How do you get over the loss...
 

Hi,
I posted in the Sick and injured section a few weeks ago about my Hugo who had CHF...well...he died yesterday morning right before we got up. He was laying his bed with my other 2 yorkies. I heard the youngest Harley yelp really loud so I go up and found him dead in his bed. I am so upset with myself, because if I had gotten up only 30 minutes earlier I could have been there with him while he passed. He was still soo warm, so i know that we had just missed his passing. How do you get over this?? I am filled with so much sadness. Hugo was the light of my life and he was the sweetest boy ever. My husband and I have no children and I have not lost anyone close to me yet that would bring this much sadness. I thought I would feel a little better today, but I dont...I feel worse. Yes, I love my other 2 dearly and I am glad to have them here with me, but this sadness is overwhelming. I knew he could not live forever and i knew he could die at anyday and he lived the best life he could have lived. I just miss him dearly:( When will this feeling ever pass??

Sorry to ramble on...but if there is anyone who would understand how I feel, it would be everyone here.:aimeeyork

Thanks for listening!

I am sorry for your loss. I know how you feel we lost our Boxer in August. I felt heartbroken. I knew it was time for us to let go but it didn't make it easier. I think time helps heal. Instead of thinking of her laying there as she took her last breath I think about her running around the yard chasing her Boxer friend who would come to visit.

I will pray that time will help you and always remember Hugo has left paw prints on your heart. HUGS to you!

I am so very sorry for your loss. You have to grieve. It takes time. I lost my Moon Shadow last year. I felt the same way. It does get better. Big hugs to you

I'm so sorry you lost Hugo. He was loved and cared for and likely it happened very fast. He's in a far better place. If you have lost a dearly loved companion before, you know you never get over it, you just learn to accept and live with the fact of it after the shock wears off, and time blunts the hard pain. Eventually, given the passing of enough time, you tend to remember only the good, the sweet and the happy times with them as the mind and body work to set us back on course and help us successfully go on. And Hugo wouldn't want it any other way. He'd want you to go on and make other dogs' lives as blessed as his and be happy yourself. R.I.P., Hugo.

I am so sorry for your loss. It takes time to heal

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry for your loss of Hugo. I know just how you feel. My husband and I don't have children either so Gracie was a child to us. I know it will take time, but I really don't know how we can stop the over whelming sadness. I will hold your hand in my heart for I know we have a long road to travel.

I lost my Lexi and that was 1 year and 5 months ago. I also have others that I love dearly.
But I miss her everyday. You will settle into life without him but you will miss him all the time. So sorry RIP Hugo

I am so sorry... I know it is hard to lose a loved one. Just think of the happy moments what what a great life he lived instead of the last moments.

RIP Hugo

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband. I'm sure Hugo was like your child and I know you are hurting so right now. Rest in peace sweet little Hugo.

I'm so sorry for your loss and I know just how you feel. It's just like losing a child or a family member. I lost my little boy unexpectedly a month ago. I was so depressed. Nothing made me happy including my 2yo daughter who always makes me smile. It's been hard. I think of him everyday. At first it seemed like I could look in certain spots where he would normally be and I'd think he'd be there. It's very strange. I miss him so much. After a month , it has gotten somewhat better. I still cry everyday though at least once. In time you will feel a little better. I promise. (((Hugs)))

I'm so sorry for your loss....I know you will miss him everyday, it will get better. Try and remember the good times, he is in a better place now, running and well with all the others at the Rainbow Bridge....you will meet him there one day.
RIP Hugo

I feel the same way!!! Everytime I look in the dining room at his bed, all I can see is him lying there dead:( He also knew when 9:00pm was, on the dot... he would come to me and want to lay in the bed to watch TV. he was soo funny. That is what I will miss the most.

Thanks everyone:aimeeyork

I have tears reading about precious Hugo. Yorkies are family and we grieve when one of our little ones passes. I work with hospice patients and I will tell you there are times when you are not meant to be there when they pass. So do not feel sad for not being there. I believe the angels come and surround a person and take them home. One never dies alone. Same with our pets. How do you get over this. It takes time. I handed my little Teddy Peanut back to his Creator. Cried. Still miss him. I went out and brought JoJo, a Yorkie puppy home. He will not take Ted's place but he has helped me not grieve so much over Ted. Any loss is hard on us but we press on and know that God is in control He has our lives and our pets lives in His hands.

