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Our little Ender is gone This past Friday, my husband and I, lost our little Ender. He was only 4 years old. It was an absolutely tragic accident, that both of us are having the hardest time dealing with....and know that we will never get over. We've been married for 9 1/2 years, and haven't been able to have children, so Ender and Valentine ARE our children in every sense of the word. My husband gave little Ender to me as a gift to keep me company while he was in law school. A year later, we got Valentine to be a companion for Ender. We love both of them more than life itself. Not only is this effecting my husband and I, but Valentine as well. It breaks our heart to watch her sit in the entrance to our living room, staring at the door, like she's waiting for Ender to come running through it. Every time we've cried because we miss him so much, she's ran and hid. I know she's hurting, because she's lost Ender too. She won't play anymore.....it's like she's just not the same without him.....we just don't know what to do. From what I've read, people recommend getting a new dog for her to have as a companion to fill that void....but I am having that hardest time convincing myself that's what needs to be done. I don't want to replace Ender, because he is absolutely irreplaceable. The thought of having him gone just breaks my heart, but I know Valentine is suffering also. What should we do for Val? |
This is all very new. I would let her grieve and give yourselves a little time. I think the path will reveal itself in a few weeks. It's hard to know what's best without being there. So sorry you lost Ender....heartbreaking.:animal-pa |
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When I lost Tuffy suddenly and I felt so bad, my son gave me a week to get another Yorkie, not to replace Tuffy, because she was irreplaceable. You will never forget her, the memories of all the love and joy she gave both will be forever in your hearts. She will always remain a part of the family. One day you'll see her again. My son knew what was best and he was right. Accidents happen in life, sometimes you ask why, but you have to remember things happen and you learn. When I got Punken Pie after Tuffy's passing, it was like having another baby to take of. I remember when my children were going up and we always had two dogs and they kept each other company. When Code 3 passed, it was difficult on our other dog. Heidi would keek checking the yard for him and was very restless. We made the decision to get another dog so our precious Heidi wouldn't be so lonely. That's when I got Tuffy. Mind you, Heidi was a German Sherpard and here I bring a little girl into our home. They had a bond like you wouldn't believe, I feel that the right decision was made. In time you and your husband will heal. My advice, add an additional baby to your family. That why God made dogs, he knew we needed them. Both of you will be in my prayers and the right decision will be made. Take Care and God Bless... Kathleen Mom To My Little Girls: Punken Pie :doghop: Breese Be Be :littleang RIP Lil Ol Tuffy :lovewings |
I am so sorry for your loss , RIP sweet Ender. I know exactly how you are feeling. Jan 9 we lost are little Minnie who was 4 soon to be five. we had also got her as a pup right after we got Mickey so they were both close in age. when she passed away. I just couldn't get over it me and hubby both cried every day for months. and poor Micky seemed so lost with out her. we did end up taking in a little rescue a Yorkie/ shih tzu mix, I didnt want another but she some how came to us and needed us and I guess we needed her too. I know Mickey didnt care much for her and she would try her best to play with him and followed him around. he would give a little growl and go lay and look out the window looking so sad. but this little rescue never gave up. if she wasn't doing silly things to make me and hubby laugh she was trying her best to pester Mickey . I think its what kept us all going. her silliness , she such a sweetheart. and she has finally won Micky over and he will play with her now but she gets a little rough and he will put her in her place. its kept him busy he didnt have time to be depressed long. me and Hubby still break down when thinking about Minnie. and I some times look at this little girl and think Minnie sent her to us. sorry for going on and on but I know what you are feeling and I'm so sorry. are rescue will never replace our Minnie but she did find her own spot in our hearts. you will some day find another that will help you and ur hubby and Valentine's hearts heal. and youll always have your wonderful memories of sweet Ender. |
I am so very, very sorry for your loss. I believe our furbabies also have a grieving period and it just takes time. Really do not have any advice, just wanted to send sympathy and hugs. |
Im sorry for your loss. |
I'm so sorry for your loss. RIP sweet Ender. |
I am so sorry for your loss of your beloved Ender. You will know when the time is right to get another baby. Everyone is different when it comes to this. |
I am so sorry for your loss. Valentine needs time to moarn just like your self and husband. It will take time. What a sad story. I guess, just like having a child you need to be strong around her and not let her see you so upset because it upset's her as well. Be strong and give her lot's of love and trying not to cry in front of her is all I can think of to do. She sees you so upset and knows something is very wrong because her brother is no longer there. I'm so sorry, |
