Advice after losing a puppy
 

I am turning to the wonderful YorkieTalkers for some help. I posted after Christmas about the loss of my wonderful puppy. We lost her to a horrible choking accident, and I am still (of course) devastated. I miss her horribly, and think of her constantly.

I know that this is not going to "go away", and I know that there will never be another little girl like her, but I also know that I need another puppy at some point. My other two Yorkies miss her, especially my "little old man" who is 10 and really came alive with his little puppy. The two of them were constant companions.

Those of you who have gone through this: when is the time right to adopt again? Part of me wants a puppy now, and part can't imagine starting again.

I am just so sad and heartbroken. :unlove:

I'm sorry to hear about your baby.

Your heart will tell you when it's time. When we lost Boog I swore there would never be another dog in my house but reality set in one day when I was watching a woman walk her dog and I felt bitter towards her because she still had her baby and I didn't. It was at that moment that I knew I needed to soften up and bring a new baby into our home or I never would. Some people feel a new baby helps them heal and some feel they want to wait a while. We can't tell you when the time is right for you...only you can decide that but you'll know when the time comes.

I can imagine how you feel and I'm so sorry for your loss!

There is no right or wrong time to get a new puppy. When we had to let our Mitzi go last June we got a new puppy on the very same day and never regrettet it a second.

If you don't like to start all over with a puppy again maybe you could adopt an older one from one of the many rescue organisations.

We all pray that the right fur baby is going to find you!

im so sorry for your loss, may god help you heal your broken heart.

It has to be the right time for you...that's the right time. Some of us have not waited long at all...and others wait months.

I got Ramsey within a month of my first dying. She was not a replacement...but she did occupy my mind, made me laugh, and love again.

It's funny that you wrote this today, as I was just going to write a post about the same thing. I lost my baby, and although I only had her a year, our family does not feel complete anymore. My husband was looking to find a new baby the night Sophie died, thinking that would lessen my terrible grief. I was almost upset with him for even thinking I could love another Yorkie ever again.
Of course I didn't let him buy one that night. I told him someday I might want another one, but it might take me a really long time. I am 32 years old, and I have never lost a pet in the manner I did- only a few childhood pets that had passed after I left for college from old age. So, I had no idea what my timeline would be for moving on.
Then, a strange thing happened. I am sure many of you are going to think I shouldn't have even been looking- maybe you are right. I am a stay-at-home mom, and my husband is an airline pilot, so I spend many hours alone in my house. When my husband left for his trip, the silence and loneliness was unbearable. I turned on my computer and seriously spent about 5 hours on here while my son was at school. I had no idea what I was up against! The prices, the sizes, shipping, deposits, teacup, baby doll, oh my- you are all probably laughing at (with) me right now.
I thought, now I am really stressed. Out of all of these beautiful puppies, how can I pick one that will even hold a candle to my (in my mind) perfect little lost girl. I turned my laptop off, and decided the time was not right yet.
Now for the strange thing. So, the next day-(yesterday), I got on the Dallasmorningnews.com web site. This is where I had found my baby a year ago. There were 30 ads, many from out of state, but I decided I wanted a local baby that I could go see first, just to see if the connection was there. I called only one ad, an ad offering just 2 puppies; a boy and a girl. An older lady answered, and said she only had the girl- she was twice the price that the boy had been. We started talking, and after I enquired about the pup, (she is going to be small, parents on site, apparently she "prances", she is 12 weeks old, she shares the same birthday as my Sophie did) she started my interview. I told her about our family, about my daily life, and then about Sophie's tragedy. There was a long pause, and I thought I had definitely been disqualified from this job:) Then she said, "I think you are the one that is supposed to have my baby girl." She went on to say she had received many calls, and she had not felt they had been right for her puppy. We were both in tears, and we continued to talk for half an hour. She has bred and shown Yorkies for 15 years on a very small basis. Recently, she had back-to-back back surgeries, and is in excruciating pain on a daily basis. Even through the pain, you could hear the love and pride for her dogs.
So, long story short- sorry to bore you all- I used to write for a magazine and I let the words get away from me sometimes- I am going to meet this little one today. She might not be the one, I don't know. I am going with an open mind and an open heart. I will write when I get home.
For the original poster, do what makes you happy. Don't worry about what people might think or say- I for one will totally understand if you want a new baby right now.

Im so sorry for the loss of your baby. I had a little boy who tragically died when he was just under 5 months old, I had him for 2 months and he was the sweetest baby ever. I got my 2 boys about 2 months after he died and I love my boys to pieces but its been over 3 years and I have not forgotten my precious Stuart. He is still in my heart. My heart has not healed from the loss of him after 3 years, but my boys came into my life when I needed them most, it was like they were godsent to me. The way I found them and how I went to look at them and bought them both that night (took them home a week later).

You'll know when the time is right for you to get another new pup. Something will happen to make it clear.

I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how devestating that must be
to loose such a young puppy. Make yourself happy again. Go see one
and see what happens. Of course you'll fall in love all over again.
You'll never replace the one you lost but you will bring happiness back
into your life. Go for it!

TexasKate, good luck to you today. Hope it's a match made in heaven.

I am so sory for the loss of your precious baby. I lost my darling Dixie last year after only having her 5 wonderful weeks. She got sick suddenly with congenital kidney failure. She had my heart from the second I saw her. I was devastated as was her breeder. The breeder called me a couple of weeks later and said she had a little male that I could have but I really wanted a female. She said she didn't have any small females, but the sister of the little male was going to be bigger but had a pretty face. I told her I would come look at her and when I went my heart was still breaking from losing Dixie. I took her but it took a few weeks to fall totally in love with her. I still miss Dixie, but Roxie has helped heal my heart. You will know when the time is right and each one is special in there own way. Hugs

The right time is different for differnt people, but I also think that if you have loved one dog so deeply it is likely that you will love the next one too. So why wait? Take a risk, and open your heart to all the love, joy, and fun a new furbaby can bring.

I lost my Sachi last April, and immediately put a deposit on Tiki but had to wait another 6 weeks to get her. I cried daily, and wondered if I'd ever get over the loss. But, having another little furbaby to hug and love, and who was so dependent on me, quickly turned my focus to the joy. It also helped me shift to remembering the happy times with Sachi in a new light.

You are all so wonderful. Yorkie people understand what it is to lose our little friends. Thank you for all your thoughtful replies, and I really welcome more. This is such a recent loss for me; hearing from others who have dealt with it helps.
I have always had a dog (or two or three), from the time I was born. I have never lost a puppy before. I've also been lucky enough to not ever lose a dog to an accident. This has been especially hard.
Having our two older sweet Yorkies helps, of course, but things just aren't right without our little Zani.
I so appreciate your stories of when you got another puppy. I know that for everyone the time is different; but all of your perspectives are very comforting.
Thank you.
Ginnie

Hi Ginnie,
You will know in your heart when the time is right to bring a new puupy in your home. I am very sorry of your loss. I have only lost one kitty in my life who I watched get run over by a car... He was my pride and joy. I have never forgotten him throughout the years.
Best wishes to you and your family.

I'm sorry for your loss, but your heart will tell you when it's time to get another one. Just understand that you new one can never replace the one you lost, because they all have different personalities. If you decide to look take your time, and be sure to get one you'll really be happy with.

Every person is different. when I lost mine, i cried for 3 days, then knew the only way I was going to get beyond the grief was to start looking for another one.

So if you feel the time is right, then the time is right.

I am so sorry for your loss. I is really hard because every Yorkie is so different and the one for you may not be the perfect baby for someone else. I think that you will just know when you are ready or the right on will some how find his/her way to you.