Florabug, I still see my baby looking at me from on the vets table on the day I last saw him. It tears my heart out. It seems like just yesterday he was here and now he is not. I hate that now he has only become just a memory. Its so hard losing someone you love so much. Maybe you can do something special to remember him like releasing some balloons. My husband and I bought a tree on our local library lawn and decorated it in my dog's memory. I'm glad I did it as I felt I was still doing something for him. I have a locket of his hair and his foot print too. I am waiting on his ashes to come back from the vet so he will be back in the house. I do know how you feel and I'm sorry there is such a hole in your heart right now. I feel like my baby has given me a few signs that he's still with me. One day I took my other baby, nelly, newtons partner in crime, on our walk like all three of us used to do. On the path I looked down to see a Black and Tan wooly bugger, the same colors as my Newt. I think it was a sign from him saying he was out romping around on the path too. I don't know why but, just a feeling. Then when I was putting together picture of him for the Tree, his favorite holiday commercial came on. The Hershey Kiss one where the bells ring? He loved that commercial and would run to the tv from any room in the house when he heard it. He'd howl and sing with it! Such a personality! They all have there own little personalities. Try to remember the good times and memories. Remind yourself you did all you could and he was so so loved. He knew it too! <3

I am so sorry for your loss. RIP Hugo. I don't think you ever get over it. I still think about the pets I have lost. :(. I think we adjust and go on but we never forget.

I recently lost my cat of 18 years. We had to leave the light on for her in my laundry room. I still leave the light on at night. I just can't turn it off. I think time heals but Hugo will forever be in your heart.

I am so sorry for the loss of Hugo! ((Hugs)) I, too, just lost my Tameka a few months ago. It will take a while as I, too am still wiping my tears. It hurts so much to loose those precious little ones! My heart goes out you and your husband. R.I.P. Hugo!

When we love so deeply, I'm not sure we're ever meant to get over the loss. The pain lessens in time but it always remains, but when I think of my loved ones, the feeling that more overwhelms my heart is that of the love we shared. My husband and I talk about our little angels at the Rainbow Bridge a great deal, and we mostly celebrate the beautiful way that they touched our lives. I will always love my little girls, and as a testament to that love, we added another little Yorkie to our lives in May. We completely adore Katie, and she has helped us cope with the sadness of losing our little loves. Katie has brought the laughter back into our lives. I am so sorry for your loss.

My deepest sympathies to you and your husband on the passing of your friend and companion Hugo. This was shared by another YT member and I love the sentiment.
May the pain ease but the memories never fade.

I Haven’t Left At All
I saw you gently weeping as you looked through photographs
You paused for just a moment at one that made you laugh.
But as you turned more pages the tears began to flow
You whispered that you missed me but I want you to know;
I softly licked those stinging tears that down your cheeks did fall
I want to help you understand I haven’t left at all.
On those days that you are overcome with sorrow, pain and grief
I rest my head upon your leg to offer some relief.
When you take our walking path I’ve seen you turn around
Because I know you surely heard my paws upon the ground.
At night while you are sleeping I snuggle at your side
You stroke my fur as you touch that place where I used to lie.
You said it’s just your heart playing tricks upon your mind
But rest assured I’m really there, my spirit’s left behind.
I know your heart is hurting; it’s like an open sore
You think my life has ended and you won’t see me anymore.
But for those of us bound tight by love, death is not the curtain call;
It’s really the eternal beginning that waits for us all
So as you live your life I patiently await
For us to be together when you pass through Heaven’s gate.

I am so sorry for your loss and can certainly understand your deep sadness. I send heartfelt sympathy and hugs. I'm so sorry.

I am so sorry for your loss. Honestly, you never totally get over it; but time does help a bit.

There is an old saying that I love....
“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.”

It is so true....in time the good memories help to heal the pain of the loss. I hope that time comes soon for you...