So sorry for your loss, it has to be so sad watching your little girl grieve. I have read that they need the time to grieve just as we do. For me I had to start looking for another one to get my mind focused on something to look forward to. |
I'm so sorry for your loss... RIP sweet Ender |
My heart weeps for you all, may sweet Ender RIP. We will hold you in our thoughts and prayers. ((Gentle huggs)) |
I am so sorry. I know how you feel. I posted 3 months ago because I lost my 5 year old Roxy, and it hurts beyond belief! i can not put into wordds how much I feel your pain. beleive it or not, it DOES eventually get better. I have lost a child before, and I have lost my Roxy and i made it through both. and it is VERY tragic. Especially when it hits you suddenly. a few days after she left my husband and kids got Yoda for me, not as a replacement, but to heal me. i got a male instead of a female, and honestly it helped out (but that is just what worked for me) it took my mind off of what was going on. I mean I still cried out for her, and sometimes I still call her name, but that is life, you always will remember Ender. Yoda is the exact opposite of Roxy. there was a small part of me that felt guilty for getting a new Yorkie so soon, but honey I needed it. I was dying on the inside. |
I'm so sorry for Lost ... R.I.P Ender |
I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray you get through this tough time. RIP sweet little Ender. |
So sorry for your loss :rose: I am so sorry to hear about Ender. I know it's very painful. We lost our yorkie "Baby" after 16 years. She was also our little girl. No other dog could ever replace her but after four months we missed having the company of a sweet little yorkie and so my husband and I found Sophie and I thank God. I don't think of her as a replacement but feel it's more of a tribute to the love Baby shared with us to give a loving home to another little girl. Sophie is a sweetheart and brings us so much joy and has made her very own place in our hearts. She has helped us tremendously with our grieving process and we give her all the love she can possibly hold in her heart. I don't know what we would do without her. I think you can find the same peace we found if after your grieving has subsided a little you open your heart to another little one. I think it would really help Val, too. God Bless:rbyorkie: |
I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you all. |
I'm so sorry about your loss. Your heart will tell you when it is the best time to get another dog. In the meantime, just give Val a lot of lovin'. RIP Ender, sadly missed. :( |
My heart breaks for you. You and your husband are in my thoughts, I hope you find some peace. I don't have any advice to give to you, sorry, but I wanted to let you know that you're in my thoughts and prayers. I can't imagine losing one of my own, and yes, they are just the same as children. Give Valentine lots of extra hugs and kisses, as she's feeling the pain, too. RIP Ender:angelyork |
I am so sorry for your lose! RIP sweet Ender! |
My heart is broken in pieces reading this... Honey you will never in this world replace Ender.. but you can give a baby to Valentine to love up to... and it will happen.. I have been in your place twice.. losing two 5 year olds.. and when I see a thread like this my heart goes back to 6 years ago was the last one and a lot of me died that day...I still think of my pooh and always will.. none are like him.. but I did fall hard yet again.. I have 6 yorkies and I think with losing two so young..it has gotten me to be with as many as I have.. none would take the place of another one,.. but they sure keep you busy and make you get up in the morning... sending hugs... |
I'm so sorry for your loss. No words will ease this pain.Just know that there are so many people here that are very understanding so please post when you're having a bad day. We do understand. I have not had a yorkie pass away but I am dealing with my baby that is missing. I know that you may feel terrible guilt just thinking of getting another furbaby. Once you accept that you will never replace him but you will and can love another one in time. It will be 4 weeks this weekend that my yorkie has been missing. My mom and husband talked this over and I ended up with the most precious little girl of my dreams. She will never replace but she is helping me with this process in more ways than I could have imagined. (((hugs))) to you and your husband. My husband and I have cried many times together and yes they are like our kids. Gen |
So very sorry for your loss ... may God be with you. |
Sorry to hear about losing your precious Ender. |
I am so very sorry for your loss. I feel for you, and your little Valentine. I can say from experience, that their companions do go through a grieving process and just being there for them and giving them extra love and attention helps. How long, how it affects them, and what it takes to help them, is probably different for every furbaby and skin parents. Only you will know when and if it is a right time to add another furry love to your lives. Rest in Peace sweet little Ender |
So sorry for your loss. RIP little one. |
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