your loss of Phoebe. She sounded like a special girl. Godspeed Phoebe

I am so sorry for your loss. Phoebe definitely touched your life in a special way and it is obvious she loved being in your life. I'm glad you found this forum and honored that you shared your story.

I hope you do get another baby to help your healing. My Sissy is just 4 lbs and was spayed at 7 months when she was 3lbs 7oz. She had pre-op blood work done and I felt very comfortable with my vet. You will find many similar stories to mine with even smaller pups who were spayed without any problem. I think it is important to find a vet you feel comfortable with who has at least some knowledge of caring for the really little guys. Whatever you decide, I wish you happiness and love along the journey.

First off, I just want to welcome you to YorkieTalk. You'll find a wealth of information here.

Next, I am so sorry for what you've been through with your baby. I hope some time in the future you will be able to love another little furbaby while cherishing the memories of Phoebe.

R.I.P Phoebe, i am so sorry for your loss. It is a very sad story,but you followed your heart. I hope that you will find another baby,not to replace phoebe,but to help fill the hole in your heart. You will be in my thoughts and prayers

I am so sorry for your loss of Phoebe. Please know that you will be in my prayers.Time will heal your broken heart.:rbyorkie:

I am so sorry for your untimely loss. I know what it's like to loose a precious little one. Please know my Reggie will take care of your Phoebe over Rainbow Bridge. She was such a good mama.

And welcome to YT. You will love it hear but I warn you, it is very addicting.

Welcome to YT. I'm so sorry for your loss and the heartbreaking decision that you were forced to make.

Tears come to my eyes everytime I read one of these stories. I hope it doesn't take you long to find another one to fill the void.

Pheobe can never be replaced. Nothing can fill that little hole that her tiny little soul left in you heart, but another one can help to fill the void that is left in your daily life.

How can these tiny little creatures get so deep into our hearts?

I am very sorry about Phoebe's passing. she sounds like a special little girl. know that you have friends here that understand the pain of losing a close friend, such as your Phoebe.:littleang

May God give you peace of mind and heart about little Phoebe. I am so sorry for your loss, and hope your broken heart is mended soon.:unlove:

I am so very sorry.....
 

Poor Phoebe.....

I had a yorkie 15 years ago, and never spayed her....of course she was never bred either....and did not spay her for the same reason as you did not spay Phoebe.....but, never would I have even thought such issues could result....

I know that you are grieving....but, your story really educated me and I am so very sorry for your pain...

My heart aches for you too.

I'm so sorry about little Phoebe. I know your pain and how you miss her. The man in the wheelchair will also miss her...so sad. I hope you will get another furbaby...they do help to ease the pain. Please know that we are here for you. RIP PHOEBE:rbyorkie:

so very sorry to hear you lost your baby, I know it's a pain that hits you right in the pit of the stomach and I dont wish it upon anyone. Time will heal you, talk to her and maybe even right her a letter.
I did got out and get a new baby after I lost my baby Kloey, I knew she would never replace Kloey but she sure has helped me heal my heart. But take your time and do whats right for you.
Bless you and my thoughts are with you.

Phoebe was lucky to have had you in her life and I know that she brightened your days. Prayers go out to you for your loss. I know it leaves a big hole in your heart.:(

AWWW this is so sad I am sorry for your loss and hope your heart mends quickly.

I am so sorry for your loss. RIP little Phoebe baby :(

I am so very sorry, i dont know what to say, sending you huggs !

So sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers for you!

Im so sorry for your loss.
 

Im so sorry for your loss. I have also lost my little Coco-bee recently, i know too how it hurts. But i remeber her as the sweet little girl that she was. That always brings a smile to my face. Welcome to yorkie talk by the way...you will love this place.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know what it means to loose a furbaby.
I went through it twice and swore never again. After 2 yrs. I realized
even though it is very painful to have to say goodbye it is very loney
without a furbaby. So I got Buddy. In time you will heal and be ready
for a new furbaby. Phoebe would not want you to be alone. You will
find all the love and support you need right her on YT. Welcome.

Rest in Peace little Phoebe...

I'm so sorry for your loss. That was heartbreaking to read.

Sorry for your loss
 

So sorry to hear of your loss. I know how hard that can be especially when it happens so suddenly. I lost my beautiful maltese Nicki in May. I had taken her to the vet to have her eyes checked as it appeared she might be getting an infection. While at the vets, in the exam room, waiting for the vet to come in, she went into congestive heart failure. They did all they could but couldnt save her. Even offered to try CPR to revive her but I couldnt do that to her as the vet said that if she came out of it, it would probably happen again in a few months. I didnt want her to suffer so I had to let her go. She was 13 years old in February. I will always miss her as I know you will miss your Phoebe. But, I wouldnt have missed the experience of having her in my life.
May God bless you and may He and your memories give you comfort as you go on without your little furbaby, Phoebe. :animal-pa

Thank you
 

It means alot to have such wonderful people out there that understand what we are going through.
I shared Phoebe with so many each and every day. Right now it is a little hard to go out, because there is always someone who asks where's Phoebe? I happen to be self employed and so Phoebe was always able to be with me. So if someone was having a bad day they would come to see Phoebe to cheer them up, or if they justwanted to have puppy kisses, even the great big 6' foot guys would come and get her and talk baby talk, the guy who claimed he didn't like dogs but would pick up this little dog with her pink bow & her nails painted pink or purple depending on the day. He would just hold her and not set her down. There were so many people that she just made each day a little better for.
Its been hard to talk about it, but I am trying to move on with the help from some of the people on the list, I am looking at getting a new puppy that will also be able to share their life with a whole lot of people.

Thank you to everyone for your thoughts and prayers
Muriel

No matter what the circumstance saying good bye to our little ones is so hard to bear. It takes tremendous amount of love to make the decision to let them go. I hope you are comforted by knowing you gave her the greatest gift of all a loving home and a loving heart to make the decision for her to not suffer.

I'm glad you found Yorkie Talk. I received so much support, comfort and love from everyone here when Jewel died. I hope knowing there are so many of us that share and understand the special bond we have with our furbabies that your closest friends and family might not have had the privlige to experiance brings you a little bit of peace.

Phoebe found you and choose you and it won't be long before another set of sweet paws finds their way to your heart.

Welcome to YT!!! I am so very sorry to hear about Phoebe!!!!!!!! I cannot imagine the pain that you must be in! I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for sharing your story!!! It will help others!!!!

Dizpatch -- as far as your not having had her spayed -- I understand your reasons for not doing so - and many of us would have made the same decision.

It was certainly not a common thing that happened to your little dog, and it's certainly heartbreaking.

All of our hearts go out to you - and so many of us have suffered similar events.

I hope you're up to getting a new little puppy soon. Of course, it won't replace your little girl - but it will give you something new to love. You know - there is no limit to how many people and pets we can love .... and they are all special.

I'm sorry - I know how much you miss your little girl......

Carol Jean

Sorry to hear of your loss.....you will play again together one day!