| lisaly | 10-08-2010 03:00 PM |
I am happy that having your little Prince home with you brings you comfort. It is comforting to me to have our babies and their things around us. They are still a part of us, no matter how much time passes. I also believe that our little girls shaped who we are as people, and they are a big part of our identity. About two weeks ago, my husband first looked at the papers we received when I brought Ashley back home with us. I looked at the paper work quickly and saw that the certificate of private cremation had Ashley's name on it. It was and still is a painful time for me, so I guess I didn't look very closely. My husband normally sees every detail, but even this is something I can't believe I missed. It had Ashley's name, but under her name is a spot where it had the name of her family. When my husband looked at the certificate, he immediately saw that it had a different family name instead of ours. It upset us, but we figured it was just a mistake, and we decided to call the pet cemetery to ask them to issue a new certificate. The more I thought about it, it started to occur to me that possibly they mixed up Ashley with the other family's baby. As you can probably imagine, it upset me so, but I didn't tell my husband because I knew how upset he would be. When I reached them the next day, they of course apologized and told me that they would immediately mail out a new certificate. I was very shaken by it all, and they knew it. I told them I still would never be sure that we had our baby. They assured me that it was her, and they told me that I could open the ashes up and find the original paperwork there. We opened up the ashes once I got home from work, and we definitely have our little girl, but we were really upset by it. It was a mistake that shouldn't have happened, and I think they need to be careful with the paperwork too, but neither of us were angry. We were certainly relieved, and it was a painful experience. I thought of starting a post to warn others to check their paperwork, but I don't know how to do it without upsetting anyone. I definitely understand the feelings you have, and I do hope that you start to remember the good times a lot with your sweet Prince. I know these memories will bring you happiness and comfort you, just as it does for us when we talk about our little girls. | 