maybe moving We were looking at a new house today and getting pretty excited about it...and then it hit me! I can't move away from this house because Grrracie and Scruffy are buried here! Am I crazy? I know they are at the Rainbow Bridge, but their little graves and markers are here and I just don't think I can bear to have someone else living here that might move the markers. God I miss Grrracie so much! Scruffy too, but Grracie was my baby....I still expect her to come running into the kitchen for a carrot! Thank God for baby Lexy! She is helping me feel better and I love her so mych already! I just wish my Gracie was here too! Will I ever stop crying over her? Then I think of poor Scruffy and I feel guilty because I don't grieve quite as much for him. He was so old and sick--even when I got him out of the pound. He had 5 years of a loving home before he died. I feel good about that part. I guess I just always expected him to go...but my Gracie was young--almost 8--and it was so unexpected. I hope that they are in heaven with my father-in-law who will love them and spoil them like we did. |
I'm so sorry for your pain over the loss of your babies. It is a little easier to accept sometimes when you are expecting it. I understand that and don't think you are "guilty" over that. Maybe you could move the markers with you as a symbol, and plant them in your new back yard? And take a picture of their resting place now and put the pictures somewhere you can always look at them when you need to. I feel your pain, I really do, and I'm so sorry for you, but glad that little Lexy is helping you get through this :) |
I remember after my husband died in 1995, I really needed to sell the house ($$$), but we had such happy times there, he had died there, and I had sprinkled some of his ashes under our favorite apple tree. How could I possibly leave that house???? I remember talking about the hard time I was having with the decision in a group of friends and also several people that I didn't know well. It was a very scruffy looking guy I didn't know, sweaty from a hard day at work, who turned to me and gently said "Those wonderful memories are not in the nails and boards of that house. They are inside your heart, and will stay with you wherever you are." I put the house on the market the very next day. He was right. Why don't you take a little scoop of earth from under Scruffy and Gracie's markers and a flowering plant from your garden with you to the new house. Then you could get a pretty new yard sculpture to put in your memory garden. But always look into your heart to really find them......they're there....... Gentle hugs to you from me and Higgins. |
You all are so sweet! Here I am crying again! But I'm looking into my heart and I see them warm and happy and playing at the Rainbow Bridge. Little Lexy is asleep in my lap right now and is so sweet! I wonder if she possibly senses how adored she will be! |
You've been given some excellent advice eensor. I can only imagine the pain you must feel but I think I would definately take the markers and think about what Higgin's Mom said. It will ease your pain knowing that you've honored their memory. God Bless! |
Higgins Mom...you made me cry! Thanks for helping me appreciate my husband even more today. I should cherish every moment I have with him. We've been together 20 years now. I hope things are going well for you. |
I am very sorry about your lost & am sorry you might have to move, but remember ( I know is hard) even if their graves are there, they are in 2 very special places. 1 is over the rainbow bridge happy and the other is your heart and your memories and no matter where in the world you are. they will always be with you. :rose: I do agree you can take some soil and plant it at your new home, or grown a new garden with part of that soil and every year when spring come by and all your flowers bloom, it will just be a reminder of all the beautiful colorful moments you had together with them. Good luck & God Bless. I hope what ever you decide to do it work out just right adn that you are happy ;) |
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Higgin's Mom - this is a very touching post you have written with such heart felt advise. |
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